Losing erection, or short erection, or quick ejaculation during sex

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    Mar 05, 2020 4:40 PM GMT
    Hello, guys.
    I'm 31 years old, predominantly top gay man (I've never had sex with a woman).
    I don't have much experience in sex, but the times I've tried it, most of the cases were unsuccessful. I can't hold my erection for long. Plus, when I try to penetrate the bottom guy, unless my dick gets in from the first try, I lose my erection and further tries are worthless. Also, even if I shag a bottom guy, I ejaculate quickly.
    With my last boyfriend we've tried doing sex and 50% of the cases were successful, but short. He never ejaculated while I fucked him, and this is what he likes the most. It's because I'm done before even he gets hard and enjoys the pounding. Maybe this was the reason we broke up.

    I've tried taking some pills for erection, but they make me sick and my head and stomach don't feel well some time after I get them.

    I do like blowjobs a lot (even to do them, depending on the partner). But blowjob is not the same as anal sex and the feeling on the penis is different (softer?). While I'm not always in the mood for anal, I've always wanted to shag a nice big bubble butt. Guess what - won't happen due to the issues with erection.
    I also like some other games (e.g. soft bdsm, s&m and such), but again they are not sex.
    I've tried to bottom myself. The idea seems OK, but it was never successful, and I certainly don't enjoy the dick getting in me. So this is also not my thing.

    Do you have any suggestions how I can make my erection lasting? How to deal with the issue of not being able to penetrate a nice ass (if I fail the first try) and enjoy a good time with the other guy?
    Any information would be appreciated.
    If you want to laugh, be my guest, but I hope there is some useful advice from someone. icon_smile.gif

    Thank you and have a great (sex) time.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 05, 2020 8:20 PM GMT
    You should start with a medical review. If all checks out, you may need to work through it with a sex therapist. Sounds like something going on that isn't going to be fixed by a suggestion here. Good luck, mate.
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    Mar 06, 2020 1:19 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidYou should start with a medical review. If all checks out, you may need to work through it with a sex therapist. Sounds like something going on that isn't going to be fixed by a suggestion here. Good luck, mate.

    Now I remember I've been to a doctor. And that's why I tried some pills a few times - they prescribed them to me. But the effect was not good on my body after all... Plus, it is not accepted to be gay in my country, so I can't practically give exact details to the doctor, unfortunately.
    Thanks anyway for the suggestion.