Looks like noob question, but isn`t.What is activ and what passiv?

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    Sep 04, 2007 10:08 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    I know have a little problem that inspired my thread here. Normally the thought of Active and Passive is pretty easy. But what happens if the big muscle guy is passive and the Normal guy activ? IN bed its easy, but then with the cozy stuff it gets complicated. Does it matter if the act or the pas make the first moves, who has to lead the way, who lies on whos shoulder. Or are that things that you should just let happen?

    So what do you guys think?
  • GQjock

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    Sep 04, 2007 10:42 PM GMT
    It's all bets off til the time for the "deed"
    it don't matter much who initiates what or
    who does what until the active becomes Active and the passive becomes Passive
    and btw... don't get into the looks of it
    sometimes the biggest muscle guy is a great bottom and the twinkiest twink can be a great top

    it's what makes the gay world go round
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    Oct 14, 2007 11:48 PM GMT
    Alright, here's the vocabulary lesson.

    Top and bottom are physical sex roles. It's very easy to know which you are. By active, most people mean dominant, and by passive, most people mean submissive. That's about who controls the action. A bottom can control the action just as well as a top can.. sometimes better. When some people say active, they mean aggressive, and when they say passive, they mean calm. I can give orders and stay as calm as a guru, and I've been with guys who do whatever I say but are total animals.

    I'm into very well defined roles, but a lot of people aren't like that. Do what makes you happy, and talk a lot with whoever you're with to figure out what works.

    Happy hunting!