Why Preferring to Date One Race Over Another Makes You a Racist

  • haggiedc2

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    Dec 18, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    Cash saidI have dated every race and ethnicity under the sun.

    Hot is HOT no matter what continent they ( or their ancestors) come from.

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    AMEN to THAT!!!
  • haggiedc2

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    Dec 18, 2014 7:15 AM GMT
    Let's see....
    Black... Check
    White... Check
    Asian... Check
    Latin... Check
    Hispanic..Check
    Arab... Check
    American Indian.. Check
    East Indian... Check
    Pacific Islander...Check
    Mid Eastern... Check
    Tall... Check
    Short... Check
    Bear.. Check
    Cub... Check
    Slim... Check
    Heavy... Check...

    I guess it is safe to say... I am not a racist... but must be a whore.....
    Preferences are fine.. we all have them.. but when you exclude... then a racist you are... so if that is you... admit it and own it... and get from the rock you are under and experience life....
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    Dec 18, 2014 7:27 AM GMT
    There are sexy guys in every race.
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    Dec 18, 2014 7:38 AM GMT
    wesv saidThere are sexy guys in every race.


    Agreed.
  • Camz03

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    Dec 18, 2014 9:22 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidOh pleeeeeeeeeze. You can't win for losing in the gay community. If I'm a white man who prefers to date Asians I'm called a Rice Queen. If I date blacks I'm called a Chocolate Chaser. If I date a Latino I'm called a Bean Queen or some other pejorative term. If I date whites I'm a racist.

    I will date whomever I want and apologize to no one for it because in the end it is ME waking up to the other person in bed with me not the fucking gay community.

    For the record I've been with white, Asian and Latin. The black man I was interested in wasn't interested in me (racist bastard) icon_wink.gif

    The majority have been Latin. I like their vibe.


    +100
    And I have to agree on Latino guys ;)
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    Dec 18, 2014 10:15 AM GMT
    I started out dating Asian guys similar to me, then majority white/Aussie guys, then to a couple of Latino guys and 1 Middle Eastern mixed guy. It's a different experience with all of them. But I kinda prefer nerdy, geeky, smart cute/hot guys (and that tends to fall under White/Asian category). I'm not saying Latino/Black men can't be geeky hot LOL, I haven't really met many of them. But yeah, I think some Mixed Black/Latino men are sexy. Yeah, just date whoever you want, it's your business who you want to sleep with. You don't have to explain yourself.

    **Side note: I think Latino men can be very hot/dramatic in relationship. LOL, maybe just my gay Mexican best friend, my god, the stories I heard about his life. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gificon_redface.gif
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    Dec 18, 2014 3:51 PM GMT
    Kovyn said
    TallSoCal saidI also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black.


    You don't like fried chicken? icon_eek.gif

    OP, I'm white and only turned on by whites. I could never hookup with Asians/blacks/etc for so many reasons. But I'm not racist. If anyone ever called me racist for that reason irl, I'd punch their teeth in. Get over it.


    So, you admit to not even considering the possibility of trying to give another ethnicity the time of day unless they're white...Yeah. You're not racist...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 18, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    TallSoCal said
    Kovyn said
    TallSoCal saidI also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black.


    You don't like fried chicken? icon_eek.gif

    OP, I'm white and only turned on by whites. I could never hookup with Asians/blacks/etc for so many reasons. But I'm not racist. If anyone ever called me racist for that reason irl, I'd punch their teeth in. Get over it.


    So, you admit to not even considering the possibility of trying to give another ethnicity the time of day unless they're white...Yeah. You're not racist...icon_rolleyes.gif

    He did say he has sooo many reasons.icon_rolleyes.gif

    Lol, smh

    (tbh he seems to have a some issues, so I would expect that he's not quite the man he will become once he works it all out.... At least one can hope!!)
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    Dec 18, 2014 6:00 PM GMT
    ryyyder said
    TallSoCal saidThis guy was a little "ranty", but I get what he's saying. I agree because some people don't even get a chance because of the color of their skin or the color of their hair. Not all blacks are the same just like not all Asians of Hispanics are the same. I'm constantly told that I'm NOT black because I grew up in a suburban neighborhood, speak properly and don't really care for rap. I also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black. It means I grew up differently than another person. When people say to me, "This is difference for me because I'm not really attracted to black guys, but you're different" or "You're actually pretty attractive for a black guy"...That's not exactly a compliment. To make it a preference would mean that a choice was made only after sampling every ethnicity the world has to offer. BUT people can choose who they want to be with because they're the ones who will be with them. But just call it what it is.


    I'm surprised you even came up with that comment> Arent you one of those black guys that dosent date black guys for the same reasons you just said in your comment ? If i remember correctly you said ....

    TallSoCal saidPersonally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/197702/

    in the "Why Do So Many Black Guys Only Like Whites" thread

    your comments are conflicting and somewhat hypocritical


    Lol thanks for clocking that dude. I find it amazing how people will jump through hops to justify their own bigotry.
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    Dec 18, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    This thread reminds me of a white associate who chastises me for having never dated a white guy. I've been turned down by so many white guys. This same dude is married to a black dude who only dates whites. He even admits that his husband would have never given him a chance had he been black. Everytime he chastises me I have to bite my tongue.
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    Dec 18, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    TallSoCal said
    ryyyder said
    TallSoCal saidThis guy was a little "ranty", but I get what he's saying. I agree because some people don't even get a chance because of the color of their skin or the color of their hair. Not all blacks are the same just like not all Asians of Hispanics are the same. I'm constantly told that I'm NOT black because I grew up in a suburban neighborhood, speak properly and don't really care for rap. I also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black. It means I grew up differently than another person. When people say to me, "This is difference for me because I'm not really attracted to black guys, but you're different" or "You're actually pretty attractive for a black guy"...That's not exactly a compliment. To make it a preference would mean that a choice was made only after sampling every ethnicity the world has to offer. BUT people can choose who they want to be with because they're the ones who will be with them. But just call it what it is.


    I'm surprised you even came up with that comment> Arent you one of those black guys that dosent date black guys for the same reasons you just said in your comment ? If i remember correctly you said ....

    TallSoCal saidPersonally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/197702/

    in the "Why Do So Many Black Guys Only Like Whites" thread

    your comments are conflicting and somewhat hypocritical

    I also said "in MY experience in LA". I'm not in LA anymore, and I've dated black guys. I used that as an example because, at the time, the area was primarily black. It's mostly Hispanic now, but the level of education and intellect hasn't changed, unfortunately. I date whomever I find attractive. Ethnicity excluded. But I don't care how hot someone is or what color they are. If they only have half a brain, I won't be interested.


    Why even make that generalization though. It makes you come off as close minded. Their are so many ways to be and display intelligence. Then again it took me falling for a man I originally considered less intelligent than me to get over that way of thinking.
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    Dec 18, 2014 6:54 PM GMT
    The funny irony is that dudes that preach the most about interracial relationships (whites generally) only date their own race. Why would a white gay dude that has only ever dated white guys have any credibility in this topic?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 18, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidThis thread reminds me of a white associate who chastises me for having never dated a white guy. I've been turned down by so many white guys. This same dude is married to a black dude who only dates whites. He even admits that his husband would have never given him a chance had he been black. Everytime he chastises me I have to bite my tongue.

    Why do you have to bite your tongue?
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    Dec 18, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    cosmicvyxen saidThe funny irony is that dudes that preach the most about interracial relationships (whites generally) only date their own race. Why would a white gay dude that has only ever dated white guys have any credibility in this topic?

    I'm not sure they have credibility in the sense you mean, but as the posts add up they give credibility to the topic itself as being an issue in the gay community that really is troubling and problematic in almost every way that problems can arise from it. It leaves me thinking that the community is divided by sides that harbor resentment and a lot of unspoken issues are probably under that as well.

    I just remember the early lgbt slogan silence = death, and it seems like that's true about what goes on internally within the community too.
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    Dec 18, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    Why do people waste soooooooo much time on this issue? If someone doesn't want to date you just because your skin is a particular shade consider it their loss and move on. If anyone doesn't want to date me because I'm 25 years older than they I don't cry that they're ageist and cast aspersions on them.

    Seeing racism in everything just waters down the meaning of the word. I swear some people see racism in an empty glass.

    If racism is omnipresent in all things, does it really exist? If everything was equally as beautiful we wouldn't have had the need to invent a word to describe it. Let's reserve the use of the word racism for issues that matter.
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    muscleboundfem said
    TallSoCal said
    ryyyder said
    TallSoCal saidThis guy was a little "ranty", but I get what he's saying. I agree because some people don't even get a chance because of the color of their skin or the color of their hair. Not all blacks are the same just like not all Asians of Hispanics are the same. I'm constantly told that I'm NOT black because I grew up in a suburban neighborhood, speak properly and don't really care for rap. I also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black. It means I grew up differently than another person. When people say to me, "This is difference for me because I'm not really attracted to black guys, but you're different" or "You're actually pretty attractive for a black guy"...That's not exactly a compliment. To make it a preference would mean that a choice was made only after sampling every ethnicity the world has to offer. BUT people can choose who they want to be with because they're the ones who will be with them. But just call it what it is.


    I'm surprised you even came up with that comment> Arent you one of those black guys that dosent date black guys for the same reasons you just said in your comment ? If i remember correctly you said ....

    TallSoCal saidPersonally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/197702/

    in the "Why Do So Many Black Guys Only Like Whites" thread

    your comments are conflicting and somewhat hypocritical

    I also said "in MY experience in LA". I'm not in LA anymore, and I've dated black guys. I used that as an example because, at the time, the area was primarily black. It's mostly Hispanic now, but the level of education and intellect hasn't changed, unfortunately. I date whomever I find attractive. Ethnicity excluded. But I don't care how hot someone is or what color they are. If they only have half a brain, I won't be interested.


    Why even make that generalization though. It makes you come off as close minded. Their are so many ways to be and display intelligence. Then again it took me falling for a man I originally considered less intelligent than me to get over that way of thinking.


    This whole topic is a generalization. Thinking an entire ethnicity is unattractive or less than because of skin color. I'm sure there are more than a few ways to display intelligence. The way you talk to people and carry yourself SHOULD be number one because that's what's displayed. That's what's advertised. I used that generalization because that's what I grew up with and was around. And, again, in MY experience, I've noticied black people are often number 1 when racial "preference" is involved. Education and intelligence has nothing to do with what color someone is. But what you choose to do with it based on how you're perceived to society is another story.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 18, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhy do people waste soooooooo much time on this issue? If someone doesn't want to date you just because your skin is a particular shade consider it their loss and move on. If anyone doesn't want to date me because I'm 25 years older than they I don't cry that they're ageist and cast aspersions on them.

    Seeing racism in everything just waters down the meaning of the word. I swear some people see racism in an empty glass.

    If racism is omnipresent in all things, does it really exist? If everything was equally as beautiful we wouldn't have had the need to invent a word to describe it. Let's reserve the use of the word racism for issues that matter.

    For me, love is the issue that matters the most. I can't help but think that you have some kind of superiority complex, where you like to put others down while talking about how nothing could ever hurt you.
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    Dec 18, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
    As long as they do some sports and have a toned or athletic body I could not care less. They have to have nice teeth and they have to be healthy.

    Those are my preferences. Healthy and sporty. They have to be human males. If they have blue skin and he plays tennis and go to the gym, I would not mind dating him. He has to have an average sized dick and nice bum.



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    Dec 18, 2014 8:39 PM GMT
    Kovyn said
    HottJoe said
    Well! Looks like someone touched a nerve.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah; stupid people piss me off.


    Many intelligent people are arrogant. It's how you treat people that matters. Why are people stupid? Lack of education? Poor parenting? It is how you treat "stupid" people.

    Sorry mate, but impatience is also not a good quality to have. Sometimes it is what you say that pisses people off.
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    Dec 18, 2014 8:40 PM GMT
    The only real way to show intelligence is to produce something out of nothing, whether that be a business, an invention, a work of art, a philosophy, a discovery, and even athletic success can be a measure of intelligence, because hard work motivation and discipline are traits of intelligence.
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    Dec 18, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
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    HottJoe saidThe only real way to show intelligence is to produce something out of nothing, whether that be a business, an invention, a work of art, a philosophy, a discovery, and even athletic success can be a measure of intelligence, because hard work motivation and discipline are traits of intelligence.


    the truth. there's many smart people out there but the booksmart ones or the people that are able to "talk smart" get all the credit.


    The discoverer (Watson) of DNA said some racist remarks. Clever people can be racist too.
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    muscleboundfem saidThis thread reminds me of a white associate who chastises me for having never dated a white guy. I've been turned down by so many white guys. This same dude is married to a black dude who only dates whites. He even admits that his husband would have never given him a chance had he been black. Every time he chastises me I have to bite my tongue.


    What the hell kind of marriage is that, besides one of convenience? Tell him to shut up the next time he opens his fat trap!
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    cosmicvyxen saidThe funny irony is that dudes that preach the most about interracial relationships (whites generally) only date their own race. Why would a white gay dude that has only ever dated white guys have any credibility in this topic?


    I've noticed that too: several years ago, I took a black friend of mine, and fellow gay GOPer active in Log Cabin, to an HRC fundraiser at the home of someone I thought was a friend. You should have seen the stares and heard the silence when we walked in! Plenty of people talked to me, perhaps because, as one said, "We want you to be come a member of our Federal Club!" one of their big bucks donor groups; I declined. However, they - gay men and lesbians both - studiously ignored my friend, which could also be seen as a sort of presumptuous economic discrimination as well. All of which was tremendously amusing to us two, especially considering he was an up and coming Silicon Valley exec who was making at least as much as I, and probably much more from all the stock options they toss around like Frisbees!
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    Dec 18, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    1AlanZSky said
    pazzy said
    HottJoe saidThe only real way to show intelligence is to produce something out of nothing, whether that be a business, an invention, a work of art, a philosophy, a discovery, and even athletic success can be a measure of intelligence, because hard work motivation and discipline are traits of intelligence.


    the truth. there's many smart people out there but the booksmart ones or the people that are able to "talk smart" get all the credit.


    The discoverer (Watson) of DNA said some racist remarks. Clever people can be racist too.

    Well yeah and they can be homophobic and sexist and discriminate against the poor, or be abusive toward everyone they know. Intelligent people don't come equipped with humanity. Humanity and love are the simplest things. Anyone can be kind. It can be in someone's nature to be kind, and it can also be taught to any wise man or fool.
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    Dec 18, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    TallSoCal said
    muscleboundfem said
    TallSoCal said
    ryyyder said
    TallSoCal saidThis guy was a little "ranty", but I get what he's saying. I agree because some people don't even get a chance because of the color of their skin or the color of their hair. Not all blacks are the same just like not all Asians of Hispanics are the same. I'm constantly told that I'm NOT black because I grew up in a suburban neighborhood, speak properly and don't really care for rap. I also don't like basketball or fried chicken, but that doesn't make me any less black. It means I grew up differently than another person. When people say to me, "This is difference for me because I'm not really attracted to black guys, but you're different" or "You're actually pretty attractive for a black guy"...That's not exactly a compliment. To make it a preference would mean that a choice was made only after sampling every ethnicity the world has to offer. BUT people can choose who they want to be with because they're the ones who will be with them. But just call it what it is.


    I'm surprised you even came up with that comment> Arent you one of those black guys that dosent date black guys for the same reasons you just said in your comment ? If i remember correctly you said ....

    TallSoCal saidPersonally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/197702/

    in the "Why Do So Many Black Guys Only Like Whites" thread

    your comments are conflicting and somewhat hypocritical

    I also said "in MY experience in LA". I'm not in LA anymore, and I've dated black guys. I used that as an example because, at the time, the area was primarily black. It's mostly Hispanic now, but the level of education and intellect hasn't changed, unfortunately. I date whomever I find attractive. Ethnicity excluded. But I don't care how hot someone is or what color they are. If they only have half a brain, I won't be interested.


    Why even make that generalization though. It makes you come off as close minded. Their are so many ways to be and display intelligence. Then again it took me falling for a man I originally considered less intelligent than me to get over that way of thinking.


    This whole topic is a generalization. Thinking an entire ethnicity is unattractive or less than because of skin color. I'm sure there are more than a few ways to display intelligence. The way you talk to people and carry yourself SHOULD be number one because that's what's displayed. That's what's advertised. I used that generalization because that's what I grew up with and was around. And, again, in MY experience, I've noticied black people are often number 1 when racial "preference" is involved. Education and intelligence has nothing to do with what color someone is. But what you choose to do with it based on how you're perceived to society is another story.


    To say that the way you carry yourself should be number one is definitely closed minded in my opinion. We would loose most of our diversity and nearly all of our artist if people felt they HAD to behave a certain way to be acceptable. Don't straight people use that as a weapon against out gay men. The people you have rejected because you choose not to invest in them nearly based on your own prejudices are better off without you.