What do you do when you see an attractive guy?

  • v323

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    Jan 27, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    When I walk to class and spot a guy I find attractive walking towards me, out of habit I usually look the other way or keep looking straight and pretend he didn't caught my eye.
    I sometime even notice other guys doing this. is this common?
    I seriously need to break this habit. icon_confused.gif

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    Jan 27, 2014 5:51 AM GMT
    THAT GIF! YES! lol

    I usually do the same thing. Mostly if the guy is obviously straight.
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    Mar 29, 2020 10:07 PM GMT
    And what do you do In The gym showers when it is hard not to look?
  • Seraphim

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    Apr 01, 2020 4:12 PM GMT
    I don't do or say anything. If I don't know you I DON'T KNOW YOU. You being attractive doesn't make you worthy of my time and day, and it would be a complete waste of life to give my thoughts and time just because of someone being objectively attractive.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 01, 2020 7:44 PM GMT
    Yeah, I perfected that move for 40 years. Now, I intentionally hesitate and slightly smile but not for so long as to be creepy. Kind of my way of saying I'm gay and you're cute but if you're nervous about it, don't feel threatened. Of course I live in San Francisco. lol. A couple of years ago when living in Florida, the redneck end, the panhandle, I was in a grocery store in the packaged meat aisle and saw a stunning, blond guy, probably 32. Couldn't help but look for a bit . He was examining the meat case and saw me, turned to me and asked "Like chicken?" I had to reply "Absolutely." Then I smiled and left him alone. Later met him in the gym. He was a Navy Seal instructor of underwater demolition. Turned into a model a couple of years later. We got to be gym friends but that was all. Nice guy.
  • stemkin

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    Apr 02, 2020 5:03 AM GMT
    Maintain eye contact for long enough to figure out if they're opposed or not, then hope they have the balls to walk up to me cause I usually dont, lol
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    Apr 09, 2020 12:23 AM GMT
    Is that Tom Daily before he came out or something? If that is, that gif is life XD.

    When I see an attractive guy, first I express my frustration about him not being mine by doing something like shaking my head or rolling my eyes and saying something like, "These boys are too much" or "I can't do this" under my breath. If this happens while I'm feeling really lonely, then I'll do something like kick something (in a way that won't cause damage of course) in a mostly joking manner or like if I have trash in my hand, I'll throw it in a trash can a little harder than one would need to.
  • stemkin

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    Apr 11, 2020 12:21 AM GMT
    Guysguysguyss saidIs that Tom Daily before he came out or something? If that is, that gif is life XD.

    When I see an attractive guy, first I express my frustration about him not being mine by doing something like shaking my head or rolling my eyes and saying something like, "These boys are too much" or "I can't do this" under my breath. If this happens while I'm feeling really lonely, then I'll do something like kick something (in a way that won't cause damage of course) in a mostly joking manner or like if I have trash in my hand, I'll throw it in a trash can a little harder than one would need to.


    Everything you just described would give me the vibe of, what did I do to this guy to piss him off haha
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    Apr 12, 2020 6:23 AM GMT
    Just say Hi!!!
    You won't lose anything. I do that depends on the circumstances I am
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    Apr 12, 2020 6:57 AM GMT
    stemkin said
    Guysguysguyss saidIs that Tom Daily before he came out or something? If that is, that gif is life XD.

    When I see an attractive guy, first I express my frustration about him not being mine by doing something like shaking my head or rolling my eyes and saying something like, "These boys are too much" or "I can't do this" under my breath. If this happens while I'm feeling really lonely, then I'll do something like kick something (in a way that won't cause damage of course) in a mostly joking manner or like if I have trash in my hand, I'll throw it in a trash can a little harder than one would need to.


    Everything you just described would give me the vibe of, what did I do to this guy to piss him off haha


    Hahaha yeah sometimes I'm so seriously dying inside that I don't smile while I do those, but most of the time I do have a grin on my face.
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    Apr 15, 2020 5:53 PM GMT
    I pretend I didn't notice him and keep walking. I get super embarrassed if the guy notices that I'm checking him out. So I just quit doing it.

    There's this time where I was in the gym and noticed a guy stretching. He was handsome and super fit. I kept glancing at him every few seconds because I couldn't help not to. But then he saw that I was looking at him and my face literally turned red.
    I immediately went to the locker room to wash my hands and my face and leave. When I was about to leave the locker room he came in and stared at me while walking by.

    After that incident I started to avoid going to the gym in the evenings so that I wouldn't see that guy again lol
    /sad
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    May 15, 2020 7:07 AM GMT
    I used to just look away and act like any of my straight teammates. (I played water polo in college all four years). We all played it very straight back then. Nobody was out in my fraternity at all. Later I found out a few of us were up for some fun on the side, but we were very closeted.

    Now though, it’s different. If I see a hot guy and he’s checking me out, I can tell - it’s all in the eyes and the amount of time they gaze at you. A straight guy just isn’t wired that way - he’s just not interested. But a guy who is interested will not look away so fast, even if he’s shy. So I look back and hold my eye contact a bit longer as well.....even nod a bit, or smile - but just a bit. If it looks like we’re both interested in chatting - then stop and do it. But be cool about it.
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    May 15, 2020 2:29 PM GMT
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  • Happenis

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    May 15, 2020 3:21 PM GMT
    There’s so many hot guys here in the NYC metro area that I don’t even bat an eye. They’re a dime a dozen..

    However, I have a weak spot for when they run shirtless in the summertime!
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    May 24, 2020 3:08 AM GMT
    I mainly keep my head down when I walk but when I happen to look up and see a cute guy. Our eyes will meet for a split second until we pass and I take a double look. That’s when I realize that he has a girlfriend. FML. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    May 24, 2020 8:54 PM GMT
    Writer22 saidI mainly keep my head down when I walk but when I happen to look up and see a cute guy. Our eyes will meet for a split second until we pass and I take a double look. That’s when I realize that he has a girlfriend. FML. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    And then you mentally say to him... Dump the bitch and take me for a spin!
    That's what I do anyway.
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    May 25, 2020 3:40 AM GMT
    The_Other_Dave said
    Writer22 saidI mainly keep my head down when I walk but when I happen to look up and see a cute guy. Our eyes will meet for a split second until we pass and I take a double look. That’s when I realize that he has a girlfriend. FML. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    And then you mentally say to him... Dump the bitch and take me for a spin!
    That's what I do anyway.


    Hahahahaha! I could never say that
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    May 31, 2020 9:36 PM GMT
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    Jun 01, 2020 4:43 AM GMT
    what a good question! i am always attracted to straight men unfortunately lol and when i see a handsome strong straight man i usually get nervous and if he says hi, you know, just like a normal regard, i cant avoid smiling nervously haha icon_redface.gif
  • worldlyguy

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    Jun 13, 2020 9:07 AM GMT
    Sorta depends on a couple of things. Location: am i in a mall, a sauna, at a party where I know there are many gays, or in my mother's living room? Do I have any knowledge of his sexuality? If i know he is gay, or have a good idea he is, I will smile, at least. If I am sure he's straight, I might still give a small smile, simply because a smile is never a bad thing. But i won't grab him! But from all I have read here, I think I may be bolder than most, and always have been.
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    Jul 11, 2020 8:07 PM GMT
    If he's an attractive straight guy I just treat him normally, I tend to try not to sexualize them. Attractive gay men I ignore completely, and they ignore me completely. Online is a bit different since I won't be running into them.