scruffLA saidTread with caution, I had a fuck bud once (Matt), it turned horrible when I told him I started developing 'feelings' for him after a few times, he accused me of being a co-dependent person when that is very far from the truth, I have been extremely independent my entire life, if anything, this independency gets in the way of a close relationship.
Approach him this way:
Ask him, how would he feel if the two of you became more than just sex buddies. If he answers with, or even hints that he doesn't want that. Then leave it alone and just enjoy each other. The 'problem' will arise if one of you gets the 'love' bug and the other isn't interested.
I have often wondered, if the sex and attraction is great, which we know gay men base each other on in the beginning, then why do some gay men get turned off when more than just sex and attraction are presented. Maybe having real feelings for the guy you are having sex with is too much for some, it becomes to "women like", because women associate sex with love, men can supposedly turn off the feelings of love and just enjoy the sex
Good luck, but don't get hurt in the process
Yeah, I think a lot of men have intimacy issues that keeps them from getting too close. I'm definitely not in love with him. I don't know him well enough for that, so not worried about getting hurt. I'm just beginning to realize he's too cool a guy to not at least explore further.
Well, you might have to wait then, feelings of love have to be mutual to avoid either party getting hurt. If you do approach him with the dating-getting closer subject, you will have to be clear that you are not in love with him.
Maybe he has secret feelings for you, now, but he knows you don't have the same for him so he is unwilling to bring it up because he will be the one who gets hurt.
Given this, I wouldn't say anything to him about you wanting to try dating, it may send mixed signals, you are not interested in love, but you want to date? I would be confused as well. Let him bring it up, if ever, until then just enjoy the sex with your bud.