Is it OK to want to humiliate people that humiliated us?


  • Jan 20, 2015 9:11 AM GMT
    Compassion: You don't know what those who hurt you went through that caused them to hurt you. Be a gracious good sport and have good will to all people, even those that are lesser. It is easier said than done I understand, but it should be what we all strive towards as much as we can to minimize the hate and division in this world.

  • Jan 20, 2015 9:13 AM GMT
    SF79 saidWhy not be the opposite of them? Show kindness to others. Help someone else become the person they want to be. Become wealthy, but be generous.

    The people who have hurt you before couldn't give a damn about you then, why should they even when you're more successful? and even so, how would that improve your life?

    Lift yourself up by lifting up others. Your strength and beauty is how good a heart you have; everything else is temporary.
    Right on, I wish more of us have such a beautiful and loving outlook!!!
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    Jan 20, 2015 9:24 AM GMT
    Well I was raised as a Buddhist and one principle I learned is to be kind and forgive other people. Whatever wrong things done to you or mean nasty things said to you, it will eventually come back and bite the attacker in the butt. It's sorta a Karma principle. Beside, when someone's being mean, nasty or humiliated you, it has something to do with them. Their negative trait, they're mean, angry bitter or whatever. It's better to just forgive, forget and move on with your life and try to get good karma.

    ...Now having said that I will definitely get mad and defense myself and attack back if needed, but I don't get into an angry rage ever unless someone done a really really really bad fuck up thing to me (say like sleep with my bf and try to break my life up)... Lol, then My hot-headed Libra temper takes over and it's really AWESOME to watch.
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    Jan 20, 2015 9:33 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 said... Lol, then My hot-headed Libra temper takes over and it's really AWESOME to watch.


    Funny, I didn't know us Libras were such hot-heads...lol, yeah, I say what I need to say and then move on. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 20, 2015 9:35 AM GMT
    bon_pan said
    LAXWill10 said... Lol, then My hot-headed Libra temper takes over and it's really AWESOME to watch.


    Funny, I didn't know us Libras were such hot-heads...lol, yeah, I say what I need to say and then move on. icon_wink.gif


    Lol that only happened once in my life. And let just say I won the argument/fight. !! icon_redface.gificon_eek.gif
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    Jan 20, 2015 3:35 PM GMT
    The brain usually wants to get revenge on those on had wrong them.
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    Jan 20, 2015 3:51 PM GMT
    I've felt this desire for revenge myself. But in reality, by the time I had achieved the upper hand, the taste for revenge had faded.

    There's an old saying that "Success is the best revenge". I think it's enough to know inside yourself that you succeeded, especially against difficult odds and when others thought you couldn't.
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    Jan 20, 2015 7:38 PM GMT
    I've never tended towards vindictiveness and would not desire a relationship with anyone who does. They delude themselves, more often than not, striking out against what they merely misperceive as the other guy's transgression but what was actually their own self-inflicted flagellation, having nothing even to do with the other party, but merely trapped in machinations of their own mind. Sad.

    My natural inclination is to just walk away from their abusiveness even though they've done everything their tiny brains could think of to try and hurt me or otherwise keep me engaged. Like a termite, they attempt to bore their way in. But they're nothing but an abhorrent boor. It's easy enough to spray for that. I just purse my lips and spit.

    Even when I suspect attack imminent, I rarely swing first unless I see someone particularly clever attempting to bamboozle others and then I might step in to stop a con or a sock or a troll. I don't do that for me, I'm already laughing behind its back. It more functions as both my charity work and entertainment. I'm easily amused.

    Though I might accidentally teach a thing or two, I never seek to humiliate. I've found people are very good at doing that to themselves all on their own, failing to do so merely further revealing the extent of their uncontrolled psychopathy. Generally I just turn and walk away.

    After they've made enough stupid moves, thinking themselves so clever, I'll give them every opportunity to lay down their king. But sometimes they insist in tar-baby fashion on playing the game out to their inevitable defeat. Sometimes I just walk away from that too. A little baby oil removes tar, ya know. Or sometimes I might find a last laugh there.

    So instead of just turning the computer off to save some time, if I've a further moment I might just change the game, no longer interested in when the opponent might admit defeat or even apologize as their deluded ego would never allow, but instead I bring all my pawns down and see how many queens I can light up on the win.

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    Jan 20, 2015 8:50 PM GMT
    I think it's natural to feel some desire for revenge, but as has already been stated...it's a waste of time. When you're successful there's really no good reason to look back and dwell on the crap in your past. You've already had enough of that I would say. Plus there's always a chance of it coming back to bite you. Focus on what's next and how you're going to get there, not on all the stuff you had to get through to get where you are. I think that's actually a lot of the difference between the way successful people think, and people who wish they were successful. Hope that's helpful ;-)
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    Jan 21, 2015 10:55 AM GMT
    Invetedlotus123 saidLike I said, I don`t want to do anything but to get on top making sure those people know about that.

    I can even do it in a classy way, like sending a letter telling how grateful i`m for what they teached me that helped to get where i wanted, the people would get the message right away and that would be enough.


    Why would you bother wasting your time. I always keep moving forward and leave the past in the past.