CRUISING IN THE LOCKER ROOM

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    Dec 19, 2008 4:39 PM GMT
    twentyfourhourslater saidSome local parks also have a similar problem with cruising - there are a couple of parks that i would never take my kids to.


    Volunteer Park in Seattle was really bad when I lived there in the 1990s, not sure how it is today. The separate restroom building in the middle of the park was so bad I wouldn't even go in there.

    So one time I tried using the basement men's room at the museum building, also in the park, which had an outside ground entrance. Inside I found it empty, but the urinals had no partitions, so I decided to use a stall in case some cruiser entered. No doors on the stalls, to discourage sex, but I didn't mind since I was just going to pee.

    No sooner had I stood at the toilet then I realized a guy was standing right behind me, trying to look over my shoulder! I yelled at him to back off, which he did with a laugh. When I left there were now about 5 guys in there all doing everything but what the place was intended for.

    I not only found it disgusting, but I was mad because they were adding to the straight hatred against us by this selfish and illegal behavior.
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    Dec 19, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    I am glad to see I am not alone on this. Though this is terribly annoying and utterly disgusting to me. It's not gonna stop me from my workout routine. And honestly, I think these guys know it too. No matter what they do and where they go, they know the truly dedicated just ignore them. If they actually ever get kicked out, they'll go to another gym. so they stare and cruise all they want, get their fill of eye candy and their nasty cravings satisied. If you're bold enough to do what they do in public, there's very little anyone can say or do to stop or change their behavior.. i'm just not programmed like that

    What I don't understand is why these "creepers" think that this is attractive behavior? Do they think you are so desperate you will just fulfill their twisted little fantasy-- like they guess since your naked/half-naked, you're already half way there. might as well do the deed. for myself there is too much goin round to conduct sexually risky behavior in the locker rooms (and with all due respect many of the cruisy men appear to have physical characteristics usual in men who are likely on meds)

    And sad to say, it's NEVER EVER anyone you actually WANT to see paradin around naked or strokin. At least if it was some ridiculously hot phine dude I might change my opinion.

    We also have the same issues where they have tried to patrol the back, revoke memberships etc. but unless you're directly propositioned you can never PROVE it. maybe they should use plain clothed police officers or whatever the natural reverse would be in this situation for the locker room LOL mmm some hot cops might be nice to see... hmmm i think i may be onto sumthin... on second thought i might get arrested... scratch that.
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    Dec 19, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    The sad thing is that there seems to be no gym that this does NOT happen in. I even recently saw a Craiglist ad under "Missed connection" about the steamroom at my gym. I will admit that the gym can have some pretty hot guys sometimes, but gym locker rooms, showers and saunas are so dirty that I wouldn't want to sit down naked on anything!

    Also, like the comment about Volunteer Park, this shameless public sex just brings down the image of gay men, and hurts our fight for equality. Why don't people realize that??
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    Dec 19, 2008 6:35 PM GMT
    Yes Ive been checked out and by some I really would rather not see me. however let tehm look. Ive worked hard on the body. they want to beat off to it go for it..I find it a compliment.

    I have also been in the steam room where guys are jerking off. I simply get up leave and report them as I leave the gym. If you do nothing, nothing stops.

    Stand up, Demend they patrol the locker room and such to prevent it. Soon the pervs leave.

    the Gold's I go to does not have this type of problem. Mainly because the staff patrols the locker room. Typically I see a staff member go in every 10-15 minutes to prevent it. It's awesome.
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    Dec 19, 2008 6:44 PM GMT
    My gym is in the heart of the Castro. So cruising and/or sex happens fairly often. Although they try and discourage it...it happens. I changed the hour in which I go ( early morning ) which helps keep the cruising to a minimum.
    I also keep my iPod goin and don't take showers at the gym. Sad I know.
    But after going there for over a decade and having to put up with cruising
    from trolls and circle jerks in the sauna, this is what works for me.
    Strangely enough some of the perps have complained that the efforts
    to deter their sexual activity is a violation of their right to expression.

    Whatever. icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:14 PM GMT
    no way! cruising? at the gym? at the gym's locker room?

    from what i have read, the real problem that you all have with this stuff is that people that are cruising you are a.) old; b.) ugly; c.) also gay. correct me if i am wrong, but if a hot guy checks me out, i'd be a fool to pass the opportunity to chat him up, if i am inclined that way. however, when i am creeped out, i just look away or flip them a bird.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:20 PM GMT
    JETSETTER9 saidLA Fitness in Hollywood, 24hr Fitness in West Hollywood and Gold's Gym, Hollywood is NOT gay at all and not cruisy oopppsss it's the other way aroundicon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    LIES! hahaha I hate seeing people not workout and just hangout in the locker room or sauna. So weird!
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:21 PM GMT
    carabin saidfrom what i have read, the real problem that you all have with this stuff is that people that are cruising you are a.) old; b.) ugly; c.) also gay. correct me if i am wrong, but if a hot guy checks me out, i'd be a fool to pass the opportunity to chat him up, if i am inclined that way.



    Cute or not....there's a time a place for everything. My workout time is
    NOT the time. If you wanna chat me up? Wait until I'm done.
    There are plenty of other places for sex and/or cruising. I'd prefer it
    not be in my face while I'm working out. Especially since it seems
    in most cases to be about having social hour not working out.
    Go to the bar if that's what your looking for !
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:27 PM GMT
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    carabin saidfrom what i have read, the real problem that you all have with this stuff is that people that are cruising you are a.) old; b.) ugly; c.) also gay. correct me if i am wrong, but if a hot guy checks me out, i'd be a fool to pass the opportunity to chat him up, if i am inclined that way.



    Cute or not....there's a time a place for everything. My workout time is
    NOT the time. If you wanna chat me up? Wait until I'm done.
    There are plenty of other places for sex and/or cruising. I'd prefer it
    not be in my face while I'm working out. Especially since it seems
    in most cases to be about having social hour not working out.
    Go to the bar if that's what your looking for !



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    Dec 19, 2008 7:37 PM GMT
    Folks think queers are weird for a reason, and the gym cruising is one of them. It's absolutely classless. When I workout...that's my private time. It pisses me off to be cruised at the gym by the Queen Bee.

    I had a kid, one day, at 24 Hour Fitness, in Lewisville, TX, who was brash beyond belief. He stalked me in the locker room with his cell cam. Having quite enough of it, I went over, got in his face, and said, "Little Buddy, you aim that phone at me one more time, and I'm going to take the f....ing thing away from you."

    There is a time and a place. I have a reasonable expectation to be able to go to the gym and to be left alone.

    If you're one of the sickos that cruises guys at the gym, I encourage you to seek counseling to understand why you are so clueless.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:45 PM GMT
    How awful that so many of you are so hot that the trolls and geezers just can't keep their eyes off of you. It must be a terrible burden - you are so brave.

    And, don't tell me none of you have cruised someone who wasn't interested, and yet you persisted.

    It's funny though, now you know how straight men make women feel all the time.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:46 PM GMT
    My locker room in my gym is so super small, I don't want to get a hard on or catch someone staring. I don't ever shower also in the lockerroom because I'm self conscious (But people say the other about what do you have to be ashamed of) Anyways, I check out people in the lockerrooms but I'm not so obvious. You get some lookers and sometimes you don't. I think every guy in my gym is straight lol.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:54 PM GMT
    chicago_barry saidHow awful that so many of you are so hot that the trolls and geezers just can't keep their eyes off of you. It must be a terrible burden - you are so brave.

    And, don't tell me none of you have cruised someone who wasn't interested, and yet you persisted.

    It's funny though, now you know how straight men make women feel all the time.
    Yes I have checked guys out there. The issue for me is that some trolls at my gym are ONLY there to cruise, I rarely if ever see some of them do anything remotely related to lifting, cycling, running, you name it.
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    Dec 19, 2008 11:16 PM GMT


    This makes for a pretty accurate description of acceptable behavior in a locker room.
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    Dec 20, 2008 5:43 AM GMT
    chicago_barry saidHow awful that so many of you are so hot that the trolls and geezers just can't keep their eyes off of you. It must be a terrible burden - you are so brave.

    And, don't tell me none of you have cruised someone who wasn't interested, and yet you persisted.

    It's funny though, now you know how straight men make women feel all the time.


    Your condescension reveals your possible motives for going to the gym.
    The gym staff will be by in a sec to take your drink order hon. * rolls eyes*

    The point, for me anyway, is about people using the gym to cruise
    and have sex. There are sex clubs that have gyms in them. GO THERE !

    No, I've never persued anyone who wasn't interested in me.
    Why would I ? Sounds a little desperate to me ?

    ..And no I don't know what it feels like to be a woman. What I do
    know is how it feels to be irritated by someone who has no self control,
    tact or respect to approach me in a proper way at the proper time.

    Awhile back a cute guy decided to cruise me in the stretch
    room at my gym. For whatever reason his stretching included hiking
    up his shorts over his ass cheek so that I can have a full view of his ass.
    Now that's just tacky no matter how you look at it.
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    Dec 20, 2008 5:59 AM GMT
    Well you see guys who are staring don't even realize it. What trick I like to do is snap my fingers. Are clap my hands. It usually snaps them out of it. It makes the realize what they are doing.It will freeze aor scare them for a second.
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    Dec 20, 2008 6:04 AM GMT
    HBO's "Little Britian" has a great take on locker rooms.



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    Dec 20, 2008 6:06 AM GMT
    Um I was mixing a protein shake when some stud got out of the shower.

    big smooth upper body and hairy legs.

    OMG the towel feel and he bent over to pick it up. OMG I almost cam in my pants. Was so close to bum rushing him and eat him out right there. Then plow the poor guy till he screams for mama
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    Dec 20, 2008 6:09 AM GMT
    ONSLAUGHT saidUm I was mixing a protein shake when some stud got out of the shower.

    big smooth upper body and hairy legs.

    OMG he the towel feel and he bent over to pick it up. OMG I almost cam in my pants. Was so close to bum rushing him and eat him out right there. Then plow the poor guy till he screams for mama


    HOT
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    Dec 20, 2008 6:36 AM GMT
    chuckystud3 saidHBO's "Little Britian" has a great take on locker rooms.






    That was funny as hell ! " Don't worry bra....just imagine that your taking a shower with Danny Devito. " LOL !
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    Dec 20, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    carabin saidno way! cruising? at the gym? at the gym's locker room?

    from what i have read, the real problem that you all have with this stuff is that people that are cruising you are a.) old; b.) ugly; c.) also gay. correct me if i am wrong, but if a hot guy checks me out, i'd be a fool to pass the opportunity to chat him up, if i am inclined that way. however, when i am creeped out, i just look away or flip them a bird.


    I sorta take this approach on the issue! Sure, when you think of cruising you might automatically think of the old, balding, lurker guy. But I've noticed some of the young guys at my university gym totally eying me back. They may not be cruising necessarily, perhaps they're just checking to see who's around. But on a few occasions I can say with confidence that me and other young lads have eye-raped each other, both in the locker room and in the workout area. If it's mutual I really don't see a problem with it. When it's imposed from one party onto the other, that's when it gets gross, unwanted, and downright creepy.

    Tony
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    Dec 20, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    Some 25 years ago while a US Army Major, I got into a conversation with a Lieutenant Colonel (the next higher rank) about this same topic. How it started I can't recall, if it was him or me, but at the time our headquarters had organized group physical training in the morning, and we'd all take showers and dress together afterwards before beginning our duty day.

    It was his contention that guys like to "check each other out" and "size up the competition" as he put it, a matter of male curiosity. It had nothing to do with being gay, in his opinion, and he admitted to doing it himself. He also said it was common & normal for straight guys to sneak a peak at the urinal for the same reason.

    Was he a closet case? Not sure, he was married with kids, and as butch as the typical Army Officer. But I thought I'd add his opinion to the thread here, as a non-sexual reason why some guys might give you a glance in the locker room or gang shower.
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    Dec 20, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    This thread "Cruising in the locker room" somehow reminded me of the recurring lyric "rolling on the river" from the song Proud Mary, made famous by Tina Turner. Here's my own version, minus the spoken dialogue lead-in:

    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising at the locker
    Listen to the story...

    I had a good job in the city
    Working at the gym every night and day
    And I never lost one minute of peeping
    Worrying bout the way guys might be hung

    Big balls keep on churning
    Proud dick it keep on yearning
    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising in the shower

    Rimmed a lot of holes in Memphis
    Pumped a lot of ass in New Orleans
    But I never saw the good side of a bottom
    Till I took a ride on a locker room queen

    Big balls keep on churning
    Proud dick it keep on yearning
    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising in the sauna

    If you come down for a workout
    I bet you gonna find some cruisers who live
    You dont have to worry if you got no money
    Cruisers in a towel are happy to give

    Big balls keep on churning
    Proud dick it keep on yearning
    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising at the locker
    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising in the shower
    And we were cruising, cruising, cruising in the sauna (repeat to fade out)

    (Original lyrics can be viewed at this site):

    http://www.lyricsfreak.com/t/tina+turner/proud+mary_20137717.html

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    Dec 21, 2008 3:51 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidIt was his contention that guys like to "check each other out" and "size up the competition" as he put it, a matter of male curiosity. It had nothing to do with being gay, in his opinion, and he admitted to doing it himself. He also said it was common & normal for straight guys to sneak a peak at the urinal for the same reason.

    I totally agree with that. It's something I've noticed as long as I've been going to gyms.

    I've never understood the outrage over cruising and sex play in locker rooms and wet areas. I find it as easy to ignore as it is predictable. Sometimes, it even makes me laugh.

    I generally agree with carabin and chicago_jerry. Nobody seems to mind when the offender is hot. The going on and on about how disgusting it is reminds me of Gilda Radner's character, Roseanne Rosannadanna, if any of you remember her. (I'm sure you don't.)
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    Dec 21, 2008 3:59 AM GMT
    Its truly amazing how its pretty much the same wherever you live, wherever you go. These fat, old, trolls, liver-spotted and saggy asses just drooling at any man with a heartbeat. I tend to keep myself covered and refuse to even acknowledge them because I find their behavior so rude and offensive. What truly amazes me is that they dont have a clue, how offensive they are. Its like they are in their own little world!