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"I Drive a Mercedes" GUYS WHO USE MONEY AS AN INCENTIVE TO MEET

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Nov 09, 2014 9:27 PM GMT

So he drives a Mercedes... would that be an influencing factor in whether you meet a guy?

I've had a couple of instances where older, local guys in their 50's have used the line of "what they drive" and even where they live (generally a very nice area) as a way to encourage me to meet them. I had one call me "Jock boy" and the he drives a Mercedes.

Like who gives a damn, what a turn off to me. I'd more hear about the hard work they do in their careers or some down to earth activity, like time in the gym, their dogs, work on their homes or something that shows me a little of who they are and what they are really about.

So have you had similar experiences?

The Mercedes thing really turned me off. I'm sure they are very nice, but I just thought of some old rich dude. I'm not for sale....

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Nov 09, 2014 9:34 PM GMT

To each his own. Maybe that line would work on guys who are as materialistic as your suitors? At least they told you right away that you wouldn't get along.

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Nov 09, 2014 9:55 PM GMT

I had a date, when met through OkCupid. He is a real estate agent. We met at my condo first for a glass of wine, chatting before heading to the restaurant. When I decided to drive since I knew the area, we were heading to the garage to get my car and said "Oh you drive a Chevrolet"...I said yes. I said what do you drive. "Oh a BMW 4 series only the best car"...I knew then it would be a rough night of a date...sure enough he turned out to be a bad date. He obviously was judging on what I drove as a means of measuring someone. Suffice to say we never contacted each other, which was great do not need that kind of mentality.

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Nov 09, 2014 10:06 PM GMT

bhp91126 saidTo each his own. Maybe that line would work on guys who are as materialistic as your suitors? At least they told you right away that you wouldn't get along.

It used to upset as much as HndsmKansan! but I took it as good clue that the guy wasn't my type, and that was good, thank God! I once dated a guy with beautiful white BMW. he then went on by showing off its tv/radio/gps/cd/computer/and I can't remember what else stereo system in his car. We did have a nice dinner, and that is all I can remember! material things don't impress me at all!

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Nov 09, 2014 10:10 PM GMT

My husband takes the opposite approach. When I went to buy him a new car, knowing he has a dislike of foreign cars, and prefers Ford products, I offered to get him a Lincoln. He's had 2 of them before.

But no, he insisted I buy him the most inexpensive thing Ford made. a Focus. He no longer liked driving big cars, and as he said: "If I drive up in a brand new Lincoln, the twinks will think I have money, and be all over me. If I arrive in a Focus, they'll figure I'm poor and leave me alone."

Well, I wasn't too happy with that, because I'd have to ride in the car, too, and I'd have preferred a Lincoln. But OK, it was for him, and a present is meaningless if it isn't what the recipient wants. So he got his Focus. Which he still has, BTW, a great little car. He tends to keep his cars until the wheels fall off. Although I think the next car we get I'll get to choose, and it won't be no fucking Focus, since I mostly drive for both of us now anyway.

As for myself, when I was single I rode motorcycles, and attracted a totally different crowd. Who weren't twinks, but bears, leather guys, and other bikers. Most of whom **I** didn't want, just like my husband doesn't want twinks looking for rich sugar daddies.

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Nov 09, 2014 10:10 PM GMT

I once had a date with a banker who had a very swanky place in Mayfair. He seemed very keen, but there was just no chemistry there, so I made my excuses and left. Material wealth definitely wouldn't influence my attraction to someone.

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Nov 09, 2014 10:24 PM GMT

Honestly, HndsmKansan, you're a unique guy who takes care of himself. My lawyer friends...do not. I'm in engineering, refusing to work Sundays, so I can't criticize. Doctors are best watched from a distance. Relentlessly pursuing a 4-day workweek so they can spend 3day weekends anywhere that's out of town.

I used to inquire about careers to start an intelligent conversation. Now that I'm older and wiser, some careers lead to the friendzone if all we do is text.

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Nov 09, 2014 10:33 PM GMT

HndsmKansan saidSo he drives a Mercedes... would that be an influencing factor in whether you meet a guy?

I've had a couple of instances where older, local guys in their 50's have used the line of "what they drive" and even where they live (generally a very nice area) as a way to encourage me to meet them. I had one call me "Jock boy" and the he drives a Mercedes.

Like who gives a damn, what a turn off to me. I'd more hear about the hard work they do in their careers or some down to earth activity, like time in the gym, their dogs, work on their homes or something that shows me a little of who they are and what they are really about.

So have you had similar experiences?

The Mercedes thing really turned me off. I'm sure they are very nice, but I just thought of some old rich dude. I'm not for sale....

"So he drives a Mercedes"

Funny, having lived in LA for 30 years, my response would have been .... who doesn't?

Actually, I don't and won't. Big three for me and only big three. And yeah, I know in re FCA.

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Nov 09, 2014 10:57 PM GMT

Eh, one friend refuses to keep his 'Benz after the factory warranty runs out (ran over a water puddle in San Diego, water got into the engine through the air intake and destroyed it) wishes his commute was shorter.

With German brands pursuing the $30K price point market, I'm guilty of looking at Benze as I don't buy or rent cars without checking crash test ratings. But, the '14 C class small-offset crash tests(IIHS) are disappointing compared to the Chevy Malibu. (Never underestimate what I'm willing to endure to avoid buying a car called Malibu.)

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Nov 09, 2014 11:00 PM GMT

RobertF64 saidHonestly, HndsmKansan, you're a unique guy who takes care of himself. My lawyer friends...do not.

I'm in engineering, refusing to work Sundays, so I can't criticize.

Doctors are best watched from a distance. Relentlessly pursuing a 4-day workweek so they can spend 3day weekends anywhere that's out of town.

I used to inquire about careers to start an intelligent conversation.

Now that I'm older and wiser, some careers lead to "let's just be friends."

I LOLed your post. Yeah, HndsmKansan is a unique guy, a gold standard on this site.

My experience with lawyers is that they're standoffish, perhaps always thinking of conflicts of interest, I dunno. I know plenty, and they're friendly to meet at a party, but to get close to one personally - not easy.

I know nothing about engineers like yourself, but some observations about doctors:

My partner & I have been treated by some of the top specialists in this area, for various issues we've had. Doctors listed in magazines as being among the "Top 10 Doctors in Florida". Well, I don't deal with second rate, when our health is at stake. Why I no longer use the VA.

So I'm sitting in their (literally) palatial waiting rooms, and what magazines do I see on the table? A magazine totally devoted to ultra-expensive wristwatches. Now WHO reads that? Who would ever subscribe to that, but mega-millionaires?

And yachting magazines, featuring boats for tens of millions of dollars, Or publications showing homes in the 8-digit range. Why would I be interested in that? I've got cancer, I'm giving you every penny we have to cure me, and the reading material you're offering me is targeting multi-millionaires. Like yourself, I presume.

Ah well. Our doctors always deliver, we choose the best. But it does make me wonder about the mechanism of it. It reminds me of the number from the musical Camelot: "What Do the Simple Folk Do?"

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Nov 09, 2014 11:05 PM GMT

C-class, nah...sl 550 maybe, especially if I get to drive. People are attracted to power, success and personal drive.

But really, is there any difference between one guy using his car or house vs another guy using his body? There really isn't. Gotta use what you got to get what you want whether its a s-class or a nice ass.

I've never had the experience of someone trying to impress me with their wealth. Would be interesting though.

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Nov 09, 2014 11:13 PM GMT

Having an extremely expensive car would be a negative for me. I would see it as a status symbol and I don't think much of people who rely on status symbols to boost their image. Many people who have expensive cars are in debt up to their ears and can barely afford to lease their cars, yet alone buy them. It's not only expensive cars; I'd feel the same way about a Rolex watch.

A neighbor of a cöworker of mine announced that he had just got a better job and that within a couple weeks, he'd be getting a Mercedes. Obviously he couldn't save enough money that quickly to by a Mercedes. If people cannot afford cash to buy a car, then they should get an inexpensive car.

There are many wealthy people who downplay their wealth and are careful not to show it off. On the other hand, some people of very modest means do all they can to appear wealthy, often to their detriment.

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Nov 09, 2014 11:34 PM GMT

There is really nothing wrong with being wealthy and having a good life. The wrong bit is the guys sweating it.

Unless you are dating a legally blind guy, he'll see that you are driving a posh car. The moment you start boasting about it, the magic is gone.

I have by no means limited myself to dating the real estate experts only. Every conscious dude in possession of his basic mental abilities recognizes a multi-million dollar home vs. the cheap digs. Why would you want to state the obvious?

If you happen to be a genuine person, all that you have is you. He either likes this "you" or he doesn't. By telling him how hard you worked to get all of this, you are projecting yourself as a pitiful loser who always wanted to be a wannabe and nothing else.

I often get asked to give the tour of the house

So, I show them around. This is what it is. It works. No need to sweat it.

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Nov 09, 2014 11:36 PM GMT

Yeah, it's hard not to have such experiences. How is it any different from guys writing things like HUNG, MUSCLED, STUD, VGL etc on their profile? Everyone is selling himself in the gay dating/hook-up scene.

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Nov 09, 2014 11:47 PM GMT

RobertF64 saidEh, one friend refuses to keep his 'Benz after the factory warranty runs out (ran over a water puddle in San Diego, water got into the engine through the air intake and destroyed it) wishes it took more than three years to do it.

With German brands pursuing the $30K price point market, I'm guilty of looking at Benze as I don't buy or rent cars without checking crash test ratings. But, the '14 C class small-offset crash tests(IIHS) are disappointing compared to the Chevy Malibu. (Never underestimate what I'm willing to endure to avoid buying a car called Malibu.)

That's a hellofva big 'puddle' to hydrolock an engine.

"Benz after the factory warranty runs out"

The subsidized leasing can make sense provided that it runs concurrent with the factory warranty on something like that

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Nov 09, 2014 11:49 PM GMT

ai82 saidC-class, nah...sl 550 maybe, especially if I get to drive. People are attracted to power, success and personal drive.

But really, is there any difference between one guy using his car or house vs another guy using his body? There really isn't. Gotta use what you got to get what you want whether its a s-class or a nice ass.

I've never had the experience of someone trying to impress me with their wealth. Would be interesting though.

There's definitely truth to this. On some level, most, if not all, initial attraction is superficial on some level until you get to know the person, isn't it? Now, some may argue that they are attracted to a guy who they see giving food or help to the homeless. Ok, fair enough. But, if that guy wasn't physically attractive, would you truly feel the same way?
Look at this video. Most gay men would find the guy in the tank top incredibly attractive by his actions here. They would even argue that they found him attractive because of his actions only. But, if he was, say, a ragged, overweight, homeless man doing the same thing, would they say/feel the same?

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Admittedly, this is somewhat taking the point of the OP a bit on a tangent, but there's some correlation.

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Nov 09, 2014 11:49 PM GMT

lol I once had a date in Phoenix who insisted he show me all the gold coins he's amassed over the years.

I really think he counts them every night, makes little piles and ejaculates over them = poor guy needs some help

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Nov 10, 2014 12:02 AM GMT

FRE0 saidHaving an extremely expensive car would be a negative for me. I would see it as a status symbol and I don't think much of people who rely on status symbols to boost their image. Many people who have expensive cars are in debt up to their ears and can barely afford to lease their cars, yet alone buy them. It's not only expensive cars; I'd feel the same way about a Rolex watch.

A neighbor of a cöworker of mine announced that he had just got a better job and that within a couple weeks, he'd be getting a Mercedes. Obviously he couldn't save enough money that quickly to by a Mercedes. If people cannot afford cash to buy a car, then they should get an inexpensive car.

There are many wealthy people who downplay their wealth and are careful not to show it off. On the other hand, some people of very modest means do all they can to appear wealthy, often to their detriment.

I got the Mercrudes thing out of my system when I was in my 20s with a 72 600 and a 78 6.9. Bought a few years old at the Mannheim high line sale and lost money on both. The 600 was a fearsomely complex car with pneumatic everything ... even seats and windows.

Now, I will admit, I love to pick up a date in this, and I am looking for a big bruiser of a cruiser just like this 61 PIMPerial.

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Nov 10, 2014 12:10 AM GMT

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FRE0 saidHaving an extremely expensive car would be a negative for me. I would see it as a status symbol and I don't think much of people who rely on status symbols to boost their image. Many people who have expensive cars are in debt up to their ears and can barely afford to lease their cars, yet alone buy them. It's not only expensive cars; I'd feel the same way about a Rolex watch.

A neighbor of a cöworker of mine announced that he had just got a better job and that within a couple weeks, he'd be getting a Mercedes. Obviously he couldn't save enough money that quickly to by a Mercedes. If people cannot afford cash to buy a car, then they should get an inexpensive car.

There are many wealthy people who downplay their wealth and are careful not to show it off. On the other hand, some people of very modest means do all they can to appear wealthy, often to their detriment.

I got the Mercrudes thing out of my system when I was in my 20s with a 72 600 and a 78 6.9. Bought a few years old at the Mannheim high line sale and lost money on both. The 600 was a fearsomely complex car with pneumatic everything ... even seats and windows.

Now, I will admit, I love to pick up a date in this, and I am looking for a big bruiser of a cruiser just like this 61 PIMPerial.

Being conservative fiscally means an evaluation of all expenditures and eliminating those that are wasteful and unnecessary! I'm stunned!

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Nov 10, 2014 12:12 AM GMT

I would have to know the context in the situation.

It can go one of two ways:

I have discovered that when a person starts listing their assets, their 'value' more often than not it is the opening step to using that money to get what what they want.

In some cases, when a person starts listing their assets they do so to see what kind of person you are. Apparently there is gold-diggers-syndrome which does afflict many who have wealth.

I would automatically get wary if the opening lines are 'I have a Mercedes' - however I would temper that with other things we talk about.

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Nov 10, 2014 12:42 AM GMT

See it is different when you meet in person since usually you see them first. I met this guy at a Wawa once long time ago who was driving a restored, convertible Mercedes. He wasn't old though, 34. The car impressed my friend more than it did me, unless of course he planned on giving it to me

. Anyhow he turned out to be a dick, never spoke to him again after that night.

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Nov 10, 2014 12:45 AM GMT

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FRE0 saidHaving an extremely expensive car would be a negative for me. I would see it as a status symbol and I don't think much of people who rely on status symbols to boost their image. Many people who have expensive cars are in debt up to their ears and can barely afford to lease their cars, yet alone buy them. It's not only expensive cars; I'd feel the same way about a Rolex watch.

A neighbor of a cöworker of mine announced that he had just got a better job and that within a couple weeks, he'd be getting a Mercedes. Obviously he couldn't save enough money that quickly to by a Mercedes. If people cannot afford cash to buy a car, then they should get an inexpensive car.

There are many wealthy people who downplay their wealth and are careful not to show it off. On the other hand, some people of very modest means do all they can to appear wealthy, often to their detriment.

I got the Mercrudes thing out of my system when I was in my 20s with a 72 600 and a 78 6.9. Bought a few years old at the Mannheim high line sale and lost money on both. The 600 was a fearsomely complex car with pneumatic everything ... even seats and windows.

Now, I will admit, I love to pick up a date in this, and I am looking for a big bruiser of a cruiser just like this 61 PIMPerial.

Being conservative fiscally means an evaluation of all expenditures and eliminating those that are wasteful and unnecessary! I'm stunned!

Given that you're a CFP I presume, I'm stunned that you're stunned.

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Nov 10, 2014 1:00 AM GMT

Why are you stunned?

For the right type of investor it's an investment 'vehicle' that's hard to beat. True, you gotta really know what you're doing, but that's true of most any investment. If you do you can knock a few out of the park.

http://www.hagerty.com/valuationtools/HVT/VehicleSearch/Report?vc=1372269

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http://www.hagerty.com/valuationtools/HVT/VehicleSearch/Report?vc=868241

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Nov 10, 2014 1:03 AM GMT

What color was the Mercedes???

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Nov 10, 2014 1:06 AM GMT

I'd be more impress if he shows up in a Bat-mobile and dresses as Batman.

Urg, pretentious guys with their attitude **Ohh, look at me, I drive a Mercedes!!** lol

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