Guys who keep lying about their age...

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 31, 2014 7:12 PM GMT
    I haven't met too many guys that have lied about their age, other than, maybe a couple of years. I did have one exception, a guy said he was 43, but he admitted he was 60.
    I didn't ask him, he volunteered. When I asked him why the discrepancy, he said he doesn't look 60 (which I can say, he certainly didn't) and the he thought he looked 43 years old.

    My view was it was kind of unnecessary, but I try and be flexible. I don't appreciate it, but I didn't walk out either. He pointed out that he would be "judged" for being 60 (whatever that means). I largely thought the whole premise was kind of sad.... but what he said does have some truth I suppose.
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    Oct 31, 2014 7:15 PM GMT
    Never lied about my age and never gave a fuck about my partner's.
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    Oct 31, 2014 7:19 PM GMT
    Jms31 said

    Can you forgive someone for lying about their age?


    Depends on the circumstances -

    "Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies."

    (I'm really 115)
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    Oct 31, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
    no point in lying about it. I just turned 53 and I give zero fucks what people think about how i look.
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    Oct 31, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI got totally catfished by a guy on match who told me he was 36... Turns out he was 63, and all his pix were stolen.

    Had no tolerance... Caused a bit of a scene and left.


    Try to Skype, Facetime, other video messenger first before meeting up. Everyone is able to have access to this now, smart phones included. A live video chat ( even brief ) can save you a lot of unpleasant surprises. It won't change a fake age but you can definitely size them up enough if you have concerns about meeting them.
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    Oct 31, 2014 8:52 PM GMT
    I personally don't do it but the internet makes judging and dismissing people so easy. I'm sure a lot of guys want to hide flaws that would not hold them back in person but will hold them back online. So many young gay men are full of shit about not dating or fucking older dudes. I say full of shit because they would easily drop that preference for a dude who doesn't "look" his age.
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    Oct 31, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said you really are the spitting image of Eleanor Roosevelt

    She was a great lady. I'm flattered!
  • Nakedman1969

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    Oct 31, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    I haven't lied about my age at any time on any sites that I am on. These are my pictures, people have told me I don't look my age of 44. Why should I lie about my age. If you don't like my age oh well!!!!
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    Oct 31, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    pazzy said
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    It's just not ageism. There are way too many parameters which make any gay men insecure. It could be anything from race, body type, masculinity or looks.


    folks be getting insecure over the dumbest shit too. icon_lol.gif "he likes wearing bowties so i'm not going to talk to him". how you gonna reject a guy because he likes wearing bowties?


    I once had a guy reject me because I had a du rag on in one of my profile pics. I'm glad he rejected me. That was one of the stupidest things I had ever heard.
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    Oct 31, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    Art_Deco said you really are the spitting image of Eleanor Roosevelt

    She was a great lady. I'm flattered!


    You just like Her hats.
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    Oct 31, 2014 9:19 PM GMT
    silver_phoenix said Principles of Faggotry 63

    Over time, in his online life, a fag's cock size increases while his age decreases.

    Yup; 10 inches here.
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    Oct 31, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    Art_Deco said you really are the spitting image of Eleanor Roosevelt

    She was a great lady. I'm flattered!

    She was, and a lesbian, to boot.
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    Oct 31, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    As a practical matter, I don't care if somebody lies about his age as long as he looks like how he represented himself. It seems like a rather minor foible in the grand scheme of things
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    Oct 31, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidThe gay scene is ageist as fuck.

    Course guys are gonna lie (especially when gay men tend to be more 'preserved' and look great in their 40+'s) !

    If your over 30 your already over the hill with the younger guys and the old ones are out there chasing after chickens.



    I have met up with guys that say they are older than they really are so I used to make it a practice to meet at a bar so at least they are carded. Age I'm not concerned about fitness status is another matter.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Oct 31, 2014 10:40 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidThe gay scene is ageist as fuck.

    Course guys are gonna lie (especially when gay men tend to be more 'preserved' and look great in their 40+'s) !

    If your over 30 your already over the hill with the younger guys and the old ones are out there chasing after chickens.


    This topic makes me embarrassed (which is rare). A few years ago, I did choose to lop 4 or 5 years off of my age. Since I look younger than my real age, no one would call me out on it but I didn't like it. Since the men that I find most attractive are usually in their twenties, being 35 was ok but being 40 wasn't...so I played the game. I haven't lied about my age for years and now feel proud of it. While it does mean that some guys in their 20's wouldn't consider me a romantic or sexual prospect, I can live with that!
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    Oct 31, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    It bothers me so much when a guy lies about there age. Considering that I like older guys, it really turns me off when getting to know a guy and I find out that he has been lying about his age the whole time. Be insecure like that is a turn off. To me if youre hot, it doesn't matter if you're 40 or 50. Hot is hot.
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    Nov 01, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
    Once I get past mid-year between my birthdays, I start to round up.

    On the flip side, I hate when someone UNDER-estimates my age. Like, really? You friggen know people older than me who look younger than me.

    "Oh, but you seem so young at heart!"

    My heart IS young. I swapped it out with this sturdy college boy in a Satanic ritual a couple of years ago. But my face is still sunken and saggy. That kind of swap is too hard to get away with. So knock off the transparent "compliments," weirdos, I'm not voting Republican no matter how much you dote over me.

    Yes, I voted today.
  • davfit

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    Nov 01, 2014 1:12 AM GMT
    I dated a guy in college who said he was early 40's he had a amazing body!!!!! ..turns out was 58 when I found out I was a little freaked out..
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    Nov 01, 2014 1:29 AM GMT
    Of course i can forgive them.

    I mean to have to lie about your age just because they think guys wont talk to them (and they're right some guys won't) its kind of sad.

    Instead of looking at them like some sad pathetic old creepy men trying to hit on younger guys by pretending to be something they're not (which some are)

    See that a person is hurting in the inside. i mean weren't we all pretending to be something else ourselves at one point ? ie : in the closet

    /rant
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    Nov 01, 2014 1:34 AM GMT
    i hate liars. i met up with one guy who lied about his pictures.. i dont understand that.. if i meet up with u wudnt i find out immediately ur not who i thought u were?

    ive never realli cared about age.. have been with 40, 36, 27... year olds.. definitely didnt matter to me. but if u lie about ur age or even name or anything about u.. i just cant trust them especially since so many people online seem to be lying with the motive of getting laid.
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    Nov 01, 2014 3:51 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    __morphic__ said
    It's just not ageism. There are way too many parameters which make any gay men insecure. It could be anything from race, body type, masculinity or looks.


    folks be getting insecure over the dumbest shit too. icon_lol.gif "he likes wearing bowties so i'm not going to talk to him". how you gonna reject a guy because he likes wearing bowties?


    Hi. It is possible that you don't know this, but using nonstandard English such as the infinitive of the verb 'to be' as if it's the present form might make you seem ignorant in the eyes of others. Another critical error in your post was 'How you gonna...'. 'Gonna' is a widely used nonstandard word to mean 'going to', a way to introduce a future action. However, your lack of the auxiliary verb 'are' is improper because the use of a gerund ('going') will always require a form of the verb 'to be'.

    It is possible that you are unsure of how the verb 'to be' should be conjugated, as evidenced by your first critical error that was highlighted at the beginning of this post. Please inquire if you require any clarifications.
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    Nov 01, 2014 4:05 AM GMT
    Back when I was desperate enough to go out on "hook-ups," I was stung on a couple of occasions by guys with fake or old profile pictures. The only age-issues that I recall were on the other end. (Oh man, I hope (s)he really is 19...)
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    Nov 01, 2014 4:10 AM GMT
    The catch 22 here is that they say that they lie because age shouldn't really matter if there is a connection.
    The problem therein is that because they chose to lie about, it automatically made it an issue because if something isn't an issue why lie about it? Plus for almost everyone, using lies as a foundation never builds anything solid so I don't see why those who do lie get upset when it all comes crashing down. To be honest it's to be expected.

    When I was 24 I went on a date with a guy who was 49.
    He never lied about his age and I knew it from the beginning.
    We spent 2 weeks talking to each other over the phone getting to know each other, just being relaxed and having friendly conversation.
    So one of those afternoon conversations he asked me out over the phone and cutely enough he seemed surprised that I said yes. It turned out to be (at least in my mind) one of the most fun, relaxed and smooth dates I've ever had (albeit not that I've had many lol).

    Anyway the point is being honest from the start is the best policy because it's from there that you can build something genuine and legitimate. You don't have to worry about 'fronting' or 'acting' a certain way to carry their attention because you kind of already know each other in a sense and have accepted what you know about each other so far.
    I mean during that time I definitely had a general preference for someone closer to my age.
    He was a nice guy, we got along well as we were friends first, he was funny and polite, and so with that I was happy to overlook his age.

    I don't know if this method is actually a bad thing because I'm the type of person that won't say yes to a date without being at least somewhat acquainted in a friendship, but for me it's what I feel made the difference between establishing a good date or having a bad one.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 01, 2014 4:11 AM GMT
    The one good thing about guys lying about their age is you can definitely cross they off your list for every reason icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 01, 2014 7:54 AM GMT
    Avsigkommen said
    pazzy said
    __morphic__ said
    It's just not ageism. There are way too many parameters which make any gay men insecure. It could be anything from race, body type, masculinity or looks.


    folks be getting insecure over the dumbest shit too. icon_lol.gif "he likes wearing bowties so i'm not going to talk to him". how you gonna reject a guy because he likes wearing bowties?


    Hi. It is possible that you don't know this, but using nonstandard English such as the infinitive of the verb 'to be' as if it's the present form might make you seem ignorant in the eyes of others. Another critical error in your post was 'How you gonna...'. 'Gonna' is a widely used nonstandard word to mean 'going to', a way to introduce a future action. However, your lack of the auxiliary verb 'are' is improper because the use of a gerund ('going') will always require a form of the verb 'to be'.

    It is possible that you are unsure of how the verb 'to be' should be conjugated, as evidenced by your first critical error that was highlighted at the beginning of this post. Please inquire if you require any clarifications.

    He's speaking (writing) AAVE, African American Vernacular English. It's part of their cultural identity. An unfortunate choice for African Americans given that it's identified with white trailer trash, low brow, illiterates from the South.