hentailover saidWould anyone actually answer yes to the thread question??
No, the stigma is too great. It's kind of the same reason people smoke cigarettes or let themselves get obese. However, willingly giving yourself HIV, or cancer, or diabetes, would be more like aiming the gun at your head.
I don't know, a lot of people know fully what they're getting into. More so in the latter 2 cases than the first. Anti-smoke warnings are on every cigarette pack in Canada (I don't know about the States), and skinny/fit models remind people everyday how great it is to get in shape. Like that classical question demonstrates: 10 more years of life but a lifelong of hunger, versus a shorter life of bon appetite, which would you choose? People's decision will differ, even if results are 100% certain.
Just like most drivers know that there is a very very high chance that they'll get into at least one accident in their life time, and a lower chance that this accident will be fatal. They still drive though, because the alternative is too miserable for too long especially if your residence is more than 5 min from the nearest grocery store.
Another example, castration can apparently prolong a man's life by quite a bit: a LOT less prostate problems, metabolism also slows down due to less androgen stimulation, which means less stress on cardiovascular system. Even helps with neural degeneration. But most men probably will gladly take that reduced lifespan over castrating himself. NOT comparing this to condom use per se, just saying I don't think barebacking in the community can be solely explained by things like "ignorance" and "arrogance". And certainly, in the case of smoking and obesity, I won't even consider ignorance as top 3 factors.
You have some intriguing responses! But why did you delete a sentence from my post? That makes it sound I'm talking about something I'm not. I'm talking about people who don't know their partner's status who bareback and become positive. The unfortunate reality is that that's how it typically spreads, and obviously there's a high of stigma attached to it, more so than smokers or diabetics, because HIV is an STD. Nevertheless people do bareback, and when I've talked to them, they have the same attitude as someone who smokes or does drugs, in the sense that they think they'll
be okay, like they'll be the one that doesn't face the consequences, particularly young people who are at an age of taking up adult vices.
People crash their cars and want to keep their testicles. They say they want to live forever, but they live for the moment. It's human nature. So, while people need to be educated, and we need to promote safe sex, where the rubber meets the road compassion is key, because we all fuck up in one way or another. And it's not just gay people. Straight people "bareback" when they shouldn't and we have staggering, mind numbing number of abortions that dwarf the number of HIV cases. I'm pro choice, but it's unsettling to actually look at the stats, and it's an obvious controversy that's bigger than anything in our sex lives as gay men.