HikerSkier saidThe lady doth protest too much, methinks. And perhaps there's just a bit of bragging - that he is groped in every gay bar he enters, as if he were a copy of a 22 year old Brad Pit or a famous underwear model. Strains credulity just a bit.
If the OP doesn't like the reaction he gets in his circle of gay bars, he could find different bars to visit, or give up on gay bars altogether. These days, except in the sleaziest of places, it is difficult to meet guys as one used to do, because most guys don't go to gay bars alone today, but with friends (So I am told by all my single friends).
One begins to wonder, with his extremely negative view of gay sexuality, and his condemnation of gay men in general, if he is really gay (er even bi).
Assuming for the moment that the OP is not a troll, if he wants to find some one for an LTR, gay bars are not the place to look. This is a jock site, so, if he has an interest in jock things or sports, the place to meet other guys is probably in sports activities or clubs (or, in any other organization. But, if he is 38, he has already missed at least 18 years worth of these opportunities. He ought to drop the bar scene and get crackin in real life (after the quarantine period is over.)
thanks for your assessment of me lol
yes i am a real person
yes i am bi
yes i get groped. I tend to take care of my body and apparently I'm attractive to a lot of people lol. Hope that doesn't offend ya. I'm just being honest
So spending a lot of those years going back and forth between girls and guys hasn't helped
but i would like your real recommendation where to meet people. you seem to know a lot about this. You can't simply say "why don't you not go to gay bars anymore" and hope to possibly meet a guy. it doesn't really work that way to not go out anywhere and sit at home and hope to meet a guy lol
and meeting people at normal events, charity, sports, clubs, etc doesn't really work because people assume i'm straight, so unless I sit people down one by one and say, btw I'm interested in dudes too, then they don't know to introduce me to their cool gay friend.
so where do you suggest going to meet quality, not sex-driven and obsessed good guys if not bars?