Grindr Question

  • buddycat

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    Jan 28, 2017 6:17 AM GMT
    So it appears people use Grindr to hook up but do you have to use it like that? Can't you use it in other ways as listed like networking, friends, dates, etc? Are my on the wrong app? I was messaged by one guy that was cute but when I said "good, how are you?' He said "horny" and "ever get hard in the gym?"
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    Jan 28, 2017 6:19 AM GMT
    I am going to stop you right there...DO NOT bother with Grindr unless you want to hookup.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 28, 2017 6:30 AM GMT
    Yes, Grindr is only for hookups, everyone knows this. I love it, but use it discerningly and sparingly.
  • buddycat

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    Jan 28, 2017 6:45 AM GMT
    Is it an unwritten rule to just use it for hook-ups? Someone here suggested it just because I want to know if someone is sexually compatible. I personally don't see it as an issue to ask on like match.com or something.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 28, 2017 7:00 AM GMT
    buddycat saidIs it an unwritten rule to just use it for hook-ups? Someone here suggested it just because I want to know if someone is sexually compatible. I personally don't see it as an issue to ask on like match.com or something.


    Yeah, guys usually have all their stats posted - top bottom PREP HIV - yada yada - so it should be all out in the open.
  • buddycat

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    Jan 28, 2017 7:22 AM GMT
    I uninstalled.
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    Jan 28, 2017 1:35 PM GMT
    Lets pretend for a moment Grindr can be used to find, 'just friends' guys. Even if you didn't say anything to him even vaguely sexual, could you actually mention anything about him that made you want to chat to him and not other guys on Grindr at the time?? You mentioned he was cute, that sounds like you are viewing him as potentially sexual way not platonic way which would mean sexual aspects including physical appearance are not relevant. He knows that too and yet you insist that Grindr is to sleazy. Try Hornet which is the best dating app i have ever seen. What is funny though is watching how some guys will have a profile on both and paint themselves as total oppposites in comparison of the profile on each. Hornet is more suited to friends and dates due to the detail of profile aspect. Also they were the first to have sexual health status question and last tested and lots of room to write about who you are. Grindr is more suited to quick and punchy lines and that's why they are used how they are. Scruff is the bear and rough dudes or rough dude seekers version of Grindr and there are many more around available
  • calime61

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    Jan 28, 2017 6:01 PM GMT
    I use it to make friends too and I made few ones
  • mwolverine

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    Jan 30, 2017 6:10 AM GMT
    I've made friends through Grindr, as well as recruited for my gay sports teams.
    It's not likely, but it can happen.

    Also I've noticed that different areas are different on Grindr.
    When I was in South Beach, it seemed like 99.99% were only interested in 1 thing.
    Here in Ann Arbor it's maybe 75/25%.

    I haven't used Hornet, the name (whore-net) made me think it was worse than Grindr in this regard.
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 30, 2017 7:40 AM GMT
    I disagree with most of the other responses, I've made quite a few good friends on grindr (who I never hooked up with). Just be clear about what you're looking for and expect most of the people on there to be looking for a hookup. It's not everyone though.
  • buddycat

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    Jan 30, 2017 8:11 AM GMT
    Sydneyrugbyjock73 saidLets pretend for a moment Grindr can be used to find, 'just friends' guys. Even if you didn't say anything to him even vaguely sexual, could you actually mention anything about him that made you want to chat to him and not other guys on Grindr at the time?? You mentioned he was cute, that sounds like you are viewing him as potentially sexual way not platonic way which would mean sexual aspects including physical appearance are not relevant. He knows that too and yet you insist that Grindr is to sleazy. Try Hornet which is the best dating app i have ever seen. What is funny though is watching how some guys will have a profile on both and paint themselves as total oppposites in comparison of the profile on each. Hornet is more suited to friends and dates due to the detail of profile aspect. Also they were the first to have sexual health status question and last tested and lots of room to write about who you are. Grindr is more suited to quick and punchy lines and that's why they are used how they are. Scruff is the bear and rough dudes or rough dude seekers version of Grindr and there are many more around available


    I am not saying I would like him just as a friend. I just don't like the first words out of his mouth to reference sex. They have that "right now" option which could be interpreted as "just sex", which is not one of my options I selected. I will have to try this hornet. I certainly don't like when they say they are looking for friends and turns out they are looking for a relationship that is "friends first". " Meeting as friends" is just a nice way to avoid the awkwardness if there is not a connection.
  • MadridGuy93

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    Feb 19, 2017 5:42 PM GMT
    buddycat saidSo it appears people use Grindr to hook up but do you have to use it like that? Can't you use it in other ways as listed like networking, friends, dates, etc? Are my on the wrong app? I was messaged by one guy that was cute but when I said "good, how are you?' He said "horny" and "ever get hard in the gym?"


    I have to say that throughout my life, I've only used Grindr like a couple months, and not in a row, I always get tired of the app like two days after. In my opinion, there's a very small group of nice people who want to have a converse, and there's a large, a huge, a massive group of people who just want to hookup or just mess around. Tinder is almost the same stuff, but they pretend to be more demure, however, give it a try! Nonetheless... in my opinion, knowing someone for something deeper is getting more difficult as the time goes by.
  • buddycat

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    Feb 20, 2017 6:56 AM GMT
    MadridGuy93 said
    buddycat saidSo it appears people use Grindr to hook up but do you have to use it like that? Can't you use it in other ways as listed like networking, friends, dates, etc? Are my on the wrong app? I was messaged by one guy that was cute but when I said "good, how are you?' He said "horny" and "ever get hard in the gym?"


    I have to say that throughout my life, I've only used Grindr like a couple months, and not in a row, I always get tired of the app like two days after. In my opinion, there's a very small group of nice people who want to have a converse, and there's a large, a huge, a massive group of people who just want to hookup or just mess around. Tinder is almost the same stuff, but they pretend to be more demure, however, give it a try! Nonetheless... in my opinion, knowing someone for something deeper is getting more difficult as the time goes by.


    I actually have Grindr installed and have chatted with a few. One commented about the fact I just have friends and networking clicked. He said that it is mostly a hook-up app but he has seen stranger things happened. I was chatting with one and it was funny, he had the goofiest face like dogs that are so ugly they are actually cute.

    As for me though, I am unsure how I really fit on any app. I have Tinder and Grindr on my phone and OKCupid on the Internet but don't really know where I fit. I don
    t really know where I actually fit. People I chat with seem to think that I have some intimacy requirement but the idea of formal dating is the pits.