pazzy saidokay, this is an interesting topic because cyberbullying within recent years has become an issue since there's been people especially kiddos killing themselves over shit said or done to them by strangers. this is going to be long too.
i've been on web forums for like 14 odd years and seen folks basically doing that shit. the thing is it wasn't really that serious because it was just folks talking shit or trying to make themselves feel powerful over the computer because in real life, they were powerless. as a teenager, i remember going on web forums, saying whatever then having grown ass people in their 20s, 30s and even their 40s trying to belittle me. it was lame as fuck because at that time, here i am like 14, 15, 16 years old having adults like one dude who is 30 talking about how he's BETTER than me because he has a job, he has a girlfriend, how he was living the life in high school YET here he is on a website all caring about his "reputation" to the point where he'll even do things offline to protect it. some of these people were also lying, overexaggerating, making shit up and whatever else in their lives. they would also do it to other people as well. this was before myspace, facebook, and all these social media network sites popping up. i always seen people that feel the need to make themselves big on the internet to be lacking something in their real lives or trying to compensate for something. looking back at it now, i actually realize how lame and pathetic those people were. they REALLY took it that serious. back then, there was a line between someone's offline life and their online shit. people had a level of privacy. the people that usually tried to go pass the lines were usually the people with no lives, the losers, and etc. they also would make cliques and try to run other people out that they didn't like where they bullied them off the boards by trying to delve into their offline lives whether it be through hacking or manipulating them and shit. that was back in 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004. having privacy protected you from those lames.
obviously, when facebook and myspace came along, the same adults and like minded people that were all trying to be the shit on the computer ran over there and brought the same bullshit they were doing on web forums with the cyberbullying, need to make themselves look special or whatever OVER there. so obviously, these same people that were doing the shit on the web forums had a bit more power since they can further create whatever using social networking. i even had some of those losers trying to stalk me and hijack my myspace page that i used to have at the time by putting wallpaper of naked men on it. here i am trying to put my REAL shit up and those same losers were trying to infiltrate my privacy because they were trying to be the shit on a web forum.
so anyways, flipping to now, how many other web forums later and seeing RJ, younger people and etc, people raised in the era of facebook and myspace where they think it's normal to merge their online and offline shit together or whatever. when i came here and had some members trying to pull that bullshit on me, all trying to clique up and make certain people feel as if they don't belong where they try to make themselves look special, i looked at them like . then i see the same shit repeating itself from the days of way back when.... you know, i understand how social networking has changed shit up where the norm is basically, you have no more privacy or can't even be anonymous. people go like "it's weird if you hide your face". HOWEVER, you still have some of these folks who are like the folks that i talked about in the first big ass paragraph trying to use this shit as a means of making themselves powerful or whatever. there's plenty of guys on here that do it. even worse, being that this is a digital gay community, you're going to have guys who have insecurities, probably can't fit into any gay circles offline and etc, trying to recreate that shit and etc. so of course, that element is going to be on there. me personally, i know what the name of the game is so it doesn't phase me a bit.
the worst i've seen of it was one guy back in 2002 who is the same age as me getting shitted on because he was an eminem fan. they hacked his address, got his real name, got his mother's name, and kept harassing, prank calling him, sent pizzas to his house, and whatever you can name. they fucked with him nonstop and dude wasn't right upstairs either so he would just go crazy on the forums. there were females that were manipulated by guys where they would do the whole hookup thing or exchange naked pictures, sex tapes and then folks would go back on the boards to say that they had sex with them, drop naked pictures and etc. they were called "exposures". it was just foul because a few people lost their jobs, ended up having their boyfriends and girlfriends leave them and etc over that shit and it was just dickheads that had nothing better to do trying to have fun at hurting people.
The sad thing is that the people that you're likely speaking about were black themselves. Despite whatever problems blacks are usually associated with, a person like me likes to think that blacks are spared engaging in the kinds of behavior endemic to other groups of people or to everyone else. For example, I've always considered fraud and the general violation of trust higher sins than the sins black people are often associated with. Richard Nixon on the Nixon Tapes even shared my sentiment when he spoke of blacks being incapable of being communists or committing treason (while at the same time acknowledging rather racist views on blacks...). To a certain extant, perhaps we are all the same as people when it comes to our capacity for indecency and deviance.
For myself, I keep it real here. I think very few people can say this, but my online life is very much the same as, or reflects my offline life. And when I take full initiative in my offline life, it will also be reflected in my online life. Right now I'm horrendously lazy and it's reflected on here as well.