Building Sexual Tension

  • reddomino22

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    Jul 10, 2017 5:25 AM GMT
    Hey guys! I just wanted to know some ways that a person can build sexual tension with another guy. When I say building sexual tension, I don't mean being sexually blunt or grabbing his crotch, I mean more subtle ways of building up anticipation. Everything I have read online was about building sexual tension with women, but there wasn't a whole lot of information when it came to gay men. Anyone know any good tips on the subject?
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    Jul 10, 2017 4:06 PM GMT
    I think in order to do so there has to be a mutual sexual attraction there first. The way I unknowingly do it is when I am on my first or second date, usually happens when we have to say goodbye. I usually give them a hug, and after that we look at each other and I can sometimes feel that they want to kiss but the sexual tension is just a bit nerve wracking.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 10, 2017 4:31 PM GMT
    Men are visual to start, so being in great shape is #1. Secondly, invasion of the guy's "personal space. But without being threatening. If you've exchanged glances and think there might be some interest, being just a little too close and then holding right there. You'll feel the energy rise.

  • Jul 10, 2017 10:47 PM GMT
    Yeah, the visual aspect is key. You need not be totally ripped, but you should appear attractive. Stand up straight, shoulders back, smile, make friendly eye contact. Compliment them. Ask a question. Listen. Ask a follow-up question. Lean in a bit when they talk. See if they lean in when you talk.

    Reddomino22- you've hit the nail on the head with the dick grabbing thing. Not bragging, but I get that constantly. It was fun... for a month... when I was 22. Now that I'm safely in my 30s those actions just appear desperate. And that's a big turn off.

    But who knows. I'm pretty fuckin' jaded.

  • Element1313

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    Jul 11, 2017 6:06 AM GMT
    A hand on the shoulder and even a gentle squeeze/ massage is even acceptable in str8 circles and it can really get things moving with a horny gay guy. Any form of touch like leaning your leg against his or feet touching works. Touching a women's hands will get things going with that sex and it works with guys too. It is hardly ever seen as offensive .
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    Jul 11, 2017 8:01 AM GMT
    I find the idea of body space invasion as being a positive to raise sexual tension just plain weird.

    If someone invades my body space, that calls for me to distance myself or push them away.
  • Hugh_Jass

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    Jul 11, 2017 11:20 AM GMT
    While visual stimulation is important, I actually like when a guy can carry a decent conversation that turns me on even more. It builds up stimulation and makee crave him even more
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 11, 2017 3:45 PM GMT
    Ubeaut saidI find the idea of body space invasion as being a positive to raise sexual tension just plain weird.

    If someone invades my body space, that calls for me to distance myself or push them away.

    Precisely. It builds tension. If you're not interested or afraid of being close to this guy. But if he holds his ground and you do, too, it becomes unspoken fire.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Jul 12, 2017 3:55 PM GMT
    Tongue gesture,the subtle one, and teeth. If you are nervous about something or get caught doing something grin hard and show all teeth. If you get or say something wrong or right, over-express yourself that you are proud and stick that wet tongue of yours innocently like a kid who won argument or something against friend or parent.
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    Jul 13, 2017 1:59 PM GMT
    Do yourself a favor and call a geologist. It's always best to build on a rock foundation. It ensures less of a chance of things shifting......
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    Jul 15, 2017 10:59 AM GMT
    I like lots of sensual foreplay before any action, starting with kissing, cuddling, slow undressing, finally ending up just in our underwear. By this time we'll both be sexually aroused and ready for the next step!
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    Jul 16, 2017 2:58 AM GMT
    Sexual tension only works if you two are attracted to each other and either one is waiting to jump in bed Lol. I mean, it'll be awkward if there's no
    sexual chemistry. As far as holding hands, kissing or grabbing crotch, you will only allow him to do that or vice versa if you both are feeling it.
    Lol
  • spider

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    Jul 16, 2017 4:23 PM GMT
    Sexual tention can only exist where there is mutual attraction! So dont rush it be subtle..move in close...accidently let ur leg touch his. Compliment him on his wit n looks .Treat him like how u like to be treated
  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 27, 2020 10:37 PM GMT
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