What is living in a big city like?

  • roadbikeRob

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    Jan 12, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidI prefer mid-sized cities. I don't like how impersonal bigger cities can be. Also, the rats and the constant fighting for parking spots/waiting for public transportation gets old.
    That is a good, valid point. Small and medium sized cities tend to be easier and more affordable than big cities. They are also quite diverse as well.
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    Jan 12, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    Where do you live?: Downtown Toronto

    What's it like?: I'm in the heart of downtown, so as you can imagine it is very vibrant, and you'll always see people outside at all hours of the night. You'll find many 24-hour food joints, 24-hour grocery stores, and there are bars, clubs, and entertainment literally within 5 minutes walking. There is no need for a car and actually a hassle and complete waste of money. If you need transit, there are streetcars at every corner and a subway minutes away from each other. Or, just grab a taxi as they are in herds here. Living downtown you will 95% be living in a high-rise condo, and it has it's perks - concierge, gym, pool, sauna, steam room, theatre etc. As with any big city, there are the good neighbourhoods, and the sketchy ones. Obviously, avoid the sketchy ones. There is nothing to do in them anyways unless you're looking for a blowjob behind an alley (by both a female OR male prostitute). Also, there is a gay village up here, something I'm assuming small towns don't have. Save up your money now, because downtown living is not cheap (tons of restaurants, stores, businesses around to find a job), but well worth it for your sanity and well-being, especially as a gay man.

    Do you enjoy it?: Very much so and I wouldn't live anywhere but downtown in a big city. You will never find one type of person and it will most likely be a culture shock for someone in a small city, but you will adapt. If you're walking downtown streets between the hours of 10am-9pm (and later on weekends), especially during rush hour, streets will be annoying to walk, and if you're like me who likes to walk at a fast pace and shove these bitches out ma way when I need to get somewhere, you'll get annoyed and frustrated with people who have no sense of direction. That's what I don't enjoy about downtown living. However, to have the convenience of my university being a 5 minute walk from my condo, 2 grocery stores seconds from my building, living with a friend and having friends all nearby, and although at a premium, seeing the bright lights from the 32nd floor, and many others I can't name, I've already sold myself. Oh and if you open up Grindr from where I live, you'll find guys extremely close, many cases in the same building as you - hook-ups or friendship, you'll meet people. Overall though, it's the best decision I've made to move down here and I wouldn't have it any other way.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    A melting pot of diversity, enriched by mulitple levels culture, class and ideas of what life is. Don't sit back and watch, join the circus!
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    Thanks for taking the time to respond everyone. Living in a big city does seem extremely exciting. I would like to spend just a week in one by myself to get the feel of it. Seeing different cultures, activities, and constant things to do just excite me big time!

    Now taking applications to let me stay with an RJ'er for a week or two in the next year (I have vacation hours to use at work).

    Pretty serious by the way.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:25 PM GMT
    Living in the city is the only way to go. I was born and raised in downtown Toronto and I would never leave it for the suburbs, not in a million years.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    City living is amazing. I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world. As for your concern about driving, why would you want to drive? I don't even own a car here in Chicago. Public transit takes me everywhere I want to go faster and easier than driving a car.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:28 PM GMT
    UIUCIllini23 saidCity living is amazing. I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world. As for your concern about driving, why would you want to drive? I don't even own a car here in Chicago. Public transit takes me everywhere I want to go faster and easier than driving a car.


    A car is necessary if you leave the city on the weekends, but during the week, it's really not a necessity.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
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    UIUCIllini23 saidCity living is amazing. I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world. As for your concern about driving, why would you want to drive? I don't even own a car here in Chicago. Public transit takes me everywhere I want to go faster and easier than driving a car.


    A car is necessary if you leave the city on the weekends, but during the week, it's really not a necessity.


    Get a zipcar account if you want to leave on the weekends, or in the case of Chicago, take the Metra out to the burbs. No car ownership necessary. It's more of a pain to pay for insurance, gas, oil changes, car payments, parking, deal with parking restrictions when plows are removing snow, etc etc. Everyone always talks about how expensive city living is, but in reality if you ditch the car and subtract all those costs from your monthly budget, you'll realize that city life is pretty competitive financially with suburban life. The whole notion of urban life is that all your needs are concentrated in a small geographic area so that you can access goods, services, people, entertainment, etc on foot or via public transit. Individual vehicles are the antithesis to urban life.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    I think it's so cute u asked this question. It's adorable really.

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    cities are filthy places filled with bums, lots of minorities, and just an overwhelming sense of destitution.

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    Jan 12, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    Import saidI think it's so cute u asked this question. It's adorable really.

    Big city slicker men are gorg, hun! lemme tell u. Big penises, lots of hot gay sex, u name it! Just waiting for that tight little country boy hole. They refer to ppl like u as "fresh meat" lol


    jk,.


    cities are filthy places filled with bums, lots of minorities, and just an overwhelming sense of destitution.

    enjoy! icon_smile.gif)))))))



    HAHAHAHA! I lol'd big time at this one. Thanks for that, Import.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Jan 12, 2013 6:57 PM GMT
    Just_Tom saidI live in Chicago. Here's the secret about living in a big city: all of us who do make our own little village and shut out a large part of the city. It's not intentional, it's just the only way to deal with the enormity of everything that's happening.


    I think that's one way to cope, but I wouldn't recommend this "close out" method. And I would argue that it is very much intentional, as human beings are naturally curious animals. A major advantage to living in a big city is the opportunity to see something new. You will find your niche of friends, activities, and favorite places. Always pepper your life with things outside of those.

    Driving can be a bitch. I live in NYC where the subway is the primary mode of transport for city-dwellers/workers. If driving is a major concern to you, look for places that have great public transportation systems.

    Lastly, don't worry about the pace. You'll be surprised how much you can adapt to. I would recommend taking an international trip before you move. You're forced to navigate and adjust in a foreign country... if you can do it there, you can do it here. Good luck!
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    I'm in Denver, which may or may not quality as a big city. It's home to about 3 million people, and traffic can really suck. But it's a fantastic city. The mountains are minutes away if you want some quiet and solitude. Parks and trails are plentiful, it's a common stop for bands on tour (or some theatre, if you're into that - I'm not) and we've got all major sports. icon_biggrin.gif

    The thing about big cities is you don't necessarily experience the city in its entirety most of the time. I spend 90% of my time within an area that probably ends up being 4 square miles. The novelty of the sights and surroundings starts to wear off, and you don't spend as much time taking it all in. You start to ignore things and just focus on what's important or interesting. For example, if you go to NYC, the visitors tend to be the ones looking up at the skyscrapers. Those who live there are just going about their day. You slip into anonymity because most people don't and won't ever know each other.

    That being said, there is a much greater energy or vibe present in big cities. There's always a new place to explore, a new restaurant to try, etc. If you like to experience new things, it can be a nice way to keep things fresh. You could also slip into a routine by finding the stores, restaurants, and parks you like and sticking to those. Then you may come to recognize some of the regulars, staff, etc. They become your community, which may help you not feel as overwhelmed.
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    I've lived in a lot of "big" cities: Toronto, Philadelphia, Boston, etc.

    The thing I liked about city living is that there's easy access to public transit, tons of restaurants to choose from during all times of the day, you are surrounded by well-dressed young people, etc...

    The thing I dislike about the "big" city is the horrendous traffic, ridiculously high rent, no cheap grocery stores for miles around, etc...
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    people are better looking, in better shape
    people are more sophisticated, have more class
    food is better
    nightlife is better
    cultural events, concerts come to you instead of you going to them
    a lot less kids around
    noisy
    everyone is in a hurry and in a bad mood, stressed out
    more prone to terrorist attack
    smells bad a lot of times due to concentration of sewage lines which back up a lot and trash everywhere
    lots of bums, with urine and feces on the sidewalks
    people are generally older

    i lived in a big city from 18-29 and now i live in a mid sized city and i prefer it here now. i think the big city attracts more of the artsy hipstery tattooed type guys which i'm not into, and a more suburban mid sized city has a lot of the jock/ frat/ pretty boy/ clean cut types which i am totally into. it's also more affordable here, people are less stressed. but there are things i miss about the city, like the fact that there is always great energy going on just walking outside and you really get caught up in it.
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    Jan 12, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    Massive trouble worth taking. I'm all for getting lost in the seas of innumerable faces.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jan 15, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    Just_Tom saidI live in Chicago. Here's the secret about living in a big city: all of us who do make our own little village and shut out a large part of the city. It's not intentional, it's just the only way to deal with the enormity of everything that's happening.
    Chicago is one big, major city that I would gladly move to from Buffalo. It is an awesome city with so much to do and a tremendous amount of cultural and ethnic diversity. If I lived in Chicago, I would not just isolate myself in one neighborhood or little village I would try to explore as much of the city as possible with the exception of the notorious public housing projects.
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    Jan 15, 2013 6:49 PM GMT
    Yeah, Las Vegas is not a city. It's kind of a pimple. America has two cities and a bunch of big towns.