How soon do you get over a break-up?

  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:23 AM GMT
    My 3 year relationship ended on black friday of 2012. I was over it after two weeks. Yes there were lingering feelings but it was for the physical stuff like cuddling and having a nice ass to grab. With every relationship, it can be complicated, as is my story. Long story short I was able to get over it quickly after all the truths came out.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    camfer saidI think the formula is 1 - 3 days for each month you were together. So if you're together a month, get over him in 1 - 3 days. If you were with him a year, get over him in 12 - 36 days. If you were with him 15 years, that's 6 months to a year and a half.


    thats the dumbest i have ever heard... we were together for 14 mon, and it took me almost the same amount of time to get over him...
  • NMGUY505

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:28 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    huhwhat saidWhen you LOVE someone, you never get over them. Ever. But you move on eventually.


    This.


    Ditto . . . though rock or metal helps too icon_cool.gif





  • AllAmericanJo...

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:43 AM GMT
    NMGUY505 said
    TroyAthlete said
    huhwhat saidWhen you LOVE someone, you never get over them. Ever. But you move on eventually.


    This.


    Ditto . . . though rock or metal helps too


    Thanks for the reminder, although I'm not advanced enough for anything but pop-metal. I'm about to breakup with my employer and I forgot how rock helps when you're sick of something. This song got me through senior year of high school once I checked out mentally -- about to go into rotation to and from work haha:

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    Stuttershock saidEveryone recovers from a breakup at different paces, there is no point beating yourself up because you are not sticking to a schedule.
    So as long as you are moving forward you're fine.
    Right. It depends on many factors. I'd suggest not dwelling over it (which I am totally guilty of!)

    Love in the past is a memory
    Love in the future is a fantasy
    Love in present is here and now
    Live in the present
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:59 AM GMT
    camfer saidI think the formula is 1 - 3 days for each month you were together. So if you're together a month, get over him in 1 - 3 days. If you were with him a year, get over him in 12 - 36 days. If you were with him 15 years, that's 6 months to a year and a half.


    The 1-3 days [whining, bitching, crying, etc.] for each month together formula is very appropriate for one year or less - a time frame that I didn't address in my previous post - so thanks for sharing that!
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    Jan 10, 2013 12:03 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidWhen you LOVE someone, you never get over them. Ever. But you move on eventually.
    That's the point, I wouldn't like to move onto the next relationship with the baggage of the previous one.
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    Jan 13, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    Amarula saidMy 3 year relationship ended over 6months ago and its being so hard to let go and move on, i dont even enjoy casual hook ups and one night stands anymore....im no longer in love but i dont know whats wrong, is this normal or is there a break up formula.
    How soon did you get over your ex?


    aww, same with me. Broke up 6 months ago after 3 years.
    Anyway, just enjoy yourself, throw things that would make you remember him. Get busy, meet and mingle with new people...

    I got over it about 3 to 4 months. But then, we're still friends now. Better that way I guess. And I get over it already... ;)