Going to Underwear Party Alone - Thoughts?

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    Nov 18, 2018 1:17 AM GMT
    So, there’s this underwear/jock strap party happening tonight, but I don’t have anyone to go with. Do you all think it would be worth it to go alone? Would it be super awkward? I’m a bit of an introvert.
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    Nov 18, 2018 3:37 AM GMT
    I'm an introvert and struggle with this a lot: to go alone, or to stay at home and risk missing out on a fun night?

    I would say go! If it's too uncomfortable or lame you could always just leave. icon_smile.gif
  • Apparition

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    Nov 18, 2018 4:18 AM GMT
    if you are shy, but hopeful

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    Nov 18, 2018 5:00 AM GMT
    O...go!

    Always, go!

    Wear a nice cock ring and show it off........
    Rest homes are NO FUN!! Get my drift...
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    Nov 18, 2018 12:21 PM GMT
    Did you go? How did it go for you?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 18, 2018 2:31 PM GMT
    HotLava saidO...go!

    Always, go!

    Wear a nice cock ring and show it off........
    Rest homes are NO FUN!! Get my drift...
    Yeah because you hang around rest homes with your cock swinging in the breeze! lol.
  • mmmm_mmmm

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    Nov 18, 2018 2:45 PM GMT
    What do you have to lose by going?
  • Element1313

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    Nov 18, 2018 3:21 PM GMT
    What really sucks about trying to date in 2018 is the notion that one only goes out with friends. It did not used to that way . I find gay huddles of friends difficult to break into in order to meet someone.
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    Nov 18, 2018 6:18 PM GMT
    Element1313 saidWhat really sucks about trying to date in 2018 is the notion that one only goes out with friends. It did not used to that way . I find gay huddles of friends difficult to break into in order to meet someone.


    This is a really helpful perspective. I ended up not going icon_redface.gif, but it’s a monthly party, so I’m committing to going alone next time.

    I recently exited a 4 year LTR, and I think I need a little more time to work up to this sort of thing. This party is an expert-level gay event — way more intimidating than even most sex parties/clubs. I just don’t think I was ready to jump into the deep end yet.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 18, 2018 6:33 PM GMT
    Something to keep in mind...

    When I was first going to gay bars (in the early 80s), common wisdom was that if you want to meet someone, you go to the bar alone - and if you do go with someone, ditch him as soon as you get inside.

    Of course, that was back in the day when people went to gay bars to meet someone. These days they meet guys on Grindr, and go to gay bars to hang out with their friends.

    But you'll still have a better chance of meeting guys if you're alone.
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    Nov 18, 2018 8:26 PM GMT
    Thrylan said
    Element1313 saidWhat really sucks about trying to date in 2018 is the notion that one only goes out with friends. It did not used to that way . I find gay huddles of friends difficult to break into in order to meet someone.


    This is a really helpful perspective. I ended up not going icon_redface.gif, but it’s a monthly party, so I’m committing to going alone next time.

    I recently exited a 4 year LTR, and I think I need a little more time to work up to this sort of thing. This party is an expert-level gay event — way more intimidating than even most sex parties/clubs. I just don’t think I was ready to jump into the deep end yet.




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    DILF Jock/Underwear ? great party, I see they have expanded locations, I don't have friends who are interested so I go alone

    "This party is an expert-level gay event" what does this mean? You just have to be yourself, if its your first ever underwear party and you are working up the nerve to 'check your clothes' I understand the anxiety, which you must have

    Its about half and half at these parties, half the guys go alone, the other half come with at least one other guy. If its something you really want to do, then go ahead and do it, think of it on your bucket list, best way to overcome your anxiety
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    Nov 19, 2018 12:24 AM GMT
    Hell, go! Experience the fun of being a sexy gay man;)
  • barefootlover

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    Nov 19, 2018 12:37 AM GMT
    Thrylan saidSo, there’s this underwear/jock strap party happening tonight, but I don’t have anyone to go with. Do you all think it would be worth it to go alone? Would it be super awkward? I’m a bit of an introvert.


    Most guys probably come alone, but won't be alone for long wearing only underwear or a jock strap. lol
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    Nov 19, 2018 12:49 AM GMT
    I hope you did it. I went to my first gay club underwear party when I was 50, with my 39-year-old BF at the time. Who said my ass by definition was too old to go. I defied him and went anyway. I really believed my butt wasn’t that sorry.

    He got so mad that I got compliments, while he did not. (Many guys thought we were the same age, or me even younger, which infuriated him). Hell, I was a bicyclist and rode motorcycles all over the US from coast to coast.

    As a result my ass was firmer than his. And back then, before my cancer treatment and aging, my package was way bigger than his, too. But as a professional actor he had a fragile ego as big as Trump’s. He always had to be in the spotlight, no room for anyone else.

    I hope you didn’t worry about being alone. Being unattached means you’re up for grabs (literally & figuratively). In retrospect I wish I had gone alone myself. I later did to other underwear parties. icon_wink.gif So did you go, and how was it?
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    Nov 19, 2018 3:49 AM GMT
    Honestly, I’ve never heard of an underwear party before!

    Wow.

    (now I’m kinda curious....!)
  • DaForgotten1

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    Nov 19, 2018 3:56 PM GMT
    I've been to one by myself. Just go and have fun.
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    Nov 19, 2018 5:16 PM GMT
    NearTheBorder said
    Art_Deco saidI hope you did it. I went to my first gay club underwear party when I was 50, with my 39-year-old BF at the time. Who said my ass by definition was too old to go. I defied him and went anyway. I really believed my butt wasn’t that sorry.

    He got so mad that I got compliments, while he did not. (Many guys thought we were the same age, or me even younger, which infuriated him). Hell, I was a bicyclist and rode motorcycles all over the US from coast to coast.

    As a result my ass was firmer than his. And back then, before my cancer treatment and aging, my package was way bigger than his, too. But as a professional actor he had a fragile ego as big as Trump’s. He always had to be in the spotlight, no room for another.

    I hope you didn’t worry about being alone. Being unattached means you’re up for grabs (literally & figuratively). In retrospect I wish I had gone alone myself. I later did to others. icon_wink.gif So did you go, and how was it?

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    Nov 19, 2018 5:50 PM GMT
    YVRguy said
    Honestly, I’ve never heard of an underwear party before!

    Wow.

    (now I’m kinda curious....!)

    Really? They used to be quite popular and common at gay clubs. Are they not now?

    A lotta guys would actually wear just jocks or thongs. And skimpy briefs with shaped pouches are a winner. But with a jock the management might insist you bring a towel to use on their bar stools and chairs. Same personal hygiene protocol as naturists/nudists follow.

    Aside from your tiny attire it’s usually just like any other club night, unless they choose to have special contests or something. They often provide a place for you to remove and hang your outer street clothes after you arrive (prolly don’t want to walk down the street like that). But plan a way to carry your valuables and bar money with you. Some guys just stuff their wallet in their briefs over their ass, just so butch. icon_lol.gif

    This place I’m at as I’m sending this from my iPad also has outdoor Foam Nights. A big foam machine creates mountains of suds where the poolside lounge chairs usually are. Guys can wear what they want, from their full clothes to totally naked (it’s male-only). Most forego getting their clothes wet, and a good percentage are already naked here anyway. In fact, everyone poolside at this moment is nude, but it’s optional what you do or don’t wear. I don’t even bother to pack a swimsuit for Key West, since I don’t use the public beach, only swim & sun at this pool.

    Some real mischief can happen when guys are mostly buried unseen in the foam, with their clothes already off. But most underwear parties I’ve attended are pretty tame, as most US jurisdictions will pull the liquor license if it becomes an orgy, so the management can’t let things get too out of hand (or is that things getting IN hand?). Unless it’s billed as a private, closed-door party, and then the rules may be more relaxed.
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    Nov 20, 2018 2:09 AM GMT
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    DILF Jock/Underwear ? great party, I see they have expanded locations, I don't have friends who are interested so I go alone

    "This party is an expert-level gay event" what does this mean? You just have to be yourself, if its your first ever underwear party and you are working up the nerve to 'check your clothes' I understand the anxiety, which you must have

    Its about half and half at these parties, half the guys go alone, the other half come with at least one other guy. If its something you really want to do, then go ahead and do it, think of it on your bucket list, best way to overcome your anxiety


    That's the one!

    I have zero issue with checking my clothes or being nearly naked around other men. I've been to many sex parties/clubs and bathhouses alone, but this feels a little different because sex isn't really the main event. It's the "going to a gay club night alone and then stripping" aspect that gives me anxiety, especially because this party feels very "scene-y." The social waters are a little more complex than, "we're all here to fuck," which is what makes me nervous as a profound introvert.

    That said, it's a relief that as many as half of the guys at this party go alone. I'm totally going to push myself out of my comfort zone and go when it comes around next month.