Mar 01, 2015 2:26 PM GMT
Cash saidThere is a huge distinction between being a little over-weight and obese.
The former just happens to some people because of stress, scheduling, temporarily poor habits or genetics. It can rather easily be addressed and corrected.
The latter is much deeper and more difficult to accept because it is often indicative of a much more disturbed way of living. Food can be like a drug and equally addictive. Seeing a morbidly obese person abuse themselves is akin to watching a raging alcoholic walk into a bar or a junkie shoot up.
At best, it often indicates a serious medical condition that is wildly out of control and potentially deadly.
As far as vanity goes, We are all visual creatures but that doesn't necessarily translate to cruel.
In the OP's example, the "thin friend" doesn't come across as much of a true friend and at the very least sounds as if he were grossly inappropriate to someone who may need support and encouragement rather than caustic cracks and comments throughout lunch.
I am sure it was well-intended but the ultimate outcome was three uncomfortable people sitting thru dessert.