It still feels weird to kiss a guy

  • FRE0

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    Dec 29, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    Not everyone is into passionate kissing and that's OK. Sometimes snuggling is more important.

    It would help to get to know a guy before doing anything in bed. Then, instead of rushing into kissing or sex, exchange full body rubs and engage in plenty of cuddling. It might help to sleep and cuddle with a guy a couple times before having sex.

    Rushing into things too quickly does not work for everyone.
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    Dec 29, 2014 1:21 AM GMT
    The original post concerns me.
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    Dec 29, 2014 1:29 AM GMT
    darius30 saidThe original post concerns me.

    In what way?
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    Dec 29, 2014 1:43 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThere are a thousand speeds to kissing. You describe one but kissing is about communicating and exploring, not just face fucking (which is also good). You are gay. Stop with the self-hate. Make love to a man. Slow down and feel him. Brush soft lips across across soft lips and build tempo. Relax and let it wash over you.


    Great advice...and hot!
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    Dec 29, 2014 2:52 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Inque said
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    Inque saidDoes anyone else ever think 'I'm kissing a man. Why am I doing this?'

    No. If you don't kiss, I just think you aren't worth my time. Bye!


    It just feels weird. Whenever I'm with a guy I have to coach myself into first. But I'm so horny when I'm alone

    So, sounds like you are straight and you are just using guys to get off because they are easier to pick than women. Happens all the time, you're not the first.


    I'm definitely gay there's just a weird disconnect. I've noticed though with men who look nothing like me at all I can be very passionate. Like the guy in the first post was my complete opposite. I dated a bisexual for a while who made me extremely happy until he wanted to go back to women. Although kissing him wasn't electric I'd loved doing it. He was nothing like me. Black guys, bigger guys, tall guys, guys with similar personalities or guys who remind me of my dad I can't get excited about but I push myself to have sex and kiss them anyway
  • vickyjohn73

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    Dec 29, 2014 6:28 AM GMT
    I love to be kissed...Please contact me

    vickyjohn73@yahoo.ca
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    Dec 29, 2014 9:32 AM GMT
    I love kissing a guy, It just comes naturally when it's the right time.
  • buddycat

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    Dec 29, 2014 10:55 AM GMT
    With some guys, that is all I have done with them. With others, we kissed for a long time. Some are not that good and go all crazy with their tongue which is kind of a turn off.
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    Dec 29, 2014 11:19 AM GMT
    Having already posted here how I'm not a big fan of kissing anyone, not just guys, at least not long & passionately, I'll tell a contrasting personal anecdote.

    At the close of my Army career, and subsequently coming out 6 months after my retirement, the oddest thing began to spontaneously and subconsciously happen to me.

    I'd be sitting at a big conference table having a meeting or briefing as usual, with a dozen or so fellow Colonels, Lt. Colonels, and sometimes a General Officer present, and I'd suddenly get an urge to kiss the male Officer sitting next to me!

    Serio

    and a few months laterusly! I'd be staring at his handsome face dreamily (and gawd, can buff, mature men in their prime, wearing a military uniform, look hawt!), and I'd suddenly involuntarily lurch for his cheek with my lips. Thanks heavens I always caught myself at the last moment, or I would have been taken out and summarily shot, I'm sure.

    What I'd do to cover myself was to continue the lurch down to the floor, excusing myself loudly that I had dropped my pen.

    It was the strangest thing, and I've never had this kissing reflex happen again in my life. I've since wondered if it was my inherent gayness bursting to be finally set free, which finally happened a few months later. But whatever the explanation, I apparently had an overwhelming urge to kiss a man very, very badly! icon_eek.gif

    And a few months later I finally did. A thrill, of sorts, but still not my favorite thing. As I said, I'm just not a kissing guy. icon_confused.gif
  • Muscles25

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    Dec 29, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    There is nothing hotter than kissing a guy.
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    Dec 29, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    Muscles25 saidThere is nothing hotter than kissing a guy.

    Not to mention, having a guy kiss YOU.

    Having written above that I'm not a kissing passionately kinda guy, which is true, having a man come up and kiss me is still a rush. There's no 06e9ca7e-4208-4b63-9a9c-2643fe6bd213_zps tattooed on THESE lips!
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 29, 2014 6:29 PM GMT
    Inque said
    Destinharbor saidThere are a thousand speeds to kissing. You describe one but kissing is about communicating and exploring, not just face fucking (which is also good). You are gay. Stop with the self-hate. Make love to a man. Slow down and feel him. Brush soft lips across across soft lips and build tempo. Relax and let it wash over you.


    Even when the guy is cute I get nervous and I don't know what to do.

    I just try not to focus on what I'm doing and get it over with. I get very uncomfortable and I don't know why. I've tried thinking about something else while I'm kissing him.

    Find some guy you know and like both mentally and physically and tell him you've had trouble with this. That you'd like to explore kissing, even take a lesson. I think if you come at it from that angle, no pressure, and try to clear your mind as opposed to letting it take over, you'll get it. Can't hurt to try and I promise, you'll laugh and enjoy the time. Remember when sex was scary? Not now, right? Same with kissing. Everyone thinks kissing is something that should just come naturally but it really isn't. There are techniques that you have to learn. But once you do, you can use these to express love, playfulness, passion, tenderness. And it will feel wonderful.
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    Dec 30, 2014 12:02 AM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    Inque said
    Destinharbor saidThere are a thousand speeds to kissing. You describe one but kissing is about communicating and exploring, not just face fucking (which is also good). You are gay. Stop with the self-hate. Make love to a man. Slow down and feel him. Brush soft lips across across soft lips and build tempo. Relax and let it wash over you.


    Even when the guy is cute I get nervous and I don't know what to do.

    I just try not to focus on what I'm doing and get it over with. I get very uncomfortable and I don't know why. I've tried thinking about something else while I'm kissing him.

    Find some guy you know and like both mentally and physically and tell him you've had trouble with this. That you'd like to explore kissing, even take a lesson. I think if you come at it from that angle, no pressure, and try to clear your mind as opposed to letting it take over, you'll get it. Can't hurt to try and I promise, you'll laugh and enjoy the time. Remember when sex was scary? Not now, right? Same with kissing. Everyone thinks kissing is something that should just come naturally but it really isn't. There are techniques that you have to learn. But once you do, you can use these to express love, playfulness, passion, tenderness. And it will feel wonderful.


    That's not a bad idea. Lol it can be kinda romantic 'hey dude wanna practice kissing with me?'
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    Dec 30, 2014 2:11 AM GMT
    "It still feels weird to kiss a guy."

    Just keep kissing guys until you get it right.
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    Dec 30, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    Inque said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidA good kisser makes me rock hard.

    You just have to work out a few things, perhaps.


    I've tried everything outside of getting high while I do it. I just never feel anything and I'm always so wigged out going into it. I'm kind of the same way about eating ass or sucking dick.

    I feel less gay because neither of those things really get me going unless the conditions are right and they so rarely are


    It's mental bro. You have a mental road block somewhere keeping you from enjoying it
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    Dec 31, 2014 6:48 AM GMT
    Kissing definitely makes everything (to me) so much better. It always struck me as odd when a guy didn't know how to kiss. whether it was too sloppy, too dry, weird flat tongue shit or whatever going on....nothing, NOTHING was more of a disappointment when you'd be with a guy for a good amount of time building up all that tension and then you reach in for a kiss, and it's terrible.

    but when you find a guy who CAN kiss, man it's awesome. As the original post described -- the ones who can do it right, its electric.

    I think you've already alluded to it -- that you need someone who is kind of opposite of you. if that's the case, just keep going for that. Unfortunately not everyone can kiss well, but the ones who can---hang on to them.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 31, 2014 4:11 PM GMT
    Inque said
    Destinharbor said
    Inque said
    Destinharbor saidThere are a thousand speeds to kissing. You describe one but kissing is about communicating and exploring, not just face fucking (which is also good). You are gay. Stop with the self-hate. Make love to a man. Slow down and feel him. Brush soft lips across across soft lips and build tempo. Relax and let it wash over you.


    Even when the guy is cute I get nervous and I don't know what to do.

    I just try not to focus on what I'm doing and get it over with. I get very uncomfortable and I don't know why. I've tried thinking about something else while I'm kissing him.

    Find some guy you know and like both mentally and physically and tell him you've had trouble with this. That you'd like to explore kissing, even take a lesson. I think if you come at it from that angle, no pressure, and try to clear your mind as opposed to letting it take over, you'll get it. Can't hurt to try and I promise, you'll laugh and enjoy the time. Remember when sex was scary? Not now, right? Same with kissing. Everyone thinks kissing is something that should just come naturally but it really isn't. There are techniques that you have to learn. But once you do, you can use these to express love, playfulness, passion, tenderness. And it will feel wonderful.


    That's not a bad idea. Lol it can be kinda romantic 'hey dude wanna practice kissing with me?'


    lol Well saying it like that might come off as the worst pick-up line ever. Make it someone you already feel comfortable with and just tell him you're having trouble relaxing when you kiss and feel you need some pointers on how to be better. Pick a guy you know well and who you know is a solid friend. That'll keep the nerves down.
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    Dec 31, 2014 11:15 PM GMT
    "It was the Rita Ora of breaths" hahahhahhahah #shade
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    Jan 01, 2015 2:24 AM GMT

    Does it have the same effect on chicks?
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    Jan 01, 2015 8:18 PM GMT
    For me, it just depends on how much I like the guy as a person. Even with the hottest guys I've messed around with, the kissing has been "just alright" if I didn't like the guy very much.

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    Jan 02, 2015 12:08 AM GMT
    Kissing/making out can be even hotter than sex….. depending on the person.
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    Jan 02, 2015 12:52 AM GMT
    You're not doing it right.
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    Feb 09, 2015 5:56 AM GMT
    I feel bad for you. I never liked kissing until... I kissed a guy. First time ever at
    Age 50. Best kiss in my life. I never understood the desire for kissing but kissing a guy changed it all. I hope you figure it out.
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    Inque saidDoes anyone else ever think 'I'm kissing a man. Why am I doing this?'


    Ummm.........NO. I would think that if I were kissing a girl but not a guy. If it feels unnatural to you, maybe you should makeout with a girl.
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:44 PM GMT
    It still feels hot to kiss a guy.
    I always get a hard on so fast when I do that