Does it bother you to be objectified for your body?

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    Nov 02, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    I say, f*ck yes, I love it! It wouldn't bother me a bit. I think it's a huge compliment for someone to say that they are physically attracted to you. It takes courage, and it's an honest feeling. I wonder how others think about this? I imagine if you are super hot it can get a little repetitive.

    On a similar but separate note, I like in a skit the other night when Seth Meyers said on his show that everyone puts "like to hike" in their profiles. Haha.
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:00 AM GMT
    Giggles!
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:03 AM GMT
    It's always fun to flirt and flatter with others.
    It's also fun when someone smiles at you.
    It's even more fun when they get on their knees for You!
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:21 AM GMT
    From time to time, I love to receive some compliments about my look (although it's rare). icon_biggrin.gif It's shallow, I know, but it still feels very nice. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:41 AM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior saidIt's really something to see how people's perception of you can change. And, of course, their reaction to you and how they treat you. I've been in great shape, then got a little chunky and am now in really good shape again. Obviously when I was out of shape I might as well been invisible. But now I'm back on the horse with my physical fitness. I don't like it when people grab my body. Catcalls are fine but don't fondle the merchandise.


    Then why not post the real you vs. doggies/?
  • NOLAman13

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    Nov 02, 2016 4:50 AM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior saidIt's really something to see how people's perception of you can change. And, of course, their reaction to you and how they treat you. I've been in great shape, then got a little chunky and am now in really good shape again. Obviously when I was out of shape I might as well been invisible. But now I'm back on the horse with my physical fitness. I don't like it when people grab my body. Catcalls are fine but don't fondle the merchandise.


    I TOTALLY agree! It really is funny to experience through my thick and thin years how I've been groped or ignored. Whats even wilder is that I'm now in my 50s and in great shape, I've been called sexy daddy. I've gotten more hits today than I did in my 20s!

    It's all in perception, baby.
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    Nov 02, 2016 5:24 AM GMT
    It's a nice change from being objectified for my wit. (Elsewhere, obviously.)
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    Nov 02, 2016 6:12 AM GMT
    I see being 'objectified' in gay world as an immutable fact, akin to the fact that the sun rises in the east every day. There is little point in liking it in particular or disliking it. It is how it is.

    Most people I have met have their preferences and go around seeking partners who have those preferred qualities. This very fact is actually, objectification. Sexual selection IS objectification per se.

    So, objectification is fine in my books. Grabbing and touching without my permission - nope!

    SC


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    Nov 02, 2016 11:12 AM GMT
    I think its all anout intent and balance. A little harmless objectification is a good ego booster, but when when you are treated as property or lesser than... or others hust cross boundries (sexual assault or perverted statements) its not okay.

    I enjoyed being barely dressed for Halloween, the club was humid and hot anyways. Appreciated the flirts and compliments, ddnt mind the purposefull "accidental" leg brushes, but the unexpected cupping of my crotch mid dance was not okayicon_evil.gif
  • 24hourguy

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    Nov 02, 2016 1:16 PM GMT
    HA! -I would welcome a little objectification now! Especially if "for your age" isn't attached to it
  • Karl

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    Nov 02, 2016 1:33 PM GMT
    it's fun until it's not icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:25 PM GMT
    Aleco_Graves saidI think its all anout intent and balance. A little harmless objectification is a good ego booster, but when when you are treated as property or lesser than... or others hust cross boundries (sexual assault or perverted statements) its not okay.

    I enjoyed being barely dressed for Halloween, the club was humid and hot anyways. Appreciated the flirts and compliments, ddnt mind the purposefull "accidental" leg brushes, but the unexpected cupping of my crotch mid dance was not okayicon_evil.gif


    Yeah this has happened to me a few too many times. Some men seem to treat grabbing your junk like a pat on your back to get your attention... imagine if men did that to women at a club.
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 02, 2016 4:34 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks said
    Aleco_Graves saidI think its all anout intent and balance. A little harmless objectification is a good ego booster, but when when you are treated as property or lesser than... or others hust cross boundries (sexual assault or perverted statements) its not okay.

    I enjoyed being barely dressed for Halloween, the club was humid and hot anyways. Appreciated the flirts and compliments, ddnt mind the purposefull "accidental" leg brushes, but the unexpected cupping of my crotch mid dance was not okayicon_evil.gif


    Yeah this has happened to me a few too many times. Some men seem to treat grabbing your junk like a pat on your back to get your attention... imagine if men did that to women at a club.

    Hell, I love it when that happens.
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    Nov 02, 2016 4:40 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    theonewhoknocks said
    Aleco_Graves saidI think its all anout intent and balance. A little harmless objectification is a good ego booster, but when when you are treated as property or lesser than... or others hust cross boundries (sexual assault or perverted statements) its not okay.

    I enjoyed being barely dressed for Halloween, the club was humid and hot anyways. Appreciated the flirts and compliments, ddnt mind the purposefull "accidental" leg brushes, but the unexpected cupping of my crotch mid dance was not okayicon_evil.gif


    Yeah this has happened to me a few too many times. Some men seem to treat grabbing your junk like a pat on your back to get your attention... imagine if men did that to women at a club.

    Hell, I love it when that happens.


    That's cuz you're the walking stereotype of the older creep who will take any kind of contact. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Nov 02, 2016 5:15 PM GMT
    "Does It Bother You To Be Objectified For Your Body?"

    YES...big time!
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    Nov 02, 2016 5:18 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI say, f*ck yes, I love it! It wouldn't bother me a bit. I think it's a huge compliment for someone to say that they are physically attracted to you.


    Is more than just being informed that you are physically attractive...is that YOU are YOUR BODY and THAT is the WHOLE of your VALUE.
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    Nov 02, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidIt's a nice change from being objectified for my wit. (Elsewhere, obviously.)


    lol@eagermuscle
  • Eleven

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    Nov 02, 2016 5:27 PM GMT
    Depends on context, if im fucking I dont mind being used because im getting something out of it.

    But I dont like getting it from complete strangers, my brother is also gay and him and his friends will sit at the front of a cafe and constantly be on crotch watch whenever the trady construction workers knock off and they all sound like fucking grots, seriously u wouldnt be able to eat around them.

    So yeh I prefer being respected than obkectified unless of course im doing a bukkake scene, just my prefernce
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    Nov 02, 2016 5:28 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidI see being 'objectified' in gay world as an immutable fact, akin to the fact that the sun rises in the east every day. There is little point in liking it in particular or disliking it. It is how it is.


    Then you understand perfectly why the bigots who hang outside of "gay" pubs with the intent to beat the shit out of exiting "screwed up faggots" feel as they do or that religious folk see as unnatural a man taking a cock up his ass .

    Is an "immutable fact"; it is how it is..
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    Nov 02, 2016 5:45 PM GMT
    It bothered me when I was younger, I used to hate receiving attention and I was a total prude even after coming out. Now I have more confidence and I exercise a lot more so it's nice to know when I'm appreciated. Even better when it's from someone that I can return the compliment to.
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    Nov 02, 2016 6:31 PM GMT
    Other people made me who I am, it's their fault, I don't think there is anything good when others perceive you as desirable or maybe I just didn't know how to handle it, people are shallow. I am ugly and that is fine with me. People always think that if you look ''ń£ood'' it affects people areound you, but no, it mostly affects the one who is getting the attention, nobody ever asked me do I even want it. In reality it is all fake and nobody needs it.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 02, 2016 7:01 PM GMT
    I don't mind being objectified at all. Hell, I put in enough time in the gym just to look good, don't I?

    And I don't mind a bit of groping now and again either, as long as it doesn't go overboard. On Halloween night I was in a very packed West Hollywood club wearing almost nothing (like most everyone else) and there was quite a lot of touching and feeling going on - mostly arms, chest and abs, occasional ass grabs, no dick grabs. For that one night I enjoyed it - why else would I go to a packed club nearly naked? - and if the guy was hot I'd smile and give him a good feel in return.

    Yep I was treated like a piece of meat. A damn good piece of meat at that.
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    Nov 02, 2016 7:34 PM GMT
    Does it bother you to be objectified for your body?

    Yes, at one time it did, if I understand this premise correctly. I know I'm gonna get dumped all over here for saying this, but here goes:

    In my prime I had a really big dick. Some guys refused to have sex with me once they saw it. I wasn't able to wear Speedos or boxers, the bulging just too embarrassing for me. After my prostate cancer treatment, plus the natural aging process, the "problem" has mostly corrected itself. I'm glad.

    Because there were guys who were just attracted to me for my dick. And nothing else about me. In that sense I was objectified. And that word got all around the gay communities in which I lived.

    Well, yah know, there's a BOB who's attached to this dick! Whadda yah think about ME?

    Well, apparently, some of them didn't think about me a whole lot. And so I couldn't think much of them, either. I dunno what my dick thought. And frankly, most of them were incompetent at pleasing him anyway, so it was a double loss for me.

    No, I want a guy who likes ME, the whole Bob. With all my pluses & minuses across the board. Liking just my dick isn't gonna win me over. Nor should it you, either, or any other single aspect about you, if you're gonna have some kind of lasting relationship. Fine for tricking, not for an LTR.
  • whytehot

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    Nov 02, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    you_know_its_true said
    Destinharbor said
    theonewhoknocks said

    Yeah this has happened to me a few too many times. Some men seem to treat grabbing your junk like a pat on your back to get your attention... imagine if men did that to women at a club.

    Hell, I love it when that happens.


    That's cuz you're the walking stereotype of the older creep who will take any kind of contact. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Lol so true. Notice how the only ones here who claim to enjoy sexual assault belong to that gropey demographic lurking in the shadows of clubs icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 02, 2016 9:38 PM GMT
    bro4bro saidI don't mind being objectified at all. Hell, I put in enough time in the gym just to look good, don't I?

    And I don't mind a bit of groping now and again either, as long as it doesn't go overboard. On Halloween night I was in a very packed West Hollywood club wearing almost nothing (like most everyone else) and there was quite a lot of touching and feeling going on - mostly arms, chest and abs, occasional ass grabs, no dick grabs. For that one night I enjoyed it - why else would I go to a packed club nearly naked? - and if the guy was hot I'd smile and give him a good feel in return.

    Yep I was treated like a piece of meat. A damn good piece of meat at that.


    More power to ya! But, Jeez! You've probably given heart attacks to Aleco , YouKnowItswhatever, and Cuddler. (The sexual revolution was wasted on their likes.) Being married, it's been a while since I've had that kind of club experience, but I did enjoy them.