have you been depressed enough, to stop your life for a while?

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    Sep 30, 2007 7:03 AM GMT
    have you been depressed enough, to stop their life for a whileicon_question.gif

    The depression is very common in people.

    which was the cause of your worst depression?
    in what age did it happen to you?
    how did you solve it?

    I noticed that it constantly depressed me when I didn't have much to make in the day.
    icon_wink.gifpersonally to stay busy the whole time takes me away from the depression.

    ooh! de excersice helps a lot!

  • GQjock

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    Sep 30, 2007 11:59 AM GMT
    Everybody feels down once in a while
    but the problem here is the thoughts of ending one's
    life. I don't know if that's what you were trying to get across with this thread but that's not acceptable
    I hope that you have friends that you have discussed this with and that you sit with someone trained to get to the bottom of these feelings
    Everything is not hopeless and there are things to look forward to
    Buck up my man...take a look around at the more positives in your life
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    Sep 30, 2007 12:45 PM GMT
    I don't know if you call it depression but yes, I have had hurts in my life and I learned that you just need to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and start all over agian. Cause nobody else will do that for you. If it is so bad - get professional help.

    -Get lots of rest, get to bed at a descent hour.
    -Keep a healthy nutritional plan.
    -Try to keep active and go to the gym and do something, anything.
    -Surround yourself with positive friends and family and be as positive as you can be yourself.
    -Try to figure out what is causing this feeling that triggers the depression and professional help may be needed to do this.

    The last thing you want to do is start to drink alcohol, smoke, take drugs, eat crap and stop moving. You will be even more depressed down the road.
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    Sep 30, 2007 12:48 PM GMT
    to stop their life for a while

    Sorry, you can't just stop your life for a while. Do you feel that you just want to find a dark cave and hide for a while? Seek help buddy and lots of HUGS.
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    Sep 30, 2007 6:58 PM GMT

    which was the cause of your worst depression?
    in what age did it happen to you?
    how did you solve it?

    I have had a couple of bouts with serious depression to the point that I sought medication and/or counseling. I have never been depressed to the point where I have been consciously self injurous or suicidal.

    When I was beginning to really identify myself as gay (A 32-33), death of a partner (A36), when my mother died (A40). Looking back I can probably identify several episodes of depression before then, but refused to identify them as such at the time.

    Mild prescription drugs, counseling, willpower - forcing myself back into routine, and forcing myself to work hard on some project.

    I agree with all of RKSportswears points above

    If you are wondering what the symptoms of clinical depression are:

    Depressed mood
    Feeling hopeless, sad, discouraged, or empty.

    Loss of interest or pleasure
    Inability to experience pleasure. Nothing seems to interest you anymore, including former hobbies, social activities, and sex.

    Appetite or weight changes
    Significant weight loss or weight gain—a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.

    Sleep changes
    Insomnia or oversleeping (also known as hypersomnia).

    Psychomotor agitation or retardation
    “Keyed up,” unable to sit still, anxious, restless or sluggish, slow speech and body movements, lack of responsiveness.

    Fatigue or loss of energy
    Physically drained. Even small tasks are exhausting. Can't do things as quickly as you used to.

    Strong feelings of worthlessness or guilt. Harsh criticism of perceived faults and mistakes.

    Concentration problems
    Inability to focus. Difficulty making decisions. Can’t “think straight.” Memory problems.

    Grouchy, easily annoyed, and frustrated by little things. Angry outbursts.

    Aches and pains
    Depression can cause or exacerbate many physical symptoms, including headaches, backaches, diarrhea or constipation, abdominal pain, and aching joints.


    Strangely, when I was injured about 16 years ago and told I would never walk again; it took me three years to get out of a wheelchair, but I did not experience significant depression then.

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    Sep 30, 2007 8:07 PM GMT
    Being sad and being depressed are two completely different conditions. To paraphrase a Supreme Court Justice, you will know depression when you see it.

    It was the worst experience
    of my life. I would go through my recent prostate cancer experience ten times rather than go through a depression again.

    There may be no rhyme nor reason for it. Or it could be a number of factors that come together all at once. Sadness is brought on by sad things, losing a job, a friend, a family member even a movie. Depression is brought on by a chemical imbalance. I was fortunate to have gotten help and was put on a drug therapy program. It took almost two year before my chemicals went back into balance. Since then, I have experienced many sad events. Death of my father, my own prostate cancer, two sons in Iraq (they are safely home now)and now my mom is dying. Sad? Yes and often. Depressed? Not at all.

    I was embarrassed at first, but now if I can help anybody else who is going through it, I will gladly tell my story.
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    Sep 30, 2007 10:02 PM GMT
    It started September 11th, 2001 and I have to say has lasted almost over 5 years. I think the lowest point of it all was my second year in college. Sure I had some points in before then where I just hit rock bottom but came sort of out of it. It started when my fiance passed away and then from that point on thins just kind of kept going down hill. This last year has been really great to me and I have to say I've been really really happy. Sure there are a few things I want better but I can step back now after having going to get professional help, some medication, working out, and bloging like crazy have helped me get to this point now. Not to mention a job that a really love and enjoy. It was just losing my life partner but everything else from everyday life that just kept building up. That and struggling with alot of my insecurities and then being in the closet. Now that im out and im just like hey this is me so screw it... i couldn't be happier.
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    Oct 01, 2007 1:52 AM GMT
    I was on an acutane regimin when I was in grade 10. It lasted about a year. While I'm sure there are some roots for it to feed on, I'm 100% positive the acutane made me depressed. But, unfortunately....no one knew it did that at the time, so I got to go on a whole host of anti-depressants. Ever stayed awake for a week straight?

    I have. gogo Zoloft.

    Paxil incapacitated me; I had to sit in a basement with the windows sealed and a pillow over my eyes just to make the migraines bearable. Yay paxil.

    I then got thrown on effexor and rispiratol (probably the wrong spelling) and that didn't seem to have any negative side-effects so I stayed on that regimin for about 2 years. I finished my acutane treatment (with astonishing results, lol) and after a while I was like "Screw this, I won't be a slave to a pill" so I told my shrink I wanted off my meds, and we weaned me off.

    Since then, I've found out that acutane has a habit of making adolescent boys depressed. While the benefits outweighed the costs (and this isn't vanity speaking, think of quarter-sized cyst-pimples ALL over your chest, back, and face, all painful no matter how you lay in bed, all the time) I am wary of pills now.

    Nowadays, I find my moods are cyclic; they change with the moon, moreso now that I'm living back at home (as if THAT wasn't depressing enough). It was pretty bad during the summer, but it's getting better. *shrugs* it comes and goes. Never felt suicidal though; my dad off'd himself when I was 2 so I'm not particularly pleased with the concept. It took me a LONG time to recognize my depressions as cyclic though; now that I have I know roughly when it's going to happen, so I keep an eye out for the warning signs and do my best to ensure I stay level.
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    Oct 01, 2007 5:32 AM GMT
    Whoa wait, after reading your post, I kinda fell into a teenage depression too. It was a little after I finished a high dosage accutane treatment, I'm only realizing this now, but then again I was dealing with a lot of teenage stuff; friends, family, hormones, peer pressure, grades, etc. its tough for teens icon_razz.gif, but yeah the accutane helped me a lot, midway through S3 I had severe acne, start of S4 I had clear skin.
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    Oct 01, 2007 6:33 AM GMT
    in order:

    yes, I have

    which was the cause of your worst depression?

    recovering from years of drug and alcohol abuse (cocaine - great anti-depressant. for twenty minutes. horrible side effects...)

    in what age did it happen to you?

    on and off for the last 9 years (3 clean)

    how did you solve it?

    still trying to figure that out. asking for help.

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    Oct 01, 2007 7:29 AM GMT
    Yeah I suffer from depression. Depression is a very subjective thing, it differs from person to person really. It is also incredibly common, with about 1 in 5 people having at least one episode in their life. There is a huge difference between being depressed and having depression however. To be diagnosed with depression, you must have at least one week of a depressed mood state to be diagnosed with it. This is one thing I cant stress enough, everyone gets depressed but not everyone suffers from depression!!!

    I gradually lost interest in things that made me happy...i.e. goin to the gym, hanging out with mates etc...everything became a huge effort. Even having a shower required alot of effort on my behalf. So in a way my life had come to a gringing stop. This all occured for about a 5 month period before I sought help. So 'rksportswear' yes you can stop your life, and it is a common thing with depression.

    Telling a depressed person to exercise is like asking a blind person to read a book...I understand the benefits of exercise, but in reality it is not the most effective way of treating depression in its early stages. A depressed person who does not have the energy to get up out of bed certainly isnt going to get up and have a run. Exercise should be viewed as a way of preventing depression once steps have been taken to correct the imablances of dopamine and serotonin and norepinephrine in the brain.

    I am currently taking meds for it, yeah they make me feel better but the side effects are terrible if you miss two days. The cause was a combination of things, there is no clear way of looking at how depression starts because when diagnosed with it, psychologists look back to your childhood, your biological makeup and your current situations. So in other words there are MANY ways depression starts. The mean age for depression is usually in the mid to late twenties.

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    Oct 01, 2007 9:59 AM GMT
    mine was a combination of Zoloft ( hated the side effects of that example getting a hardon and not knowing it because I couldnt feel it and it would last a long time. Some girl friend of mine pointed it out to me that it had been like that for at least 2 hours.) And I had/still have Xanex for thoes days when my anxiety really goes off the wall which thankfully its been almost a year without and panic attacks. Working out and just letting go of the things from the past along with just enjoying a balanced amount of me time has seemed to work out well. Oh and Yoga. My Yogi is amazing. i love her.
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    Oct 01, 2007 10:05 AM GMT
    I admitted to my doctor in the spring that I felt depressed. I have been on a HIV medication called Sustiva that can cause depression and insomnia, and I was suffering both in spades. It didn't help that I lost my father suddenly last October, and an ex-roommate and friend the next month. My doctor has me on an anti-depressant (Cipralex) that has lifted the depression but I still have some insomnia (I sleep about 4-5 hours per night).

    Before I accepted I was gay I had at least three serious bouts of depression of which two were potentially very dangerous. I was not treated for any of them and managed to get through them unscathed. Since I have accepted myself my mental health has increased ten-fold.
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    Oct 01, 2007 3:43 PM GMT
    have you been depressed enough, to stop your life for a while?

    No, thankfully.

    which was the cause of your worst depression?

    It just comes and goes, sometimes without a cause.

    in what age did it happen to you?

    It started when I was a kid. My mother's side of the family all suffer's from some bad depression, and though there's no real science proving it's hereditary, there are studies that show if you come from a family with a history of depression, you are more likely to suffer from it. Who knows...

    how did you solve it?

    You don't solve depression. You manage it. There's a difference.
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    Oct 01, 2007 3:57 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear.

    I felt that way when I lost a parent - I agree with Rk and remember to keep physically active. Cardio gives most people a sense of well being. I was a psych minor in college, if your depression lasts for more than a few weeks, you might be clinically depressed seek professional help. IT gave a very good comprehensive list. Look for positive family/friend support as well!

    Good Luck. Be good to yourself!
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    Oct 01, 2007 5:06 PM GMT
    I have had times in my life that I just thought it was the worst.
    I thought about killing myself at several points in my life, but, then, I turned on my headphones and then the sun came up.

    My worst depression was when my older brother dropped dead from a clot in his brain.
    I mean, I talked to him at 8am when I got to work, he said the back of his head was killing him so, he was going to the Dr.
    My mom called me at 1 pm to tell me the Dr. called an ambulance and she would call me later.
    4:00 pm - My mom called me to tell me was pronounced dead and was on a life support machine.

    If I could have took the blood clot for him, I would have.

    I was 28 at the time, he was 30.

    I climbed inside of a bottle of Jack Daniels. I took a month off from work.

    My dad solved it for me.

    My dad came to my house, picked me up off the floor, threw me in the shower, poured all the liquor down the drain and shook me back to reality.
    He told me I had a mortgage to pay, a car payment to make, two dogs and two cats to take care of, a house to keep up and now I had a 5 and 7 year old nephews that would be watching every move I made and copying everything I did.

    I don't know your circumstances, but, is there a gay resouce center near you? They always have things for volunteers. Here in Dallas, they have a soup kitchen for HIV+ people that I volunteer at when I have some time on my hands, you can help serve food or wash dishes or clean up and they always have groups that get together, no matter what your age group.
    Have you thought about a part time job doing something you like?
    I got a job at Barnes and Noble just for fun on the weekends, I did'nt do shit there but cruise guys and listen to music and read books.
    I can't tell you how much I got laid at that mall.icon_twisted.gif

    Don't give up kid. Believe me, it get better.

    Keep yo' head up....

    If all else fails and you are bored. Pick up a set of barbells and pump until you can't pump anymore.

    You're young, and belive me you have a lot to look forward too, from money, work and guys you would not believe.

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    Oct 01, 2007 5:31 PM GMT
    Eat some chocolate:




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    Oct 01, 2007 6:46 PM GMT
    Wowicon_biggrin.gif everything was very interesting. I don't suffer from depression (now...lol) I thank that you have shared me your experiences.

    In some way, when you know problems of other, yours seem small.

    KingBee38, unfortunately, in Mexico many centers of voluntary help don't exist. But, I was integrated to a philanthropic group, and it's cool icon_smile.gif

    In my case, I suffered a strong depression one year ago. and it is true, everything was unbalanced.It was as a hole in that I collapsed more and more; and I had many problems in little time.

    attempt of sexual abuse, to move away from my friends, to lower my notes in the school, etc. etc.

    I can say that I solved it. After a doctor diagnosed me leukemia...the following week he had to confirm the diagnosis and, in the event of having leukemia, to begin the treatment.

    That week was as a "boom!" in my brain. being so young... with so many goals...

    It changed my perspective completely. I told me to myself, every day of the week: "today can be the last day"

    the diagnosis was negative! And I was happy as never. I took that day like a sign to wake up of the long dream.

    And although I had leukemia, I believe that I would enjoy the life. Because nobody has insured the life, It can be an illness or an accident what puts an end to us in any moment.



    I know, my english is bad...icon_neutral.gif

    Ojalá alguien entienda español, sería genial icon_idea.gif

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    Oct 02, 2007 7:08 PM GMT
    I definitely agree that you do not solve depression. You definitely manage. You find ways around it, ways to lesson. Other things to focus on and ways to brighten your mood.

    For me it runs badly on both sides of the family. When it hits it hits bad. Yes it has gotten so bad that I have wanted to take a break from my duties and responsibilities but I'm not a kid and know when is and isn't a good time.

    I try to take my breaks from the world during school breaks or summer. Other than that I keep going because the fact remains the same that i'll balance out after a few weeks and would like to do so to a stable environment.

    What got me down the most? If I told you it would seem like something from a teen drama. So i'll keep my past and present-unfortunately- to myself.