Is Anal Sex really that important to be in a gay relationship?

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    Mar 12, 2020 12:39 AM GMT
    Especially with out a condom!
    Maybe do your partner with a dildo or something?
    It just seems completely UNSAFE in today's world?
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  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 12, 2020 1:03 AM GMT
    There are guys out there who don't like anal sex in either role. But for most guys, the role of top or the role of bottom is both the height of sexual pleasure and the height of intimate connection. Without penetration, everything else is just foreplay, and kind of sad foreplay if it is to go nowhere. Humans are just wired to love fucking. It's how we survive as a species. But if you're not into it, don't do it. Your fears are outweighing your urges. Sometimes that is a good thing but really, the dangers can be sorted out. You shouldn't be so afraid. I'm tested for everything quarterly and on Prep. Pretty much anything disease-wise I can catch can be cured with a pill in a matter of days. Doesn't mean I'm not careful, but then I wouldn't want to kiss or even touch someone I didn't have a good feel for. Life is full of judgement calls. There is danger walking down the street at midnight.
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    Mar 12, 2020 1:20 AM GMT
    If two men really love eachother (or just enjoy hooking up), sure there are other ways of getting eacchother off. Anal sex though, there are many ways to look at it.

    Top guys view: It's a hell of a lot better than complaining during oral (ow, watch the teeth) icon_neutral.gif

    Bottom guys view: Some guys tend to get off/harder with something up his ass, not sh*t though.

    Metaphorical view: A passionte expression taking physical form, where two try and merge as one.

    So many perspectives on it, but true, how there are some health concerns if you're not careful. Some say the deeper the anal sex, it can alter your stomach a bit, and innexperienced anal enthusiests who manage to take dp or a cock too big/thick, can end up with a hemmerhoid to pay for it in the end.

    Like any other thing in sex, it all a matter of preference, what you enjoy then and there, even better if you and your partner both love the same thing you do big time.
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    Mar 12, 2020 1:40 AM GMT
    Wendigo9 said
    If two men really love eachother (or just enjoy hooking up), sure there are other ways of getting eacchother off. Anal sex though, there are many ways to look at it.

    Top guys view: It's a hell of a lot better than complaining during oral (ow, watch the teeth) icon_neutral.gif

    Bottom guys view: Some guys tend to get off/harder with something up his ass, not sh*t though.

    Metaphorical view: A passionte expression taking physical form, where two try and merge as one.

    So many perspectives on it, but true, how there are some health concerns if you're not careful. Some say the deeper the anal sex, it can alter your stomach a bit, and innexperienced anal enthusiests who manage to take dp or a cock too big/thick, can end up with a hemmerhoid to pay for it in the end.

    Like any other thing in sex, it all a matter of preference, what you enjoy then and there, even better if you and your partner both love the same thing you do big time.

    I mostly agree with this. It’s gotta be mutual, and guided by your love for each other. And what YOU guys like, not directed by some external expectations. I know lots of couples who NEVER have anal.

    I didn’t try bottoming until I was out about 6 years. But I hate to miss out on things, figured I should at least try it, learn about it. Safely, of course.

    It was great! I discovered I was versatile! LOL! But I gotta admit, I retain a preference for giving & getting blowjobs, from someone who really knows how (and not that many guys do). I have a shamefully vain pride about my own BJ technique. icon_redface.gif
  • bro4bro

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    Mar 12, 2020 4:16 PM GMT
    I've done a whole fuck of a lot with guys that didn't end in anal sex.

    A few of those were among the greatest sexual experiences of my life - and in a way it was entirely because there was no anal.

    In a hookup situation, if you're going to fuck it usually happens fast and ends pretty quick. But if you're not going to fuck - and you're with the right guy - it can go on for hours. It can be extremely sensual, romantic, stimulating - and if you edge with a guy for two hours, you'll likely end up blowing about a quart of cum, and shooting far enough to splatter the walls.

    In a real relationship, I think anal is essential. It's deeper (literally and figuratively). It connects you (literally and figuratively). It's necessary because if you're really in a relationship there shouldn't be any holding back - unless both of you genuinely have no interest in it, but that'd be about as likely as both of you hitting double-zero in roulette.

    In a hookup though, with the right guy, there's a lot to be said for not fucking. It just takes a little more commitment than the average blow-and-go.
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    Mar 13, 2020 2:21 AM GMT
    In my opinion anal sex is not necessary. If you love someone you want both to feel comfortable which means respect. I dated a man for years and we only did oral sex and we felt very connected. Yeah. No anal sex is necessary. Connect with that man you fall for. Admire his body and companionship. Look at something he has in terms of talents, personality of that sort because those make me so turned on.
  • Element1313

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    Mar 13, 2020 1:13 PM GMT
    Yeah, anal and monogamy . Nothing better than that.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 13, 2020 2:39 PM GMT
    I've never been into anal sex...probably why I'm single icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif The fantasy of it is far greater than the reality for me. I just find it kind of gross. Just not for me.
  • ObscureAndFuz...

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    Mar 13, 2020 8:21 PM GMT
    I'm married and neither of us like anal sex.
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    Mar 13, 2020 9:11 PM GMT
    How not important.... Then how can you listen his moan... Where you will get showr together after hard fuck...
    The real fusion when I cum inside my bf Pussy........
  • Fritter

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    Mar 13, 2020 11:28 PM GMT
    ObscureAndFuzzy saidI'm married and neither of us like anal sex.

    My partner and I just grind with each other, no anal sex. Oral sex is involved at times though.
  • MEGATRON

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    Mar 29, 2020 4:19 PM GMT
    SOONY saidHow not important.... Then how can you listen his moan... Where you will get showr together after hard fuck...
    The real fusion when I cum inside my bf Pussy........


    If your bf has a pussy, then he might not be a “bf” after all...
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    May 09, 2020 8:42 PM GMT
    I agree with you. Anal sex is just one small part of an entire sexual experience. I’ve been in a relationship without it and one can be/feel sexually fulfilled in many other ways.
    Cohon saidIn my opinion anal sex is not necessary. If you love someone you want both to feel comfortable which means respect. I dated a man for years and we only did oral sex and we felt very connected. Yeah. No anal sex is necessary. Connect with that man you fall for. Admire his body and companionship. Look at something he has in terms of talents, personality of that sort because those make me so turned on.
  • FRE0

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    Sep 24, 2020 11:18 PM GMT
    It is unclear why anal sex has become so popular when at one time most guys were not into it.

    The "Advocate" used to be a popular national gay newspaper. It had a personals section which guys used to find a partner. There were single-letter abbreviations for what kind of sex guys wanted. F was for French, i.e., oral. G was for Greek, i.e., anal. JO, well you know that that means. V was for versatile. A was for active, P was for passive. FA and FP were most common. GA and GP were least common. Many guys wanted nothing to do with it.

    But sometime in the late 1970s or early 1980s, anal sex began to become more popular. Now it seems that some guys can't get along without it. I don't know what caused the change.
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    Sep 25, 2020 3:28 AM GMT
    It's not important to me at all.
    I prefer to make love with (not "to") someone, and display my affection that way and orally.
    I get pleasure out of giving pleasure, but penetration is not at all necassary.
    But if my partner wants it, I am more than willing to accomodate him.
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    Sep 25, 2020 11:45 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    ...for most guys, the role of top or the role of bottom is both the height of sexual pleasure and the height of intimate connection. Without penetration, everything else is just foreplay
    I agree with Destinharbor.

    I really don't enjoy giving or getting blowjobs. My jaw gets tired when I'm giving head, and there's nothing particularly erotic to me about having a dick in my mouth. I don't enjoy getting head unless I can face-fuck him, and I don't like doing that to someone I love, since it involves choking him repeatedly.

    On the other hand, I love fucking my partner. I am a gentle and tender top who can fuck for a long time, prolonging the sensation, like riding a bike up a long, long hill, enjoying the scenery on the way, and varying the speed, until we finally reach the top and can coast down the other side of the hill, relishing the ride.

    I have never tried bottoming myself. Some partners have tried to get inside me, but I always stop them. I wonder now if I've been missing out, and think that I should give it a try with someone who can be gentle and patient with me.
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    Sep 25, 2020 11:52 PM GMT
    If you have never had a prostate orgasm, have you ever even lived? LOL. I feel very sorry for guys who are not in touch with their prostate and even more for those who have never experienced a hands-free prostate orgasm. The orgasm comes in waves and lasts for several minutes. Better than any orgasm you will ever have through your dick. And that's why anal sex is so important to most gay men. Half of the time I do not engage in anal sex because there are lots of other ways to get off but I don't think I could ever be in a monogamous relationship if anal sex were forbidden.
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    Sep 27, 2020 2:47 AM GMT
    I don’t think I’ll ever be able to enjoy anal sex because it’s always just been me and my trusty old right hand.
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    Sep 29, 2020 2:57 PM GMT
    Writer22 said
    I don’t think I’ll ever be able to enjoy anal sex because it’s always just been me and my trusty old right hand.

    That’s why they make dildoes. Not quite the same as being a bottom, but it can approximate.