Feedback and gratitude

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    Jun 13, 2020 7:24 PM GMT
    So, I received a photo comment from a member called canadabeef in spanish, which makes sense, since my location is shown as Buenos aires and in translation it was about - how sexy I look and how he would like to lick all over me - ok, I left it as that.

    So, I replied to him with a message - muchacho- , which means young man in a cute way


    So after a day, probably seeing that his comment is still not below my photo - the guy replies to me :
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    Translation:
    ''You must learn some manners and have the courtesy to thank the people who take the time to give you a compliment,
    Also, get over it, you arrogant idiot: you're not that cool.'''
    I replied to him - gracias - , which i am still waiting for reply since that coward cannot even open the message

    But it made me wonder, why this guy is so mad?
    When you write to others do you expect some kind of thank you or gratitude and if you don't get it, do you start slamming that person?

    When I write something to others I do it because I just think that way not because I am trying to get something out of them and even if I wanted to get something out of someone would I call someone else an arrogant idiot for not giving what I expected and what exactly i need to get over ?
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    Jun 13, 2020 7:46 PM GMT
    Maybe he doesn't like being called muchacho?

    How did his compliment make you feel when you first read it?
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    Jun 13, 2020 7:47 PM GMT
    The_Other_Dave saidMaybe he doesn't like being called muchacho?

    How did his compliment make you feel when you first read it?


    to be honest, not much, uneventful, unimpressed I guess, maybe a little bit predatoryish, also i read partially his profile and it pushed me back, so that made me not want to put his comment down
  • venue35

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    Jun 13, 2020 10:37 PM GMT
    I've been talking to him lately here on rj and he's been real nice to me. Don't know what happened and he got mad but you could ask him instead of posting his message for everyone to see..well atleast untill you find out what happened...
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:15 PM GMT
    If you're going to call me out publicly, you should tell the WHOLE story and quit your lying.
    Yes, I DID say that to you, because every message and/or comment I sent you was ignored.
    I have a major problem with arrogance and people who are so full of themselves that they can't bother to even say "Thank you".
    And you are a liar. I answer EVERY SINGLE one of my messages, and I have NEVER gotten one from you.
    The only "coward" here is YOU.
    If you tried to contact me and couldn't, it is because I blocked you. I'm not scared, neither am I afraid of telling it like it is.
    I have many people on here telling me what a nice guy I am, so frankly, your opinion of me means nothing.
    Try and tell the WHOLE story next time.

    P.S. - I don't say or do nice things because I expect anything in return. However, Good manners and common courtesy cost nothing.
    Furthermore, if someone bad mouths me, I don't go running onto forums like a little girl trying to lie and trash that person's reputation.
    In other words - BE A MAN.
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:27 PM GMT
    canadabeef saidIf you're going to call me out publicly, you should tell the WHOLE story and quit your lying.
    Yes, I DID say that to you, because every message and/or comment I sent you was ignored.
    I have a major problem with arrogance and people who are so full of themselves that they can't bother to even say "Thank you".
    And you are a liar. I answer EVERY SINGLE one of my messages, and I have NEVER gotten one from you.
    The only "coward" here is YOU.
    If you tried to contact me and couldn't, it is because I blocked you. I'm not scared, neither am I afraid of telling it like it is.
    I have many people on here telling me what a nice guy I am, do frankly, your opinion of me means nothing.
    Try and tell the WHOLE story next time.


    The whole story is that you are a liar, You didn't send me any messages , not a single one, apart from this one that I posted here on this thread and even to that one I replied with - gracias - , you send me a photo comment, which I did not post and I was the one who send you the first message with one word - muchacho . after the photo comment
    And to be fair, even if I did ignore your messages , which is not true, that would still not give you any right to write to me your toxic nonsense, this will be the last message I will write to you since I wrote exactly how it happened
    And here is the the proof of the message that I wrote to you that I did not write according to you since ''I am such a liar''
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    And yeah people should know about this, but to be fair , it is not hard to figure that out from your profile , but still - if not accepting your photo comment makes you that mad since there was absolutely nothing I said or did since I don't know you and never chatted with your nor I would ever want to , I can only imagine what else can make you even madder.
    I actually want to call you a psycho, but , well, that is just a suspicion, not a diagnosis.

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    Jun 13, 2020 11:41 PM GMT
    Please. If you have nothing better to do than take screenshots and whine like a little girl over petty things, you really ought to get a life.
    I know the truth, and so do the (many) people I care about on here, so trash me as much as you please. You are COMPLETELY insignificant.
    You must be very lonely in order to make such a big deal over nothing.
    Might I suggest a good psychiatrist? On second thoughts, make that a psychologist - you're going to need some serious medication.
    And please- feel free to call me a psychopath (that is, providing you know what one is).
    I'm medically qualified to diagnose you for EXACTLY what you are. And you, sir, are a sociopath.
    But, knowing your lack of knowledge on the subject, I highly doubt you know the difference between the two.
    Like I said, you're insignificant and a pesky mosquito. Buzz off.
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:45 PM GMT
    canadabeef saidPlease. If you have nothing better to do than take screenshots and whine like a little girl over petty things, you really ought to get a life.
    I know the truth, and so do the (many) people I care about on here, so trash me as much as you please. You are COMPLETELY insignificant.
    You must be very lonely in order to make such a big deal over nothing.
    Might I suggest a good psychiatrist? On second thoughts, make that a psychologist - you're going to need some serious medication.
    And please- feel free to call me a psychopath (that is, providing you know what one is).
    I'm medically qualified to diagnose you for EXACTLY what you are. And you, sir, are a sociopath.
    But, knowing your lack of knowledge on the subject, I highly doubt you know the difference between the two.
    Like I said, you're insignificant and a pesky mosquito. Buzz off.


    Actually, it's other way around, psychiatrists usually are the ones writing prescriptions


    Well, this was just funny, so hopefully last reply icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:48 PM GMT
    God, you're pathetic!!!! Just like a whiny little girl! "Waaaaaa...Canadabeef said this" Waaa.....Canadabeef said that.
    You seriously need help.
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:51 PM GMT
    So we could get back to the subject, do you guys get as mad as this guy for not saying thank you to photo comments? icon_lol.gif or not replying to '' compliments'' like this guy? This guy gives so much compliments, where are my manners for not saying thank you, i am such an arrogant idiot icon_lol.gif

    to be honest not sure what is his problem since i did reply to his '' compliment ''with one word muchacho, I guess I needed also to say thank you. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:51 PM GMT
    By the way, you're forum posts have now been blocked also. have fun in your warped little fantasy world.
    (And for the record, I have spoken to at least 7 people who have said the same thing about you).
    And WHO is the one with the problem, hot shot?????
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:56 PM GMT
    But actually, aside from him, in general, do you get mad when people are not replying to '' compliments'' you leave?
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    Jun 13, 2020 11:57 PM GMT
    Obviously, you're not too quick on the uptake, so let me spell it out for you.
    I am NOT angry! I am NOT upset. In fact, I am laughing my head off!
    I'll say one last thing, and then let you lead your sad existence.
    I'll repeat myself: GOOD MANNERS AND COMMON COURTESY COST NOTHING.
    And if I can try to make a person feel better about themselves, and not be so damn self-absorbed as you obviously are, then so be it.
    Enjoy your little posts, loser.
  • jocked_and_lo...

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    Jun 14, 2020 2:48 AM GMT
    Canadabeef and I exchanged emails in the past.

    He was very polite and friendly toward me.

    Y no sabía que ese tío hablaba español. Está buenorro. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 14, 2020 3:50 AM GMT
    Actually my friend, Jocked_and_Loaded, I DON'T speak Spanish. But it's a part of my character which 99.9% of people love. And that is, if I know someone is from another country, I use Google Translate to send them a message or comment! I just think it's a little more special! I met this Swedish guy on here and commented to him and he was delighted that I wrote to him in Swedish!
    If that makes me a bad guy, I guess I am. I won't change my ways of trying to make people feel special. I am what I am.
    By the way, check your inbox, big guy! icon_smile.gif xo
  • jocked_and_lo...

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    Jun 14, 2020 3:58 AM GMT
    Wow, so you made the effort to talk to someone in Spanish whom you thought was from a Latin American country as a way to connect to that person?

    That sounds really sweet.

    The person you're quarreling with in this thread changes his country of residence regularly. I guess he finds that amusing.
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    Jun 14, 2020 4:09 AM GMT
    Well, my friend, that doesn't surprise me one bit.
    My instincts about people are always right on target.
    But yes! I always try to make people feel special by writing in their native tongue! icon_smile.gif
    Perhaps IF Mr. Cal here continues to attention-seek like the lonely soul he is, I might even invest in some building blocks for children with the letters engraved upon them. Thus, he can choose whatever country he desires to be in (all for the sake of attention-seeking), and perhaps learn a thing or two!
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    Jun 14, 2020 11:18 AM GMT
    Cal_ said
    The_Other_Dave saidMaybe he doesn't like being called muchacho?

    How did his compliment make you feel when you first read it?


    to be honest, not much, uneventful, unimpressed I guess, maybe a little bit predatoryish, also i read partially his profile and it pushed me back, so that made me not want to put his comment down


    Personally I do have issues with feeling ignored, but only if its somebody that I know offline.
    If I give a compliment to someone on this site or any dating app, and they acknowledge it, it's nice, but if they don't, it's not the end of the world.

    There is no need to name and shame someone you're having a personal dispute with though!
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    Jun 14, 2020 11:33 AM GMT
    The_Other_Dave said
    Cal_ said
    The_Other_Dave saidMaybe he doesn't like being called muchacho?

    How did his compliment make you feel when you first read it?


    to be honest, not much, uneventful, unimpressed I guess, maybe a little bit predatoryish, also i read partially his profile and it pushed me back, so that made me not want to put his comment down


    Personally I do have issues with feeling ignored, but only if its somebody that I know offline.
    If I give a compliment to someone on this site or any dating app, and they acknowledge it, it's nice, but if they don't, it's not the end of the world.

    There is no need to name and shame someone you're having a personal dispute with though!


    I have nothing to do with the guy, I was not the one leaving the photo comment and then writing the nasty message and I see nothing wrong putting this publicly since there was no justification for him to act like that and after that even to lie about it icon_lol.gif
  • worldlyguy

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    Jun 14, 2020 1:15 PM GMT
    Personally, I do appreciate it when somebody does take a sec to at least acknowledge a compliment and say thank you, even if there is no further interest. I think it is classy and decent, but I won't crumble if the guy doesn't. Nor would I go to war with somebody over the issue. I always try to make sure to reply when I can, for those lovey moments when somebody sends to me. lol, wish it were more often, but...
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    Jun 14, 2020 2:36 PM GMT
    Cal_ said

    i read partially his profile and it pushed me back, so that made me not want to put his comment down


    I tried reading it too, got about 5 sentences in and had enough.

    As for compliments and photo comments on here, "hot listing" and such I always try to say thank you and be gracious. It's the right thing to do when someone takes the time to pay you a compliment, but I generally don't take the conversation any further than that if I'm not interested.

    I do think it's extremely bad form to make any private conversations between members fodder for a post in a public forum. Copy and pasting private messages is not a nice thing to do.
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    Jun 14, 2020 4:35 PM GMT
    The reason my profile section is so long, is because I have had many members want to know all about me.
    Therefore, I have listed everything on my profile, so I don't have to repeat myself to everyone. Especially when I'm asked 20 times a day about health issues.
    It gets rather monotonous to repeat myself over and over again.
    No-one is forcing any of you to read my profile. It is strictly there because I was asked to put as much information on my page from quite a few people.
    It was totally blank, before, so I filled it.
    Nobody is forcing any of you at gun point to read the whole thing.
    If you don't like it, fine! Just don't read it and move on! Trust me, my life will go on, if you choose not to read it!
    Again, be a man and get over it and yourselves! Don't come whining about what you ASSUME to be my shortcomings on forums.
    I made it for the people who are genuinely interested. Not for those who are stereotypical queens who only want body shots and to talk about sex, sex, sex, and have a form of attention-deficit disorder because the subject matter doesn't meet their "requirements".
    And for the dreaded Cal who started this page, it would absolutely shock you if you knew how many messages I have received from people saying what a petty little wanker you are, and that I should start a blog about you and your non-existent life.
    But frankly, I don't have the time or desire to do so. I'm man enough to take it in stride. Unfortunately, the same can't be said about you.
    I'm not vindictive. And the idea of me making a page about YOU (as so many others have suggested I do), doesn't interest me in the slightest. You're not worth my time or effort.
    You have already dug yourself into a hole which is just growing deeper.
    I, personally, would rather spend my time chatting and having interesting conversation with REAL people.
    I've said it before, and I'll say it one last time.
    All you've succeeded in doing is show the world what a cry baby you are. You are pompous, arrogant and a complete snob who is also a know-it-all.
    I'm personally perfectly content with REAL, solid, GROUNDED people who I can enjoy stimulating conversation with.

    Finally, thank you Dave and all of you others who are unbiased and are calm and level-headed in your opinions.

  • roadbikeRob

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    Jun 14, 2020 5:19 PM GMT
    Look it, if I send a photo compliment to a particular guy and that person never says thank you or places the compliment under his photo, I am not going to lose sleep over it or go and lecture the guy. I just assume that he is either very busy or not interested in me and I just move on. No big dealicon_exclaim.gif
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    Jun 14, 2020 6:21 PM GMT
    I totally agree with you Rob.
    However, I hate to say this again, but perhaps it bears repeating.
    Good manners and common courtesy cost absolutely nothing.
    I STILL open a door for a lady, I will pull out her chair for her to sit down, I will light her cigarette, and on this site, I have found that there area lot of older gentlemen who don't have that much self-confidence. I know this, because they have told me so. And they get thrilled if I compliment them. And I don't want or expect anything in return.
    So what is the harm if I send them a comment to point out an attribute of theirs which I find appealing?
    EVERYONE is special and EVERYONE has something to offer and EVERYONE deserves some form of respect.
    I don't lose sleep if I'm not acknowledged, but I find that there VERY few individuals on here who honestly think that their shit doesn't stink.
    And I have a real problem with people like that.
    I've had members tell me that they have been rudely insulted for giving someone a compliment, and this just maddens me.
    Nobody, but NOBODY, deserves such treatment.
    I honestly believe that because I was born and raised in England that that is where my manners come from. That, and I hate injustice and the cruelty to another fellow human being.
    My CD is stuck: IT COSTS NOTHING TO BE NICE!!!!!
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    Jun 14, 2020 7:55 PM GMT
    What is the point of his '' compliments '' if he is giving them to half of realjock I have guys looking at my profile and below their pictures I see the same comment he wrote to me icon_lol.gif , literally the same comment, in english and what is the point of these ''compliments'' if not accepting them means he will trash you as much as possible, I cannot even comprehend to enjoy these shallow meaningless words coming from someone like him.


    Compliments are no better than criticism, both put standards on people, a mark.


    I am glad I put this as open discussion, because it also shows how some people are so fake ad I don't get why would I need to get some crap from someone here and suffer in ''silence'' and if I show it on open then it is not acceptable, kinda closeted approach icon_lol.gif
    And about - some peoples shit don't stink - isn't that what this guy thinks of himself? You can write some copy paste nonsense to everyone and everyone should bow to you icon_lol.gif kinda arrogant, no? and if they don't do that - then you have full justification to demoralise and dehumanise them

    And I would be ashamed to have his '' compliments'' under my pictures. I don't need compliments and I certainly don't need to see his inner world, I already had a glimpse through his messages and his profile

    I am surprised that people are more concerned than this is public rather the content of it.
    So basically guy leaves loads of comments to many people here and feeds of their gratitude, and those people just give it to him just because he is giving to them and because it is considered ''polite '' , even if they are identical, whatever works I guess , interesting , but then again, so human nature and ego driven