What have you learned from past relationships?

  • HottJoe

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    Feb 12, 2013 5:25 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    HottJoe saidI need a man who likes to fuck often and isn't going to withhold sex.... Unfortunately I didn't learn my lesson, became my bf is all like, we can't do it every day, and I'm like, icon_evil.gif

    Be careful. That's what finally ended one of my LTRs.


    Yeah, I wouldn't want that... I've talked to a lot of guys who say they want sex more often than their bf does. Some are in open relationships, others are not. They usually all say the same thing. They love their man.

    I'm actually lucky because when we have sex I'm sure it couldn't be better with anyone else. It's perfect and that's why I want it more often!!

    So, yes, I'll try to be careful.icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:27 AM GMT
    ssguy69 saidI have full-on determination to date someone who is 180 degrees to the type of guys I've dated before.

    It was a big wake up call for me to see how I kept attracting the same type.




    archon said

    just listen to your intuition, and you can never do wrong, if you want a new relationship why you got to wait, don't let the world create for you, you create for it, go out tomorrow wit the intention and you will find it.



    @Archon - Marry me! You are wise beyond your young years.

    Intuition will guide us. However be mindful of our focus and the energy we send out as we will attract the same to us (e.g., if you think guys will always cheat even though you don't want them to, guess what you're going to get?)



    you are very right, your thought is like a magnet, you will always attract what you think and feel.
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:28 AM GMT
    1. Don't become friends too quickly, especially if you are the dumpee.
    2. Seeing your ex once a week is not a break up
    3. Becoming friends with your ex can seem like a civilized thing to do, but ask yourself, do you really need another friend?
    4. Don't compare your ex's to your current bf if your ex is significantly older
    5. Everyone seems great when they are in "dating mode".
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:28 AM GMT
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    just listen to your intuition, and you can never do wrong, if you want a new relationship why you got to wait, don't let the world create for you, you create for it, go out tomorrow wit the intention and you will find it.

    I'm not ready for stepping out anytime soon, but when I'm good I'll be ready. Have to start in areas more relevant first.


    whenever you feel like you are readyicon_smile.gif but it only takes a second to fix something(^_^)

    I'll remember that. Think I'll take a page from the heartbreak and go with some who is going where I'm going, not a champion of the kinds of places I've been.


    forget about where you been, you learned your lesson, now go somewhere new.
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    * Pick your battles (Don't sweat the small stuff).

    * Choose someone who doesn't need to be changed (They will change or improve ONLY if they want to).

    * Look for the good in people (Live and let live).
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    archon said
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    just listen to your intuition, and you can never do wrong, if you want a new relationship why you got to wait, don't let the world create for you, you create for it, go out tomorrow wit the intention and you will find it.

    I'm not ready for stepping out anytime soon, but when I'm good I'll be ready. Have to start in areas more relevant first.


    whenever you feel like you are readyicon_smile.gif but it only takes a second to fix something(^_^)

    I'll remember that. Think I'll take a page from the heartbreak and go with some who is going where I'm going, not a champion of the kinds of places I've been.


    forget about where you been, you learned your lesson, now go somewhere new.

    You'll be happy you were kind to me in my shell mode. Cause this Phoenix also rises. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    I was a real douche to a guy I went out with for almost a year. I realized long after we broke up that the reason for my behavior was his family. I hated them except his dad who was kind enough to show me respect. So, I took out my frustration on my ex. Today, he's done with me and refuses to acknowledge my existence. My loss, not his.

    Moral of this story - if something is bothering you during your relationship, tell him! Be open and honest no matter how much it hurts!
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    Feb 12, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    JRaRJ_2694 said
    archon said
    just listen to your intuition, and you can never do wrong, if you want a new relationship why you got to wait, don't let the world create for you, you create for it, go out tomorrow wit the intention and you will find it.

    I'm not ready for stepping out anytime soon, but when I'm good I'll be ready. Have to start in areas more relevant first.


    whenever you feel like you are readyicon_smile.gif but it only takes a second to fix something(^_^)

    I'll remember that. Think I'll take a page from the heartbreak and go with some who is going where I'm going, not a champion of the kinds of places I've been.


    forget about where you been, you learned your lesson, now go somewhere new.

    You'll be happy you were kind to me in my shell mode. Cause this Phoenix also rises. icon_smile.gif


    tehehe i want to see the phoenix rise from the ashes.
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    Feb 12, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    Maybe I need to be more carefree and less intense. I think that's partly why I've not been successful in relationships lately. I'm worried I won't find the right guy because he'll be too laid back but then again do am I lying to myself (or to another guy if I'm not open with my intensity?) questions. I really wish my fiance was here so I could ask him. Trying to move on and it's hard when I can't seem to figure out what made us so successful. RIP.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:01 AM GMT
    Trust your instincts, trust your instincts, trust your instincts. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    archon said
    tehehe i want to see the phoenix rise from the ashes.

    So do I... icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:03 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidTrust your instincts, trust your instincts, trust your instincts. icon_wink.gif

    Like I don't, but some bitches be crazy!
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    I learned you can have the best attitude and intentions but shit will happen regardless without good honest communication,steady sex,stable incomes on both ends, still doing what you like and not giving up for a guy, staying in shape. icon_neutral.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_redface.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    I've learned from past relationships that desperation is a really unattractive attribute.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:16 AM GMT
    Chuckles777 saidI learned you can have the best attitude and intentions but shit will happen regardless without good honest communication,steady sex,stable incomes on both ends, still doing what you like and not giving up for a guy, staying in shape. icon_neutral.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_redface.gif

    Similar experiences but one left for money, the other for more adventure, still another for my lack of stability.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 12, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    theantijock saidMy first 10-year guy was a few years older than me. My second 10-year guy was nearly 10 years older than me. I buried both.

    I learned to go after someone younger than me. I'm told they'll last longer.

    Doesn't always work. My first partner was only 3 years older but I'm now 12 years older than he was when he died. My last partner was 10 years younger than I and he died over two years ago. Just sayn' none of us know how much time we have.

    As for lessons learned: It is possible for two men to be totally in love with one another and be totally wrong for one another. Beyond drama lies tragedy. But even so, it was worth it and I'd probably do it again.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    I've learned too much to post in a thread.

    I've learned that there is always something new to learn.

    I've learned that as much as I think I may like or love someone, not everyone is right for me, and I'm not right for everyone.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:38 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI've learned that if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any farther than my own backyard, 'cause if it isn't there, then I never really lost it in the first place.


    Reported for plagiarism.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:39 AM GMT
    Neight learned that closeted guys are too much for him to handle.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:39 AM GMT
    As for myself, I've learned that love is like a wonderful stage play. You have to build a character, write a script and then put on a show to ultimately get what you want for your own personal agenda.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:41 AM GMT
    I learned that even though he loved me very much, he can still end up marrying a girl to satisfy his parents.
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    Feb 12, 2013 8:14 AM GMT
    That you should never, ever settle for second best.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    That gay guys are like chickenpox.
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    Feb 12, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidThat gay guys are like chickenpox.


    An infectuous viral disease that lays you low and hurts like hell, but you get finally over it and live your life, only to have it reemerge when you're old or stressed with totally different symptoms?
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 12, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
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    DOMINUS saidThat gay guys are like chickenpox.


    An infectuous viral disease that lays you low and hurts like hell, but you get finally over it and live your life, only to have it reemerge when you're old or stressed with totally different symptoms?


    That's not just a fly by night relationship; that's a marriage!icon_lol.gif