Am I the only one who can;t get a man my own age

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:11 PM GMT
    Don't worry dude, same deal.

    For some strange reason guys my age don't bite.

    Although, must admit, some guy's in their 30's and 40's are often much much hotter icon_cool.gif.
  • mizu5

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:19 PM GMT
    Ma_ct saidDon't worry dude, same deal.

    For some strange reason guys my age don't bite.

    Although, must admit, some guy's in their 30's and 40's are often much much hotter icon_cool.gif.
    Im going to say, based on how you are nearly perfect looking, its insecurity and whatnot holding back boys closer to your age.
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    Jan 03, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    mizu5 said
    Ma_ct saidDon't worry dude, same deal.

    For some strange reason guys my age don't bite.

    Although, must admit, some guy's in their 30's and 40's are often much much hotter icon_cool.gif.
    Im going to say, based on how you are nearly perfect looking, its insecurity and whatnot holding back boys closer to your age.

    Yeah quite true. You being muscular and all which is not very common among us young guys. I mean being so muscular. So people may be bit insecure in approaching you. I know its not your problem.
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    Jan 03, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    RoccoO said[quote]...Whereas you have no clue what the next 25-30 has in store for you.... you haven't the faintest idea what you'll look like in those upcoming 25-30 years.. It's not as far off into the future as you may think!!! Just sayin'.....


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    Jan 03, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet saidI seriously don't know what my deal is. I like older men as well as men my own age, but it's so easier to come onto an older man and when I date younger i find myself insecure and intimidated. I kno the one will be closer to my own age, so what do I do?


    date older men until you get older and then you can start dating younger.
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    Jan 03, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    RoccoO said[quote]...Whereas you have no clue what the next 25-30 has in store for you.... you haven't the faintest idea what you'll look like in those upcoming 25-30 years.. It's not as far off into the future as you may think!!! Just sayin'.....


    That ole devil...Time.

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    I only seem to attract younger.

    (That's not a complaint.)

    But then again, there aren't many who are older. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 03, 2013 6:55 PM GMT
    I think things get easier when you reach your 30's. I love dating guys in their 30's or early 40's. They're mature, professional, and old enough to have lived an interesting life.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    I as well, only seem to attract older men (30+) whereas guys my own age don't seem to have the slightest interest in me whatsoever.
    It does get me down at times as I wonder what is wrong with me but at the same time, after spending a lot time discovering who I am, I have come to realize that a lot of my interests contrast from the typical young guy so I guess it's appropriate to say that I am not too surprised. lol
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    Jan 03, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    Shagglot said
    mizu5 saidIm going to say, based on how you are nearly perfect looking, its insecurity and whatnot holding back boys closer to your age.

    Yeah quite true. You being muscular and all which is not very common among us young guys. I mean being so muscular. So people may be bit insecure in approaching you. I know its not your problem.


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    Thanks guys, means a lot as I was rejected recently icon_biggrin.gif.

    Confidence boost!

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    Jan 03, 2013 7:16 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidLiving in Palm Springs area, I see a lot of older guys, who thought they were hot stuff when they were younger, and felt they didn't have to improve anything other than their bodies. Well, now in their 60s they are usually single and working as clerks at Starbucks, waiters or greaters and have roommates. Be careful out there it gets nasty when you age and haven't had a plan earlier in life.

    Very true. I've seen those as well as plenty that only worked on a career and/or financial success but neglected their bodies. I'd say it is important to work on all 3: a satisfying career, being financially secure and physically well taken care of yourself. Serves anyone well in later years. Things don't get automatically better as one ages. Actually it can get harder, especially physically.

    I've noticed that younger guys are more likely to be attracted to someone physically. If you are good looking and hot (muscular), the more they are likely will be interested. Older guys may look at that but also look for other personality attributes like loyalty, honesty..etc..

    Having said that there are also plenty of younger guys that are very mature and adult in the head as well as plenty older guys that are flakey, dizzy queens.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jan 03, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI can't speak for older men since I am not one. But it seems that many of them have matured beyond the age of caring about body type, ethnicity, and perfection in general. Younger guys want it all. Most of us don't have it all. So we find ourselves uncomfortable around each other. Afraid to screw up. Afraid to be ourselves. Afraid to look the way we do.

    It's pathetic. Fuck younger guys.....that's all they are good for anyway :/


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  • mindblank

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    Jan 03, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    I am the exact same. I know that I must be doing something wrong, but I don't know what it is. Maybe it's the way I look. Maybe it is my mental subconscious beliefs. To my conscious knowledge it appears that no guys my age are remotely interested in me, but I know it must go deeper than just that and essentially must come from me, in some way.

    Do you have any close friends who know you well, that would be able to give a better opinion than strangers on a website like this?
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    Jan 03, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Ma_ct said...

    Thanks guys, means a lot as I was rejected recently icon_biggrin.gif.
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    The sooner you get used to it, the less it stings. From my experience (and observations of others) It's a life long thing. It's just personal. icon_lol.gif

    We just have to get back up, get back on, and keep going.
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    Jan 03, 2013 7:34 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]TheBizMan said[/cite]I can't speak for older men since I am not one. But it seems that many of them have matured beyond the age of caring about body type, ethnicity, and perfection in general. Younger guys want it all. Most of us don't have it all. So we find ourselves uncomfortable around each other. Afraid to screw up. Afraid to be ourselves. Afraid to look the way we do.
    It's pathetic./[/quote



    good observation indeed.

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    Jan 03, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    The sooner you get used to it, the less it stings. From my experience (and observations of others) It's a life long thing. It's just personal
    We just have to get back up, get back on, and keep going.

    Yeah very true. Its not like all the hot guys you ogle will reciprocate with similar kind of feeling towards you. So better get used to it.
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    Jan 03, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    I like guys around my age, i dont know why im really that shallow sometimes that im attracted only to pretty boys that mostly dont give a shit about me....when i tell them about a relationship they run away ...and honestly im not that old im like 20....oke 21....but still i cant attract guy that i feel attracted to...its stupid...and the ones i do attract end up hurting me ...and guess who gets a broken heart? icon_smile.gif....so yea your not alone bro....try to change something that makes you feel better about yourself it will help you take of the stress and insecurity...(im trying to as well)icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 03, 2013 8:19 PM GMT
    Even without factoring in that there are millions more gay men older than you than the same age, I'd imagine it's much easier for most to date older than younger. That being said, certain gay men find it easier to date younger.
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    Jan 03, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said Most of us don't have it all. So we find ourselves uncomfortable around each other. Afraid to screw up. Afraid to be ourselves. Afraid to look the way we do.


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    I used to be so scared of dating until I realize that he's definetly not the one for me if I have to pretend to have traits or be someone I'm not.
    Cliché if you want, but I'll rather keep looking for someone who loves me for who I am.

  • Jan 03, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    I lOVE younger guys...And they seem to be attracted to this daddy.. We have the hottest sex you can imagine! But if I want a relationship.. I prefer someone within 10 years of my age.
  • whytehot

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    Jan 03, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    Young single guys are single because they think they deserve better.

    Old single guys are single because the good ones have already found each other.

  • Jan 03, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    ouch!

  • Jan 03, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    Sorry. That's what they call me.. I was horrified at first but I've embraced the name now... Wait a few years, you'll understand. lol

  • Jan 03, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    lol

    I've gotten laid more since I got grey hair and turned 40 then in the 30 years before that!
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    Jan 03, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    I've been called a lot of things, but never "daddy!"