Oct 08, 2019 8:22 PM GMT
I came out at 16 and I really cant imaging doing it later. When did it feel comfortable enough for you to come out ?
Caledon saidso why you have fake picks here that do not show your face then?
I think it's better to come out when you feel the time is right for you.
For some people that's younger. For others it's older.
Nobody should feel they have to come out when someone else tells them they should.
KyleStephenson saidI totally agree that should do it when your ready, but I also believe that you should do it before you get married. Don't wait till you have a wife and A family a then decide you want to live in your truth.
Of course when you do come out, it doesn't have to be a big deal or spectacle. Most guys when they "come out", they just mean that when people ask if they're gay, they have no problem answering honestly.
When to come out all depends on where you live, and what your famiky is like. If you live in Scandavvia, or urban France, Germany, or the Netherlands, being gay is no big deal. If you are in a conservative religious family, or live in a conservative rural area, coming out is not such a good idea. Wait until you are living on your own.
JonSpringon saidLike so many others have said... each person's situation is unique and the "right" time for them to come out is just as unique.
I think that kids today (damn that makes me sound old) may have an 'easier' time these days and can come out sooner with society being more accepting these days and there being fewer and fewer repercussions that some of us older folks had to grow up with.
There were times that homosexuality was just plain unacceptable... then it went to "acceptable, but looked down upon"... at it approaches "accepted and normal" it's getting better, but now the pendulum feels like it might be swinging the other way again, with recent reviews of some older bigots' view of law in front of SCOTUS, again.
I came out in my 30s. Actually just in the past 5 years. It was the right time for me, and I found that most of the ramifications I feared for years were hardly a blip on the radar in reality. Do i wish i did it sooner? maybe, but the world was a different place then. /shrug/