Are You cheater or quiter?....how do You solve hard problems in relationship.

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    Jan 29, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    ....wait so.... just so we're straight (heh..heh)

    there are other people who don't cheat?icon_eek.gif

    seriously though, cuz im trying to understand why would somebody cheat and still continue with a relationship? and is it true if somebody cheats once there bound to do it again?
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    Jan 29, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    I'm a horndog and I've fucked everything that moved, but I'd be suicidal if I found a lover in bed with another guy.
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    Jan 29, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    If you know that you're incapable of monogamy, why enter into a "closed" relationship to begin with?
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    Feb 04, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    But are people really incapable of monogamy? Or is that simply a cop-out?
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    Feb 04, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
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    tmac saidmy bf and I talk and more importantly LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Be careful. I've had friends start down that path.


    Faces of Listen. NOT EVEN ONCE!!!
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    Feb 04, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    I fight for relationships that my other half is willing to fight for too.
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    Feb 04, 2013 6:09 PM GMT
    In a Monogamous relationship, cheating is NEVER an option.
    And so is quitting. Both guys need to really be honest and talk it out, work on their differences and needs.
    In my case, I would never cheat, and I would never quit.
    Love is Worth fighting for.
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    Feb 04, 2013 6:10 PM GMT
    CuriousOne saidI fight for relationships that my other half is willing to fight for too.


    EXACTLY.
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    Feb 06, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    if anything quitting because you think the other is cheating sounds logical...
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    Feb 06, 2013 2:14 PM GMT
    ignorance is bliss? icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Feb 06, 2013 5:04 PM GMT
    I knew there was a reason I thought highly of you.

    msuNtx said

    Or they are 100% honest. Tough battle but it can be done.
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    Feb 06, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    You don't have to a cheater OR a quiter. You can just work through your problems before it comes to that....
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    Feb 06, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    Arcturian saidI´ve never cheated in my life - I always quit before I had a chance. Sometimes I´m not sure, if it is a happy way of life, but I can´t waste the time with someone I respect so little that I could cheat on him. I find it unfair to him and much more to me. But I know couple where it works. They are not open relationships officialy, they cheat, cover to each other. But they are stable for years. But can two guys be realy happy in this type of relationship? Not the open one. The covered cheating one...


    Some guys who are in open relationships have an agreement not to talk about outside affairs. They prefer to NOT know. Is this the case with your friends?

    I find it hard to believe that actual cheating (being dishonest) would still provide happiness, because cheating should cause inherent lack of trust, by definition. Thus, inherent unhappiness. (Unless one's mind is twisted in such a way that they gain satisfaction from a lack of trust... I'm sure it's possible).

    Personally, I like non-monogamous scenarios (At least very long term) because i gain pleasure and satisfaction from knowing my partner can spread his love beyond me. And me the same.
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    Feb 07, 2013 12:18 AM GMT
    tmac saidmy bf and I talk and more importantly LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    Boom.
    Talk it out then hug it out, brah.