The more muscular you are the more attention you get ( to a certain degree )

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    Apr 27, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    Yes, more attractive people get more attention.
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    Apr 27, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    I'll probably get flamed for this, so I emphasize this is just my own "research" icon_cool.gif, but in my experience there is (on average) an inverse relationship between having big muscles and being good in bed. I wonder why.
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    Apr 27, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    As numerous people have noted, attractive people will obviously get more attention.

    On this site many (most?) people's definition of attractive includes huge muscles. In my experience of the general population, however, both gay men and straight women say that their ideal partner's build would be toned/athletic. People definitely like muscles, but the body building level of muscular development seems not to increase your level of attractiveness beyond that of someone with a lean and toned body.

    If you're already fit and good looking, my guess is that being confident and interesting will increase the amount of attention you get vastly more than continuing to build muscle alone.

    Individual tastes will, of course, differ.
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    Apr 27, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    charlitos saidYou don't walk around shirtless, holding your breath while flexin and beheaded in real life, just saying.


    I do at the beach....


    I look like this all the time...icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
    I'm surprised that big guys would get discriminated against since a big majority (in the Gay world) seem to love them. So I'm sure the positive out numbers the negative.

    And my theory on how guys would want a bodybuilder type guy has to play with the net at times (Fitness/bodybuilder magazines too). Especially on the gay hookup sites, you are more prone to seeing these types of guys so if you already liked tone muscle and you started seeing these kinds of guys, it adds to the list sort of speak.

    But for real, if the guy is getting more confidence and self acceptance from being muscular & fit, then that's really good for them I think. I would just hope they didn't get an inflated ego from all the attention they receive because no one likes self-absorbed people. Well, some do but I think a relationship with someone like that would be hard to manage.

    chuckystudWhat's more interesting is the skinny guys who lash out at someone very built. I understand that it's projection, but, you think folks would be above it. They aren't.


    That isn't really common, at least in my experience. I do think it would be kind of unfair to assume that a skinny gay male would lash out at a built guy because he isn't himself. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but I do know would automatically assume that.
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    This is accurate to be quite honest.
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    Let's just put it this way....


    I would let a bodybuilder fuck me, but I don't think I would date him....
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidLet's just put it this way.


    I would let a bodybuilder fuck me, but I don't think I would date him....


    give a good reason...for such a decision....
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    tereseus1 said
    jmusmc85 saidLet's just put it this way.


    I would let a bodybuilder fuck me, but I don't think I would date him....


    give a good reason...for such a decision....


    Well as a smaller guy, I think it would very unusual to have my 5'5 ass standing next to a 6footwhatever guy with bulging muscles.

    Plus, bodybuilders tend to follow a VERY strict diet and exercise routine that I simply have no desire to follow or revolve my life around.
    I go to the gym regularly and try to watch what I eat but I don't do it religiously.

    Lastly, and probably most importantly, I don't find the aesthetics of a bodybuilder as attractive as a man who is just fit or athletic.

    Exhibit A of what I would fuck, but not date....

    Zeb_Atlas_Series3_002.jpg


    Exhibit B of husband(s) material...my favorite is the tall one in the back...

    256189_156276261111369_122136551192007_3
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    My muscularity has fluctuated a little (I had a bit of a lapse in my early thirties, even though I never completely lost it or got fat), and I can tell that interest by other guys has picked up since I got back into seriously working out, but it might also just be that I'm more confident now walking around with a tight shirt, or shirtless when appropriate because I like my own appearance better.
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    Plus you'd have to deal with all the syringes and injections, the periods of impotence when the steroids are off balance, their tiny shrinking nuts, etc., etc.
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:54 PM GMT

    Yes, you guys are correct. You definitely should never marry or date muscular men or bodybuilders. Just pass them by and leave them all alone and lonely.

    I guess I'll have to take it upon myself to become the Mother Teresa of bodybuilders and take them all in, feed them and love them. It'll be a tough job, but I'm sure I'm up for the task.
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    He_Man said
    Yes, you guys are correct. You definitely should never marry or date muscular men or bodybuilders. Just pass them by and leave them all alone and lonely.

    I guess I'll have to take it upon myself to become the Mother Teresa of bodybuilders and take them all in, feed them and love them. It'll be a tough job, but I'm sure I'm up for the task.


    haha...humanitarian award right there...
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    Apr 27, 2013 7:57 PM GMT
    Personally, I think self confidence grabs a guys attention first.Then you notice the outward attributes.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:03 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    Exhibit B of husband(s) material...my favorite is the tall one in the back...

    256189_156276261111369_122136551192007_3


    Guy on the far right for me. Absolutely gorgeous.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    charlitos saidYou don't walk around shirtless, holding your breath while flexin and beheaded in real life, just saying.


    I do.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    juvenescences said
    jmusmc85 said
    Exhibit B of husband(s) material...my favorite is the tall one in the back...

    256189_156276261111369_122136551192007_3


    Guy on the far right for me. Absolutely gorgeous.


    Too bad they ruined their bodies with too many meaningless tattoos
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    I personally and genuinely could give a f*ck less about how much muscle a guy has. Sure it can be an added bonus, but what I am truly concerned with is your intellect. If I can't connect with you on a mental level then your physical traits won't balance things. I adore men with a great sense of humor. That trumps muscle any day in my book.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    The more muscle a guy has, the less interesting he is, the less I pay attention. Anyone who looks like they use steroids, I avoid. Anyone who is lumpy is unappealing. If you want to get my interest, you need to be an interesting person, who happens to be in decent or good shape. You can find someone exactly like you, and it won't give you a good relationship. You can have a mutual admiration society, and ego-based platform, but it won't last. Appearances are merely that. Window-dressing. Exercise to be healthy, that's all. Stop following along with superficial idiocy. Stop playing games with your life. It's too short. Exercise your heart and your mind more than your biceps.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:14 PM GMT
    And, by the way, when I was in my 20s, I was very handsome, it drew lustful stares which were of no interest. Apart from that, my success with dating has not changed a bit. If you think it is all about looking good, your frustration will never end.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidLet's just put it this way....


    I would let a bodybuilder fuck me, but I don't think I would date him....


    Why? I'd be proud to with someone like that out in public. I'd love to show him off.
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    cskidd91 saidI personally and genuinely could give a f*ck less about how much muscle a guy has. Sure it can be an added bonus, but what I am truly concerned with is your intellect. If I can't connect with you on a mental level then your physical traits won't balance things. I adore men with a great sense of humor. That trumps muscle any day in my book.


    Doesn't everyone say this?
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    juvenescences said
    jmusmc85 said
    Exhibit B of husband(s) material...my favorite is the tall one in the back...

    256189_156276261111369_122136551192007_3


    Guy on the far right for me. Absolutely gorgeous.


    Nah the guy on the far left is the best looking one. And I love the ink!

    Tatted up white guys are the best!
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
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    jmusmc85 saidLet's just put it this way....
    I would let a bodybuilder fuck me, but I don't think I would date him....


    Why? I'd be proud to with someone like that out in public. I'd love to show him off.


    "show him off?' I wonder if he would like that?
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    Apr 27, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    I think the face gets more attention than the body. I am pretty happy with my body overall, but my face is not great, so I don't get much attention in places where people keep their clothes on like bars. People focus above all on the face.

    This is all so very superficial, though. To me, really, muscles don't matter in a boyfriend.