globetrotter2012 saidWhat's your experiences been fellas?
Met one man last night seemed ok, didn't work out, but he told me he had sex with a 12 year old guy from Cambodia I thought that was sick, he's said it was a joke when I challenged him but don't believe him, what a sick fucker.
Sure all experiences are like that, but guess it's great to go in bars and places to meet instead of the internet.
omg lol okay, i've met dozens of guys online, and more than half of them made lousy dates, but they certainly did not say things like "i had sex with a 12 year old where child rape is well within the legal boundaries".
Okay, meeting people online is a mixed bag of awesome and absolutely awful - just like it is anywhere else. You can meet plenty of shitty people at a bar, at a cafe, at school, at work, etc.. and also online. It is just harder to forget the people you've met online who were shitty because, chances are, you've probably talked to them for a bit and established some level of connection before meeting them. They certainly aren't complete "strangers" to you by the time you meet them, so they are less disposable in your memory bank than random strangers you run into in other environments.
Many people argue that online dating is for people who are seriously insecure and have social malfunctions that rendered them incapable of socializing in a "real world". This no longer applies anymore because nowadays, even the guys who are not considered to have either of those two traits use online dating system like POF + Grindr (don't lie homos, I KNOW you have it on your phone! lols). Another benefit to online dating other than its appeal to people who are typically too damn shy to say hi to random strangers is the pure ease of it that both extroverts and introverts can enjoy. With sections like "About Me" conveniently located on the profiles of users of these online dating tools, people can - theoretically speaking - filter people not just based on looks, but also on their personality/interest/career/etc.
Then there is also another thing that we all must admit to - all humans are insecure beings, to a different extent but insecure nonetheless. As humans, we don't like being disappointed - worse, we don't like being wrong. It hurts us, and the pain makes it difficult for us to make the same mistake, but also to take the same risk that might be necessary for us to get what we want. And online dating tools, assuming that their theories can be readily proven in real life, definitely do accomodate that part of our nature.
I am not going to lie; well over half of the guys I've met online have been downright dreadful. They are in the list among hobos, Jehova's Witness, some other religious freaks, disgustingly obese people, etc. that I would just filter out of the sight as a pathetic pretention that I live in this perfect world where these unsightly people have become obsolete. But then the guys on the other end of the spectrum who have been better than not awful - they were/are among the most awesome people I've ever met! I still can't forget the night that I met about 12 RJers - most of whom lived in Toronto - and how amazing it turned out. These guys made me feel at home, and we hung out on a regular basis after that first meetup.
My advice is, be open minded. If you are at a time of your life where relationship building is among the top in your list of priorities, the best way to meet that priority is to make yourself available as much as possible. Sign yourself up on a few of these online dating websites that are NOT manhunt, adam4adam - you get where i'm going. Sign up for volunteer opportunities in gay community, join a sports team for gay guys - there are lots of options available, especially if you live in a city that is relatively gay-friendly.