ursamajor saidResponsibility is shared just as much as lust is shared.
Good saying, though I might add the stipulation that both parties must have attained a sufficient age, and level of knowledge & experience. Two stories from my own life:
I knew this guy pretty well, and actually chose him to pop my gay "cherry," mainly because he was an experienced top, and small enough that I figured I'd have no trouble taking him. And I trusted him, that he would use a condom, go slowly, and stop if I said stop.
He fulfilled that role perfectly, and my first time (and subsequently with him) was absolutely great, a wonderful "initiation" for which I'm still grateful. No horror stories and no regrets about how I lost my "virginity."
But one morning we were taking a shower together after sleeping in his bed, and suddenly he bent me over, and brought his hard-on against my hole. Flattering me with how "hot" I was (pure BS), I let him in a few inches bareback, before I snapped out of my lustful daze and my mind screamed at me "DON'T!"
He took my refusal pretty well, but later I considered that this was the guy who told me he "always" practiced safe sex with his many tricks (and his numbers were legendary in that community). Well, if he was going to go bareback with me, who else had he done that with? How reliable was his claim of always having safe sex? I never had sex with him again.
Second story involves a guy I shacked up with for a few days in Miami. He told me he was clean, but we still used condoms.
On the third day there he confessed to me that he had Hep C! Something that is very contagious with or without sex. I actually got weak at the knees, and never felt so used & betrayed.
That was 11 years ago, and blood tests continue to show me negative for any hepatitis (and all STDs for that matter). But avoiding that close call I attribute to dumb luck, not my own smarts.
Moral: guys lie, guys will tempt you, and guys are infected with all kinds of things, that they themselves might not even know about. EVERY new sexual encounter is by default a guy infected with something.
But a lot of young kids don't know that, possibly thanks to Republican restrictions on US sex ed programs in recent years, or else their teenage hormones override their brains.
I was an adult in the stories above, but still made a major mistake in one, and came close in the other. I find it hard to blame a teenager when the villain is 48 years old.