Crossroads of life

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    Dec 19, 2008 7:11 PM GMT
    Hi all,

    Okay, I'll try to keep this short.
    I'm at that point in life where I'm constantly questioning if I'm on the right path.
    I'm studying "Marketing Management", and I become so anxious at times when I think to myself "Is this really what I want to do with my life?".
    I've already started to lose interest in it, and I keep thinking of other careers I would rather pursue.
    But the problem with dropping it for something else, is just because it interests you more, doesn't necessarily mean you'd be good at it.
    For instance, I have a real interest in cosmetology (yeah I know...shut up), but what would be the point of pursuing that only to realize I suck at it and that I've wasted even more years of my life?

    So, my question is.
    Are you absolutely happy with what you do (career-wise)?
    And if so, how did you end up doing it?
    Have you just always had an interest in that field and went for it, or did you have to strike out a few times and try different things before finding what was right for you?

    I know some people even ponder about career changes up till their 40's, to then finally find their true calling!
    If you've experiences this, what made you make up your mind and just go for such a big change in your life?

    Any advice or suggestions are welcome and much appreciated! icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
    I am very happy with what I do... but it was not a path I would have "freely" chosen.

    You hearing that voice that is telling what you truly want. You might should listen. Finish what you are currently studying, but look in to other - GO FOR IT!!!

    No time like the present.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:22 PM GMT
    I have always wanted to be in some type of law enforcement career. I was a Police Officer for 5 years before finding out about law enforcement type positions in the corporate world. I have now been a corporate Investigator for a Fortune 500 organization for 11 years. So, I can say I am happy in what I do.

    Along the same lines as you wanting to try cosmetology, I thought I might like a career in the SCUBA industry. So I took a part time job at local dive shop. Long story short, I loved the diving but hated the business side of it (retail etc). I am glad I was just doing it part time and did not quit corporate gig.

    Is there a way you can try cosmetology part time?
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:31 PM GMT
    I started out in computer science, and after one year at it switched to Psychology (I hated computer science). With a Psychology undergrad degree you are qualified to do absolutely zip, so I had to think what the next step was. I chose business administration. Not because it would give me my dream job, but because it would make me more marketable. I have been employed ever since.

    My dream job was an airline pilot, but my eye sight is horrible so that was not possible.

    Unfortunately in life it is not always possible to do what you love to do, but you need to at least find something that is tolerable and can afford you a lifestyle that will allow you to do things you enjoy.

    Best of luck in your career path.
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    Dec 19, 2008 7:46 PM GMT
    Hey. Well I have 2 Master's degrees (MBA, MBE) and a CMA.

    Initially i started went toward my Master of Business Education. Along the way I noticed I like pure MBA so I did both at the same time. I always was interesting in teaching, but also business.

    I followed my inner voice and my daydreams.

    When you close your eyes and see yourself in the future.........what do you see when you think about marketing? do many ideas come in your head or not. let your inner voice speak.

    when i think of business i have many vision what i could be. when i think of another profession, everything is empty.

    this worked for me when i am at crossroads. maybe it does for you too.

    at the end u gotta do what u r really happy with.

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    Dec 19, 2008 9:25 PM GMT
    I'd say if you feel uncertain about whether or not that's what you want to do you could certainly explore other things and weigh your options. I think you have to ask yourself what's important to you. Some people are driven by money, and identify their being on the basis of their title at work. Others look to make an impact on something that they feel matters to them. If you go to school for cosmetology, you're going to get everything you need. For some people it may come naturally, but I think it's hard to fail when you put the amount of work into something that you need to put in in order to be successful.
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    Dec 19, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    Although I can't find a location of the quote, I understand that the Department of Labor has estimated that those graduating now to have seven careers (that's not jobs, but careers) until they graduate. That said, I deal with lots of very scared students and alumni who are not sure of what they want to do with their lives.

    My best suggestion is to do what you like now, and then figure out where they are going from there. Also, if you take a wrong step (or what you at some time deem a wrong step) you can always backtrack and go in a new track.

    Virgo, I suggest that you talk to someone who you trust that might have some more perspective. That could be someone in your Career Services office, or someplace else. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, but know that as long as you have your eyes open, things will be okay.
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    Dec 20, 2008 5:46 AM GMT
    Guys, thank you all so much for taking the time to give your feedback!
    It was definitely helpful.

    BodyWork4: Indeed, I should at least finish what I started. In any case I will acquire skills that will open up some doors, to at least keep my options open I suppose.

    streetbobfx: That's the thing, this study takes up quite a bit of my time, but I guess I can just play around with the other fields that interest me, even if I'm only able to do them occasionally. I won't be able to make a career out of a hobby, but judging from how good/bad I am at it, I'll at least feel more secure after crossing a few things off the list.

    SurrealLife: So true, that is the real world. I also have an interest in "Graphic Design", but no schools offer that in my area. Hence why I was considering moving abroad. I picked "M & M" because it was the closest thing to learning how to start up a business (where I'd like to combine most of my interests).
    It is tolerable, but just barely. The process of training you to be ruthless, money-hungry corporate scum, is the opposite of what I want. I need very little (materialistically) to feel satisfied, and my goal if I do open up my own business is to have endless ties to charitable organizations and to help invest in education (obviously very necessary), low-income households and the infrastructure. Reducing poverty would make me happy.
    Unfortunately I know just how many people have started with my same principals and ideals, only to be bought and sold by the bigger fish. But I'd sooner die than become corrupt, & in this age of awakening, I'm sure many more of the youth in this world are developing the same mindset, which keeps me optimistic. But I digressed, sorry. icon_neutral.gif

    austrocanadia: When I close my eyes, I see myself marketing solar-/air-compressed powered cars and local greenhouse farming.
    & then I see myself being assassinated by economic hit-men hired by Oil Company CEO's. see myself doing different things, depending on what phase I'm going through. Which is why I can't make up my mind on what's ultimately right. Life has it's ways of shifting your goals, through people who try to discourage you.
    But what you said makes sense, I could just narrow things down, by how many ideas come up at the thought of a certain profession. And right now really, marketing soda drinks and potato chips just bring up suicidal thoughts, but sadly that's the type of stuff I'll probably have to be doing in the beginning. Just whore myself out, and save up to invest in my own ideas later on.

    Runninchlt: I cut a friends hair today, two inches shorter than I was supposed to. So what interests me most, doesn't come naturally. icon_redface.gif
    But you're right, if I really want this, it's going to take hard work to reach my goals.
    Dammit, just reading my post so far I realize how scattered and all over the place my interests are. I need to just sit my ass down with a pen and a piece of paper and start to gain a bit more perspective into my mess of a brain.

    matt45710: Your suggestion struck a chord with me the most. I do wonder about the state of the frigging world 4 years from now, with this global economic crisis and all. That's THE BIGGEST issue on my mind.
    Is what I'm doing now even going to be relevant anymore in the near future?
    But like I told "BodyWork4", I am going to finish it, to at least have some extra papers in my hand. But it's quite unsettling, the fact that the state of this world is probably going to get worse before it gets better.
    I believe in the power of the mind, so I also stay optimistic, hoping that it will manifest in the real world and we will be able to prevent things from getting out of hand.
    But like you said, I will try to just do what I like in my spare time, and if this current study becomes too unbearable, I will just take the plunge into something else. Thanks for your comforting words.

    And thank all of you, Guys. You don't know much I appreciate it.