Creating chemsitry

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    Oct 21, 2014 7:29 AM GMT
    I'm going to quote something from Sex and the City Lol, which is a rare thing for me to do.

    **You either have chemistry or you don't!!***

    Stop trying to force things to happen. I think that by creating a fast chemistry or a connection, you're setting yourself up for failure. Dating experiences, of course, do play a role. But I believe that in the first 1-2 or 3 meetings, you will know for sure that if you're willing to go the distance with that guy. I like to let things occur naturally.
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    Oct 21, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    Noeton said One time recently a guy employed an innovative shortcut: he just grabbed my crotch in a restaurant... not that I would do that, but well, to each his own. icon_rolleyes.gif And remember, practice, practice, practice makes perfect! Good luck!


    What other form of touching would send a similar signal but would not be so direct?

    Thanks for keeping the convo going guys!
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    Oct 22, 2014 5:24 AM GMT
    For me all depends in the confidence that the guy man or person have...the way that present to the crowd or in the scene....and of course depends if that person notice me....means click with that said u go and talk...talk...invite him for a walk or drink or just simple leave the energy in between drive u!
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    Oct 22, 2014 7:01 AM GMT
    The problem with "creating" chemistry as opposed to just letting it flow naturally is that you will often fail to see that the guy is not into you because all your attention is focused on creating something that's not really there.

    Why manufacture chemistry when you can have it naturally with someone else. Find someone you naturally click with.
    The reason why people's personalities are different is because you won't naturally have chemistry with everybody.

    Things like smiling, being conversational, confidence, active listening and all the other hoohah is not really about creating chemistry as it is about having basic socialising skills.
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    Oct 22, 2014 8:00 AM GMT
    First. I really don't think one can artificially create 'chemistry'. Second, I think the practice of 'taking guys home in the 1st meeting' is quite unsafe. Sorry to sound so preachy.
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    Jan 10, 2015 11:40 PM GMT
    It's either there or it's not there. You do not have to do anything to create it. This brings to mind a couple of years ago, I was walking back from the grocery store, When I was approaching the corner, a guy and an older woman turned the corner. He and I had an instant connection, we stopped and he asked me directions. I think the older woman was his mom, so circumstances did not permit us to go further, but had he been alone, we would definitely have never let that moment get away! I was totally drawn to him, instantly.
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    Jan 10, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    What you're looking for is common ground, the chemistry is natural, but to optimize it you need confidence.
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    Jan 11, 2015 3:45 AM GMT
    It 's my opinion, you don't create chemistry..Either you have it or you don't. Meeting a guy at a bar can be problematic..What you may feel is chemistry, may be caused by too many jello shots. Never force compatibility, it ends up making it look like you're trying too hard..Guys hate that...My 2 bits