Jan 16, 2015 1:37 AM GMT
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Then there is the fear of the idea of a bisexual man choosing a woman over them. This can be very devastating to many gay men because of the lack of sexual partners and the commonheld idea that love is hard to find in the gay community. A bisexual man choosing a woman can be seen as him 'rejecting' his gay side and therefore the gay men who may want to be with him. In a way this is interesting because many gay men will avoid a bisexual man with a wife or girlfriend but have no apprehension about getting with a man with a husband or boyfriend. This is because a large portion of gay men do not respect gay relationships because they have been taught not to respect gay men and therefore they do not respect themselves.
I really, really don't understand this at all. For me, the idea of a guy leaving me for a guy or a guy leaving me for a girl makes no difference what so ever.
It makes perfect sense to me. I can compete with any guy but if a guy wants tits and pussy I don't stand a chance.
but if a guy wants specific features that you don't particularly possess, but other men do, then you don't stand a chance either.
But even still it's easier to rationalize being left for someone of the same gender than being left for a completely different lifestyle.
When people get rejected, they always look to rationalize the experience. Saying, "oh well it was because he was secretly straight or bisexual and wanted some girl, that's the sole and only reason why he left me" is not the correct attitude to take. Sometimes, in rejection, folks need to take a hard look at themselves.
I'm not saying that you specifically or ANYONE specifically on this board needs to do this. I'm not "hating" on anyone or whatever. But for me personally, I just don't see any difference for a guy leaving me for a guy or a guy leaving me for a girl. he left me. that's the only thing that matters.