Guy at work

  • deep388

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    Mar 20, 2018 9:44 AM GMT
    I’m having a hard time trying to decipher the look I get from a guy that I kind of know of (he’s in a different department so don’t always see him on a regular basis), but every now and then I may see him on my way out of our large corporate building going to lunch or randomly if we are walking through building passage way. And in all of the times I’ve walked past him, he gives me a passing glance or look that makes me feel like he’s into me. I’ve tried not to read too much into it, but today when I randomly bumped into him outside he gave me that same look which set my gaydar off. I don’t even know whether I should be trying to pursue him or purposely bump into him more (I know what floor he is on and I get this seedy feeling he’s figured out where I am too). Thoughts? Am I just looking into something that’s not really there? I have heard the power of gaydar and intuition is greater than one would think. I guess I’m thinking about him as I do find him attractive and wouldn’t mind pursuing him but given the limitations around getting a chance to interact more, I feel like it’s a needle in a haystack. But could it be the vibe I’m getting is right?
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    Mar 20, 2018 9:50 AM GMT
    Wishful thinking on your part. Glances aren't proof of gay intentions...
  • mystery905

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    Mar 20, 2018 10:36 AM GMT
    There's only one way to find out.....nothing ventured, nothing gained!

    No risk, no reward....
  • bro4bro

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    Mar 20, 2018 4:23 PM GMT
    deep388 saidI know what floor he is on and I get this seedy feeling he’s figured out where I am too


    I'm confused. You're the one who seems to have a minor fixation on the guy, you'd like to pursue him, you're aware of what floor he's on... but if he knows where you are too it's "seedy"?
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    Mar 20, 2018 6:10 PM GMT

    This guessing game has often got me into trouble, especially at work. Most people may not be this forward but now-a-days, if you get to at least talk in a private setting, hint you are a homo first, and whether or not you are out, see if he changes, repelled by you or becomes more curious.

    I am of the "too forward" type of personality, some say I come on too strong (WTF is that?). I am so comfortable with myself and my outness, sometimes I forget that others may not be. Id just come out and ask, "Hi, are you a homo"? gets right to the point without the game



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    Mar 20, 2018 8:21 PM GMT
    Discreetly follow him when he goes out to lunch a couple times; Then next time get there before he does, recognize him, and ask, "Don't you work at . . . ?" Conversation started.
  • deep388

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    Mar 22, 2018 5:00 AM GMT
    mybud saidWishful thinking on your part. Glances aren't proof of gay intentions...


    Definitely not wishful thinking! I’m not trying to look into anything that’s not there otherwise any guy including the likes of you I might delusionally think likes me just by meeting eyes! icon_rolleyes.gif

    And for the record, I’m sure all of us gay men have the capability on picking up which guy is just looking and which is actually giving you the “look”. It’s a vibe you get and I’ve felt it from this guy...either way, I don’t care if it’s mutual or not but a look is a look!
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    Mar 22, 2018 11:44 PM GMT
    Tried smiling?
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    Mar 27, 2018 10:26 PM GMT
    Looks mean nothing. He could be looking at you and just thinking "Ding ding ding, that guy is gay" and that's it. Never assume unless he licks his lips and blows you a kiss or something.