confused and need advice

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    Dec 19, 2014 2:59 AM GMT
    so i was hoping you guys here and help me out with a problem i have been having. i tried searching the form and couldnt find anything that guided me.

    for some time i really an aroused by the thought of bottoming. i am comfortable playing with my butt and really enjoy the adventures. however i recently met a guy online and decided to meet. when we met we clicked and we had some oral fun. i decided not to do anal, it just didnt feel right. fast forward to guy number 2. we met and clicked. however as soon as it came time to get hot and heavy i freaked out and left. i felt like i could not go through with oral or anything. i dont really care about labels and dont really get nervous with women. however the thought of bottoming is in my mind 24/7 and every time i try to act on it i just freak the hell put. i was hoping if anyone could help out on this. i have such vivid fantasies in my mind but when it has the chance to be real all hell breaks loose.
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    Dec 19, 2014 3:06 AM GMT
  • Bunjamon

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    Dec 19, 2014 3:59 AM GMT
    Anal sex isn't the be-all end-all of gay sex. If you're nervous, tell the guy you with that you're nervous but that you find the idea of him topping you arousing. He should do what he can to make you feel comfortable, and only if you're relaxed will it be pleasurable anyway. If you're not feeling it, then don't do it.

    You can bring these things up before you meet in person, too, so then it doesn't feel so awkward saying them out loud.
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    Dec 19, 2014 12:57 PM GMT
    thanks bunjamon. i always seem to forget open communication is the key.

    I did some more digging last night and found this thread as well which helped too. i thought i would share it for random knowledge

    anyway thank you for replying

    btw i love acuras my self, but i do not get that plate reference!