There... Now we're getting someplace.
ITJOCK, thanks. I'll check out those sites. I AM especially interested in biking, hiking, and soccer.
OmahaScott, where were you when I lived in Omaha, 4 years ago??? I went to 24 hour fitness all the time (21st Street).
Grower (I know what that means -- me too), thanks for that piece of wisdom. You're right, I have been desperate, ever since having the bad first experience with gay sex, and then the totally HEAVENLY kiss from the hot 20-something year old. Guess I'll have to get out the AXE (I'm a dirty boy who needs to get cleaned... er, clean. -- sorry, freudian slip).
Ok, the next thing I need to know is how to recognize guys who are hitting on me. My gay ex-brother-in-law said that he never knew if guys were hitting on him or not. That's me. A guy could probably intimate that he wants to take me to bed and I would be so naive that I'd never know (had a girl try to seduce me, once, and didn't know until I asked her a couple of days later - she didn't succeed, by the way - I was too stupid).
I like Grower's approach -- direct and to the point. I would respond to that (Grower, get naked, I'm on my way! LOL).
Damn, the best part of being gay is not so much the sex as it is the real affection that gay guys have for each other -- you know, the hugging and kissing in greeting, to console, to display friendship and real affection, and so on. Nice results, too -- lumpy pants.
Seriously, I just like the cuddling the best. Something I never got from my father, and I didn't have any brothers, so didn't get to wrestle and pick on each other (or give each other blow jobs like so many other gay guys I've talked to). Sorry, I can't help being a smart-ass sometimes. I don't know if it's a defense mechanism or if I just like to make people smile.
Anyway, tell me how I can tell if a guy is hitting on me, and how to respond, please.
Thanks for all your help.
Oh, and don't forget to post organizations for your own cities, so that other guys like me can know where to go.