Force saidI recently learned that a friend of mine that I have had for over three years does not use protection with all of his partners. He is open about his HIV status and I know he takes medication.
( He is a very bitter person, which is the main reason I never liked him in a romantic way, and he has this whole "well no one told me" bullshit outlook on the situation.(This opinion not a fact).
IF you found out a friend of yours does this would you address them about it. I just left it alone with no real response or judgements.
What a bastard.
Is he? In green
it says he is on meds (undetectable?), he is open about his HIV status and doesn't use protection with all
his partners. That implies he does use "protection" (which I assume he means condoms) with SOME of his partners.
The rest is conjecture and immaterial.
If he is Undetectable, like PrEP, it is considered "protection" alone or in combination with condoms.
There are now at least five strategies that reasonably constitute ‘safe sex', provided that certain parameters are met. Theyare:
The use of Condoms during casual encounters between men of unknown or discordant serostatus.
HIV negative men taking effective pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP)
Men living with HIV who only have sex without condoms when they have a sustained undetectable viral load (UVL) and in the absence
of sexually transmissible infections (STIs).
Effective use of serosorting between HIV positive men.
Effective negotiated safety agreementshttp://www.acon.org.au/sites/default/files/What-is-Safe-Sex-Position-2014.pdf
In fact, the title "Do you have a friend who intentionally spreads HIV?"
is totally misleading. Is the OP assuming Undetectable is causing the spread of HIV? We don't know if he is spreading HIV even if he is NOT undetectable, since he is "open about his status" and uses "protection" with "some" of his partners. He may be sero-sorting with other POZ guys and not using protection. He may get an STD but he's not spreading HIV. He may be using protection with the Negative guys he's "open" with.
I don't see how he is a bastard at all, he's open about his status, he using protection when appropriate. He's on his Meds. If he isn't Undetectable yet, that should be his goal.