Body shaming: your thoughts

  • O5vx

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    Oct 10, 2016 10:02 PM GMT
    Why do you think people feel the need to put others down based on how they look? Maybe I don't want to be a stick figure; maybe I don't want to be masculine; maybe I like me. Liking me doesn't mean I don't want to improve myself but not in a manner that will be harmful to me. I want to do it for me and at my own pace. Is that so hard to understand? Why must I have to justify to you that I'm not fat? Even if I am, it would be non of your business.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Oct 10, 2016 10:12 PM GMT
    I'm a 5/10 who is dating a 10/10, because looks aren't everything. Just work on the aspects of you that you have control over and don't worry or be in denial about the parts that you can't control. I say denial, because while one can say "it's not worth the effort to be fit given my genes" or "I like food, so I'll take being fat", it's kinda disingenuous to say "i don't want to be a stick figure". Be real with yourself! icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 11, 2016 3:52 AM GMT
    Ekho saidbecause that's the way the world works

    I believe It would be more accurate to say that that is how you perceive the world to be. People can only perceive at the level of their own consciousness. Which is why the expression, "That went completely over your head" came to be. The world has gotten pretty unattractive since the beginning of the new millenium, including environmentally. People are more hateful and petty than I've ever seen it (excluding the 50s if you were Black). But having seen it then, it doesn't affect me as much now.

    To the OP: no, you don't have to justify your existence, but you DO have to connect with those who have a level of understanding that allows you to do that. It sounds like you're listening to people whose opinions you should be completely ignoring - and you're not. Seek not have the world understand you: seek to see the world as it is and understand IT. It is easier to change things when you understand how/why they are the way they are.
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    Oct 11, 2016 11:17 AM GMT
    Where exactly are you encountering this sort of body shaming? Online or in person?

    People who are incredibly skinny have their insecurities as well. We can kind of feel invisible or weak and insignificent compared to folks who are bigger. It doesn't do much for self esteem.

    I joined the gym this year and I have not encountered any of the rudeness that I was afraid of before. I don't get laughed at or bullied by big burly guys (which is something that I thought would happen). The staff are very supportive. There are people who go there to get in better shape (overweight people and skinny people, like myself) and there are people who go there to stay in shape (the muscular and athletic guys) and once you're in that kind of environment where everyone is exercising to achieve there own fitness goals, it is a great feeling.

    So yes, do it in your own time, work on improving yourself at your own pace and do it for yourself not because others say so. But I will say yes to being bold and challenging yourself and stepping out of your comfort zone. It can be very rewarding, both physically and mentally!
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    Oct 11, 2016 1:10 PM GMT
    Body shaming is essential, and can save a life. I endorse the practice wholeheartedly.