New to this and need advice

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    Sep 16, 2007 1:36 AM GMT
    No, your reaction wasn't wrong at all, if anything he was out of line asking you for money. Chances are, if you had given him the money, you would have never heard from him again. When dating, I have found my gut to be the best filter for me as far as men are concerned. Good luck in the dating pool.

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    Sep 16, 2007 2:48 AM GMT
    So he is 29 and I met him at the gym. I think that the number of times he called me last night trying to back out of how he asked for money is a pretty clear indication that he knew that he was pushing it too.

    Looking back to our first date, he mentioned several times how he was short on money which kept raising red flags in my head. I really don't care whether someone has money or not. Especially if they like what they do. But I would have to say that it is almost as wierd having someone tell you how broke they are as it is to be sitting there listening to someone tell you how much stuff they have etc.

    Once again, thanks men!
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    Sep 16, 2007 3:48 AM GMT
    You did exactly the right thing. Let's play this back. You went on one date. He told you about his money problems. You made a second date. He asked you for money (first problem) and he did it over text (second problem). Which means that he had nobody else left to ask in his circle of friends and family (third BIG problem).

    What a nightmare. I'd run for it. And yes, I would have cancelled the date, and enjoyed the dinner by myself.