"I'd be friends with a poz guy..."

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    Apr 20, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    Renk saidMaybe I was reading too much into this but to have someone say they would be willing to be friends with a guy that was HIV+ makes it sound like they aren't already friends with someone that has HIV. I'm just curious why there is this assumption out there that a person with HIV is someone you don't know... just an odd way of seeing the world.

    WILLING to be friends? Like it should be an effort, a sacrifice? WTF???

    I have lots of poz friends. So many friends overall that I can't even remember who are poz and who are not, that my husband sometimes has to remind me. It means that little to me. Unless the poz guy mentions it, because it matters to him due to health issues, and I respect that, it's really none of my business, not something I think about when I think of him. HIV is not an identifier for me.

    My poz friends can't infect me, so why would this be a personal issue for me, that would impact on our friendship? I fail to see the relevance.

    Naturally I would be sensitive to a medical condition that's affecting them, that they might talk about with me, that concerns them. But HIV as a condition of friendship? I simply cannot conceive this proposition. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 22, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    Roguewave said
    nevz saidPrivilege of being HIV neg


    I know he's SO lucky. I. Think it's just super!


    This made me spit my juice! icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 22, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    I'll be friends with any one.
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    Apr 23, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    Most of the comments on this thread would not inspire a +HIV person to be open about their status. It would be easier to not ask and not tell to avoid societies judgements and bias treatment.

    I am +HIV, and quite frankly its part of my life but it doesn't define me. I find myself managing other peoples insecurities and fears while not trying to be consumed by it myself. its been a healthy 10 years, no meds. You would not know unless I told you. I wish there were more open and understanding gay men that converse and eliminate the stigmas.
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    Apr 23, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    musclefetish1 saidI am friends with a +poz guy. Actually he's been my best friend for over 10 yrs now. He's been pos for the past 3 yrs.
    I'll tell you....the only time I was nervous about it was when we were hiking 2 yrs back, and he took a nasty tumble. Blood everywhere....broken bone....bleh. Helped him clean up and bandaged him. He was more nervous about the amount of his blood on me, than I was. We both had scratches and cuts from the hike already.
    Even though 2 yrs have passed, every 6 mos., like clockwork, he makes me go get tested. icon_lol.gif He's my best friend! icon_cool.gificon_redface.gificon_biggrin.gif

    Tristan


    THIS!!!!! +1
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    Jun 15, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    COLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HERETexas 24 has it right!