Jun 03, 2020 5:04 PM GMT
I've been thinking about this quite a bit after reading a few posts about how some guys seem to have bad luck in finding tops in their area. And I got to wondering if two bottoms could actually have a good relationship.
▶ Now speaking for myself, I'm a "side", I'm not interested in topping or bottoming. Obviously that can make dating a minefield since most gay men I've come across in my experience are into anal sex but it's just not something I'm into. But to a bottom, I'd most likely just come off as another bottom since I especially have no interest in topping but lately I've been thinking about what if I were in a relationship with another bottom?
▶ See for me, I feel that if I were dating another guy who preferred anal stimulation, I would have no problem doing things like rimming and using toys on him. Like in my head, I can picture myself just using dildos as requested for my mate and even getting one of those fancy ones that can ejaculate and all that or even using a double-ended one as well (Sorry, I know it's TMI and I'm normally not this graphic but I just gotta be descriptive here lol). And honestly, while I would prefer monogamy, I feel like in a situation like that, perhaps non-monogamy would be the way to go so I would just let him bottom for another guy if he just really needed it.
▶ The reason I started thinking about this is because I noticed that whenever I would be scrolling through gay profiles on Grindr, Scruff, etc. I noticed that whenever I would read their descriptions and would see them labeled as "bottom", I would just click off their page, not because I found the guy unattractive or anything like that but subconsciously I just feel too afraid to even attempt to message because I'm not a top. But lately I've just been thinking that maybe in some weird way, two bottoms could satisfy each other in other ways even if both parties have no interest in topping one another and maybe another bottom would know the right tricks to satisfy the other bottom via toys, fingers, and rimming. Just a theory anyway lol.
But I was just curious what others think. If you're a bottom, would you be open or be interested in dating another guy who was a bottom or a "side" who would have no problem using toys and rimming for you (and possibly open relationship) or do you feel that you really do need the real thing sortaspeak to be sexually satisfied?
▶ Now speaking for myself, I'm a "side", I'm not interested in topping or bottoming. Obviously that can make dating a minefield since most gay men I've come across in my experience are into anal sex but it's just not something I'm into. But to a bottom, I'd most likely just come off as another bottom since I especially have no interest in topping but lately I've been thinking about what if I were in a relationship with another bottom?
▶ See for me, I feel that if I were dating another guy who preferred anal stimulation, I would have no problem doing things like rimming and using toys on him. Like in my head, I can picture myself just using dildos as requested for my mate and even getting one of those fancy ones that can ejaculate and all that or even using a double-ended one as well (Sorry, I know it's TMI and I'm normally not this graphic but I just gotta be descriptive here lol). And honestly, while I would prefer monogamy, I feel like in a situation like that, perhaps non-monogamy would be the way to go so I would just let him bottom for another guy if he just really needed it.
▶ The reason I started thinking about this is because I noticed that whenever I would be scrolling through gay profiles on Grindr, Scruff, etc. I noticed that whenever I would read their descriptions and would see them labeled as "bottom", I would just click off their page, not because I found the guy unattractive or anything like that but subconsciously I just feel too afraid to even attempt to message because I'm not a top. But lately I've just been thinking that maybe in some weird way, two bottoms could satisfy each other in other ways even if both parties have no interest in topping one another and maybe another bottom would know the right tricks to satisfy the other bottom via toys, fingers, and rimming. Just a theory anyway lol.
But I was just curious what others think. If you're a bottom, would you be open or be interested in dating another guy who was a bottom or a "side" who would have no problem using toys and rimming for you (and possibly open relationship) or do you feel that you really do need the real thing sortaspeak to be sexually satisfied?
