Would you fight for a long distance relationship/ Love?

  • comical44

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    Aug 06, 2018 5:02 PM GMT
    Would you fight to make a long distance relationship work especially if you had great chemistry or if you were falling in love? Let's say the distance was 2-3 hrs as an example. What would you do to make it work?
  • thomas2018

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    Aug 06, 2018 5:08 PM GMT
    comical44 saidWould you fight to make a long distance relationship work especially if you had great chemistry or if you were falling in love? Let's say the distance was 2-3 hrs as an example. What would you do to make it work?


    hell yh
  • HarborFighter

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    Aug 07, 2018 12:48 AM GMT
    Most definitely. I might hold the record for long-distance relationships. I met my husband online in 2004. We met on a website called GlobalFight.com. We are both boxers. At that time I had become an icon of gay boxing and was quite well-known. I owned my own boxing gym in southern Oregon and sponsored tournaments. I lived in what most people would call the sticks...Brookings/Harbor, Oregon. Indeed, my ring name, HarborFighter, came about because I lived in Harbor, Oregon. But even though I lived in a remote area, I got a very large amount of boxers coming to me, for boxing training, sparring, full on fights, as well as attending my tournaments. I also traveled a lot myself, competing in masters boxing events all over the US and Europe.

    In January of 2004, a guy contacted me and said he wanted to meet and box. I was blown away...because he lived in Australia. I had met many boxers (literally hundreds) through GlobalFight, MeetFighters, through word-of-mouth due to my larger-than-life, good, and hot reputation, and because I owned a boxing gym, which I called The Brookings/Harbor Fight Club. It didn't hurt that I was considered a legend in the gay boxing world at the time. (No, I'm NOT modest). I had also had my share of no-shows and guys who were all talk, no action. So I simply could not believe that this guy from Australia was going to come meet me.

    He DID.

    We fell in love. For many years we began crossing the Pacific Ocean to see each other. Rob was a school teacher, so he came to visit me on every school break during the year. Then I started returning the favor and began my pilgrimages to Australia. Between us we logged over 40 round trips between Australia and the US. For a long time we had the idea that he would get a green card, move to the US, and be with me permanently. That never happened. We tried hard, very hard, to make it happen, though.

    Finally, one day in 2012, after 8 years of commuting back and forth, I announced that I was going to be the one who would immigrate. I thought it was a long shot, but it ended up being quite workable. I applied for a partner visa and got it. I became a permanent resident of Australia on May 20, 2013. I moved to Australia on July 4, 2013 and have been with my husband ever since. Our long distance relationship between Australia and the US lasted over 9 years! We are very happy together, own our own house on the ocean south of Adelaide, and we are both boxing coaches at a gym in the city. We plan to open our own gym, which we will call Double Trouble Boxing. I have applied for citizenship and will become an Australian citizen later this year. I will retain my US citizenship and be a dual citizen.

    So that is my story. The short version.

    There is no reason to let distance keep you from someone you love. You mentioned that you were only 2 to 3 hours away? Well I say to you...go for it. That is down the street compared to what I did. The thing is, if you are truly in love, distance becomes meaningless. It really does. So I wish you the best!

    COACH TOM
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    Aug 07, 2018 1:21 AM GMT
    If I love him yes.
  • xysx

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    Aug 07, 2018 2:23 AM GMT
    Most definitely
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    Aug 07, 2018 2:53 AM GMT
    You call 2-3 hours "long distance"? icon_neutral.gif
  • comical44

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    Aug 07, 2018 3:23 AM GMT
    Wow that is truly an amazing story. I don't think I've ever heard of th distance be that far apart let alone it having a happy ending and so much commitment. I'm very hapyl for you and your partner and wish you both a happy life . Thanks for sharing your story.

    HarborFighter saidMost definitely. I might hold the record for long-distance relationships. I met my husband online in 2004. We met on a website called GlobalFight.com. We are both boxers. At that time I had become an icon of gay boxing and was quite well-known. I owned my own boxing gym in southern Oregon and sponsored tournaments. I lived in what most people would call the sticks...Brookings/Harbor, Oregon. Indeed, my ring name, HarborFighter, came about because I lived in Harbor, Oregon. But even though I lived in a remote area, I got a very large amount of boxers coming to me, for boxing training, sparring, full on fights, as well as attending my tournaments. I also traveled a lot myself, competing in masters boxing events all over the US and Europe.

    In January of 2004, a guy contacted me and said he wanted to meet and box. I was blown away...because he lived in Australia. I had met many boxers (literally hundreds) through GlobalFight, MeetFighters, through word-of-mouth due to my larger-than-life, good, and hot reputation, and because I owned a boxing gym, which I called The Brookings/Harbor Fight Club. It didn't hurt that I was considered a legend in the gay boxing world at the time. (No, I'm NOT modest). I had also had my share of no-shows and guys who were all talk, no action. So I simply could not believe that this guy from Australia was going to come meet me.

    He DID.

    We fell in love. For many years we began crossing the Pacific Ocean to see each other. Rob was a school teacher, so he came to visit me on every school break during the year. Then I started returning the favor and began my pilgrimages to Australia. Between us we logged over 40 round trips between Australia and the US. For a long time we had the idea that he would get a green card, move to the US, and be with me permanently. That never happened. We tried hard, very hard, to make it happen, though.

    Finally, one day in 2012, after 8 years of commuting back and forth, I announced that I was going to be the one who would immigrate. I thought it was a long shot, but it ended up being quite workable. I applied for a partner visa and got it. I became a permanent resident of Australia on May 20, 2013. I moved to Australia on July 4, 2013 and have been with my husband ever since. Our long distance relationship between Australia and the US lasted over 9 years! We are very happy together, own our own house on the ocean south of Adelaide, and we are both boxing coaches at a gym in the city. We plan to open our own gym, which we will call Double Trouble Boxing. I have applied for citizenship and will become an Australian citizen later this year. I will retain my US citizenship and be a dual citizen.

    So that is my story. The short version.

    There is no reason to let distance keep you from someone you love. You mentioned that you were only 2 to 3 hours away? Well I say to you...go for it. That is down the street compared to what I did. The thing is, if you are truly in love, distance becomes meaningless. It really does. So I wish you the best!

    COACH TOM
  • comical44

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    Aug 07, 2018 3:25 AM GMT
    It's funny because I actually don't..a lot of people do..I just look at it as a drive, a little commute lol. I think 2 hrs is not really far away in my opinion but some people can't handle it or don't like it for their respected opinions but I'm personally open to distance especially if you are not meeting people in your immediate area.

    kaepernick saidYou call 2-3 hours "long distance"? icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 08, 2018 2:24 PM GMT
    Hell fuck yeah! Is there a reason not to fight for it? Lol
  • jballa74

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    Aug 12, 2018 6:43 PM GMT
    Hell Yea!! 2-3 hours isn't long at all. Especially with Facetime, Skype, etc. I was in a distance relationship with a in the UK, and we made it work for a long time. Communication is key.
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    Aug 12, 2018 9:04 PM GMT
    I'm in Duluth. My boyfriend is in Minneapolis, a 2-and-a-half hour drive away. We've been dating for over two years now, seeing each other most weekends and doing some vacation travel together. It works for us. But oh it would be so great if they would get that Northern Lights Express AMTRAK train running between our two cities...

    But, in answer to the OP's question, yes, it's worth it!
  • comical44

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    Aug 13, 2018 2:35 AM GMT
    duluthrunner saidI'm in Duluth. My boyfriend is in Minneapolis, a 2-and-a-half hour drive away. We've been dating for over two years now, seeing each other most weekends and doing some vacation travel together. It works for us. But oh it would be so great if they would get that Northern Lights Express AMTRAK train running between our two cities...

    But, in answer to the OP's question, yes, it's worth it!


    That's great to hear, I'm happy for you. What would you say are the biggest challenged you fqce( if any)?
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    Aug 13, 2018 4:00 AM GMT
    comical44 said
    duluthrunner saidI'm in Duluth. My boyfriend is in Minneapolis, a 2-and-a-half hour drive away. We've been dating for over two years now, seeing each other most weekends and doing some vacation travel together. It works for us. But oh it would be so great if they would get that Northern Lights Express AMTRAK train running between our two cities...

    But, in answer to the OP's question, yes, it's worth it!


    That's great to hear, I'm happy for you. What would you say are the biggest challenged you fqce( if any)?


    I would say the biggest challenge is that the drive time eats into my opportunities for getting to the gym or going running....
  • comical44

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    Aug 13, 2018 5:12 AM GMT
    duluthrunner said
    comical44 said
    duluthrunner saidI'm in Duluth. My boyfriend is in Minneapolis, a 2-and-a-half hour drive away. We've been dating for over two years now, seeing each other most weekends and doing some vacation travel together. It works for us. But oh it would be so great if they would get that Northern Lights Express AMTRAK train running between our two cities...

    But, in answer to the OP's question, yes, it's worth it!


    That's great to hear, I'm happy for you. What would you say are the biggest challenged you fqce( if any)?


    I would say the biggest challenge is that the drive time eats into my opportunities for getting to the gym or going running....



    I can understand that. I'm sure the LDR makes your time together even more special?
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    Aug 17, 2018 7:57 PM GMT
    Right now my partner is in Florida while I am in Missouri. We still communicate every day. He is down there working, while I had to stay behind for my job right now.. He has expressed interest in wanting to stay down there. Once he has found a place and ready for me to join him down there; I will be happy to be with him. Besides, we have always had an open relationship. We are very truthful and we are very careful.