What I've done so far...

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    Sep 27, 2007 7:10 PM GMT
    Hey everyone. This is my first time posting here. I've been checking out the place for about a week now and it seems like a great place with a lot of great people. I'm looking forward to joining in on the rest of the community. I hope this is the right forum for a post like mine; if not, please feel free to move it to the correct one. And in the mean time, let me tell you about myself for those of you that are interested...

    About 18 months ago, at the ripe young age of 39, I suffered from a massive life ending stroke. After four days in a coma and a near-death experience, I was brought back to the living and spent the next two months in the hospital going through various rehab therapies. Once I got out, I spent about three more months out-patient for even more therapies. And guess what? I'm actually better! Naturally, I remain unemployed (but desperately looking) but at least I can drive now. And for those that are wondering, I lost the entire right side of all feeling and movement at first. I have full speech capabilities and today I can walk with a slight gimp now, sometimes with a cane, sometimes not at all, just depends what I'm doing I guess.

    But in the mean time, let me tell you about my weight problem. Before the stroke I weighed 353 pounds, yes you read that correctly....353 effen' pounds! :O But because of the stroke, I think something remarkable happened. When I was in the hospital, I actually started to lose weight. And by the time I got out I lost nearly 50 pounds in two months. I lost an additional 40 pounds over those next six months or so. Today I weigh 261 pounds and I can tell you from my own personal experience I lost 90 pounds just from my diet alone. I can't say I went on a diet specifically, as much as I really started to just pay attention to what I was actually eating correctly. And above all, no more McWendyBurgers!!!!! lol!

    In January I started working out for the first time ever at the local YMCA with a (straight) aquaintance of mine; him and his fiancee used to live in my house for a while. And over the course of those next few months, I actually started losing weight again. I actually began to feel good again, I started to really like working out. I went 5-6 days a week with that guy, until one day....Sometime in early April this guy got in an accident using my Jeep Liberty. It turned out that he was driving on a suspended license and was uninsured! Needless to say, to make a long story short, the two of them are gone out of my house now. But in the mean time, I spent almost five more months unable to do a damn thing because the Jeep wasn't drivable at the time. Finally though when it was ready to be driven again, I got a ride from my dad to the dealer and I actually drove it home myself! Yeah one thing I DID do was I re-learned my drivers abilities so yay for me. And in the mean time, the very next thing I did was go to the gym and start working out again. I feel good working out again and I look forward to losing at least 40 more pounds thanks to a trainer great there. Currently, I spend time in the pool for cardio and at their various weight machines at least five times a week.

    So now what? I feel alone and lonely when I'm working out; and really, for that matter, I feel alone from most of my adult life. I spent a huge portion of my life being unnecessarily closeted, and I have a lot of straight friends, but to be honest I don't know any gay friends whatsoever. I would really like a work-out partner or two. If anyone is interested, you can check my profile out, I'm in southeast Michigan to give you a general idea of where I'm at.

    And in the mean time, thanks everyone for your help as I typed out this really long and boring diatribe. lol. I look forward to getting to know all of you. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 27, 2007 9:43 PM GMT
    Hey LoneWolf....sorry to hear of your past health issues man...but at the same time, its great that you've been able to bounce back as you have. You've been through a hell that many of us simply don't know of...and i respect your comeback and positive attitude.
    Remember, success is not necessarily measured by how far you get...but instead by how far you've come...and you've come a long way so congratulations on the weight loss my man! Keep it up and things will only get better...and have faith in yourself budd...who knows, that handsome Latino may be just around the corner!


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    Sep 27, 2007 9:50 PM GMT
    WOW! I'm impressed to be sure! Congratulations and good luck w/ the continued progress
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:26 PM GMT
    Well done LoneWolf66, keep up the good work and never give up. I hope your health continues to improve and you get to the weight you want to be.

    Your secret dream may come true one day, don't give up on that either.

    I had a dream like that and it came true. If it can happen for me it can happen for you.

    Keep us updated on you progress.

    Best of luck.

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    Sep 27, 2007 11:25 PM GMT
    ya just never know
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    Sep 28, 2007 6:09 AM GMT
    Hi there,

    You story sound like mine. I was at my heaviest 240 lbs. I get into near fatal accident. During the operation to remove broken glasses from my injured arm. I develop some breathing complication. The doctor then did an x ray on my chest and find my heart is swollen due to lack of oxygen. I have high blood presure , I shit blood when I go to the toilet.The only guys interested with me is "chub chaser".

    Enough is enough, I been working really hard and start to lose the weight. I been in you situation before so I understand what you go thru.

    By the way I am Asian with Latino feature. Brown skin, black hair and all...

    Good luck with the weight lost

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    Sep 28, 2007 1:22 PM GMT
    Well done you! It's lovely to see someone taking charge of their life. It's always hard, but you're doing wonderfully, so try not to get disheartened.

    I'm not local or I'd train with you, but I'm sure you'll find someone. It's easier to go with someone, but harder to work out well. A trainer is a really good move because it sort of fills the not having a buddy gap, but it's not as much fun.
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    Sep 28, 2007 1:54 PM GMT
    Wow, thanks everyone for all your kind responses and replies! They all mean a lot to me. I didn't always weigh this much; I used to be a skinny little runt barely pushing 150 in high school. But by my early 20s, that's really when it started, very slowly, very gradually, I gained more and more weight and I started to feel depressed`. I know there's this stereotype falsehood that if you're gay, you also always had sex with dozens and dozens of other men. I wish it were true. Personally, sure I experimented with both sexes and actually found a couple of girlfriends in high school I really liked a lot, but ultimately, I went with the guys then. But by my mid 20s, I lost my only boyfriend and I felt quietly alone until today. Now, after the stroke, it was my WAKE UP AND DO SOMETHING YOU A%#HOLE call.

    Now I just keep on at the gym and lose weight and burn more fat and everything else. Now that I'm working out is when I'll really start to lose weight, because before, I pretty much did absolutely nothing whatsoever. I feel really good about being at the gym today. I think it's impossible for me to stop going there nowdays. Sure, I might feel sad and depressed again, but instead, today I'll just feel sad and depressed at the gym now, that's all, no big deal to me. I know for a fact I feel stronger and more motivated than ever before. Like the Nike shoes say......JUST DO IT!

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    Sep 28, 2007 2:22 PM GMT
    Hi Lonewolf

    Thanks for sharing your inspirational story with us. I've been feeling a bit down lately for one reason and another and hearing about your struggle and success so far has given me that push I need too.

    You sound like a great person and there's no reason that your life shouldn't continue to change for the better.

    You'll make some great mates on this board, so there will be no need to feel lonely in your fintess regime and otherwise.

    Take care

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    Sep 28, 2007 6:55 PM GMT
    My partner & I both had life-threatening experiences - not as drastic as yours, I suppose - but then, how do you rank life-threatening experiences, anyway?

    In both cases it prompted us to get control over our bodies and our lives.

    Good luck to you -

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    Oct 05, 2007 10:55 PM GMT
    Thanx Joey, Lozx and D; and you're absolutely right, right now my better health and well-being ARE my #1 concern nowadays. I feel great doing all that swimming (I hadn't done that in 23 years!) and walking around the gym and all the weight training. I know, obviously, I'm just a beginner, but I can't wait to get a little further on and start to really be serious about everything.
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    Oct 05, 2007 10:58 PM GMT
    You'll get there and I'm certain you'll find your special someone icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 18, 2007 1:41 AM GMT
    OK, today I just spent the most amount of time I ever had there, about 4 1/2 hours. I added weight to many of the weight machines, I set a personal milestone of sorts when I walked a mile for the first time, I biked more than I ever did, and I swam more than ever today also! I feel so good; I feel so motivated! Now if only someone wouldn't mind joining me sometimes.....icon_neutral.gif