Power Bottoming in Relationships


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    Mar 16, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    So I had this fwb for a year and a half, and he recently told me he doesn't want me to power bottom anymore. Usually when we have sex, he takes control and I know he likes that a lot, but on some occasions I take control and power bottom. I like to control sometimes so idk what to tell him honestly.

    This isn't the first time this has happened, guys have told me that I am sometimes too confident and take too much control in the bedroom. I usually date guys that are bigger and taller than me, usually a lot more muscular and probably 6ft+ (and a top) so I am wondering is it because they are bigger than me they don't like being the alpha sometimes in a relationship?

    Do other power bottoms encounter this issue? Or is just me?

    I've never been with a submissive top before, and I have only met one and he is a good friend of mine (though we would never sleep with each other).
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    Mar 17, 2015 5:50 AM GMT
    Tops are becoming an extinct race these days. And I guess, submissive tops are pretty much like unicorns, too. But there is no harm in trying to find one, if he would be who you would enjoy having sex with.

    If a dude tells you that he does not want you to power bottom for him, he is probably telling you the truth. Enjoy his company for whatever it is worth. He is is your FwB not a monogamous LTR, so feel free to look elsewhere for someone who will enjoy your powerbottoming for him.

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    Mar 17, 2015 3:30 PM GMT
    I'm going to go with: Just you.
    Maybe it's your size, but I've known plenty smallish power bottoms who have there man in rapture--worked for me anyhow.
    Hang in there when you'll find that submissive top of you're dreams; than again, careful what you wish for.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 18, 2015 1:51 AM GMT
    just find someone who just wants to fill you with come and not care what games you are playing to get there.