How do I stop being so picky?

  • MEGATRON

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    Jul 15, 2020 7:10 PM GMT
    I don't go out much, so basically my options for meeting someone are limited. However, I'm very picky and have never been in a serious relationship. I hate to admit that I'm kind of shallow, but looks are important to me. I know I'm no super model, so I really have no right to be, but I am. I don't necessarily care about body types unless the guy is extremely skinny or obese. I just really am attracted to handsome/cute faces. I don't need the guy to be super macho, but I find very feminine guys to be a turn off as well. A lot of the dating apps/sites seem to have very few guys who I personally consider attractive, and when I do find some, we usually never match.

    I don't know if it's just the way my brain is wired or whatever, but I do worry that if I continue to be this picky I'll likely never find anyone. However, I also don't know if it is worth settling.

    Any advice?
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    Jul 15, 2020 9:04 PM GMT
    Preferences are a very difficult thing to change. Maybe just get comfortable with the fact that this is who you are. It's not a bad thing.
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    Jul 15, 2020 9:25 PM GMT
    I wouldn't become a celibate monk just yet. Your profile says you are 29 - a prime dating age. Keep trying. Most relationships started by guys a lot younger than you don't last, anyway.
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    Jul 16, 2020 3:32 PM GMT
    Don’t sell yourself short. You deserve only the best for yourself. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Eventually you’ll find someone, even if it’ll takes 20 or 30 years.
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    Jul 17, 2020 10:13 AM GMT
    All the times I went home with the best looking guy in the room.
    Yet it wasn't the best looking guy in the room, that I settled for.
    No my assassinated ex Russian boyfriend, coverd that base.
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    Jul 19, 2020 9:36 PM GMT
    Take a look in the mirror. Would you date you?
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    Jul 20, 2020 7:03 AM GMT
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Hahaha
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    Jul 20, 2020 11:53 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 21, 2020 12:04 AM GMT
    Cal_ said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Hahaha



    This anorexic, AIDS-Ridden thing called Cal_Amity Pain must be "hahaha-ing" because she is looking in the mirror herself.
    There isn't ONE man alive (of any value, that would give this skinny-assed, deathly thing the time of day, let alone go to bed with her.
    Go do what you do best, you filthy bitch. Namely, go and suck off old men in Zagreb for the crystal meth and medications you need to keep your ugly self alive, you useless snatch.
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    Jul 21, 2020 12:07 AM GMT
    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif


    You are VERY handsome, MEGATRON. This bitch Cal_ can't stand you for that. She hates ANYONE (which basically includes the whole fucking world) who looks better than her. Just look at the cunt! She looks like she just stepped out of a horror movie.
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    Jul 21, 2020 12:08 AM GMT
    MisterSilverFox69 saidDon’t sell yourself short. You deserve only the best for yourself. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Eventually you’ll find someone, even if it’ll takes 20 or 30 years.


    I agree 100% with my fellow Gemini MisterSilverFox69! Don't listen to the jealous bitches on here!
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    Jul 21, 2020 12:15 AM GMT
    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif


    M EGATRON? Man, you are gorgeous - and this stalker Cal_Amity Pain knows it. Hell,even Stevie Wonder could see what a gorgeous face you have. Unlike this "Cal" thing who looks like she just had sex with the Grim Reaper.
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    Jul 21, 2020 1:49 AM GMT
    I don't think he would date himself icon_lol.gif I really don't
  • MEGATRON

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    Jul 21, 2020 12:07 PM GMT
    Cal_ saidI don't think he would date himself icon_lol.gif I really don't


    Well I really don’t (and apparently no one else either) gives a damn what you think, so I’m not even gonna pay you any mind.

    And canadabeef, thanks so much. You’re awesome “hahaha”. ;)
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    Jul 21, 2020 4:51 PM GMT
    MEGATRON said
    Cal_ saidI don't think he would date himself icon_lol.gif I really don't


    Well I really don’t (and apparently no one else either) gives a damn what you think, so I’m not even gonna pay you any mind.

    And canadabeef, thanks so much. You’re awesome “hahaha”. ;)


    Haha
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    Jul 21, 2020 5:33 PM GMT
    You now what they say, big names , small ...
  • MEGATRON

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    Jul 21, 2020 10:12 PM GMT
    Cal_ saidYou now what they say, big names , small ...


    Wow, good one! So original. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 22, 2020 12:50 AM GMT
    MEGATRON said
    Cal_ saidYou now what they say, big names , small ...


    Wow, good one! So original. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Don't bother, MEGATRON - that "thing" doesn't have an original bone in her body. Including in her crotch area.
    Hell, I bet she even rolls her own tampons. Stay smiling and ignore, her, handsome. All she wants is attention.
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    Jul 22, 2020 5:20 AM GMT
    ^ icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 22, 2020 8:24 PM GMT
    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif

    We've heard this all before from you..Your expectations are impossible to achieve..while you set on your duff ..Now sitting at 260. Go back and hit the gym.Stop eating cream puffs and start looking at qualities and attributes within a guy..It seems like youre superficial as fuck.
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    Jul 23, 2020 2:28 PM GMT
    MEGATRON saidI don't go out much, so basically my options for meeting someone are limited. However, I'm very picky and have never been in a serious relationship. I hate to admit that I'm kind of shallow, but looks are important to me. I know I'm no super model, so I really have no right to be, but I am. I don't necessarily care about body types unless the guy is extremely skinny or obese. I just really am attracted to handsome/cute faces. I don't need the guy to be super macho, but I find very feminine guys to be a turn off as well. A lot of the dating apps/sites seem to have very few guys who I personally consider attractive, and when I do find some, we usually never match.

    I don't know if it's just the way my brain is wired or whatever, but I do worry that if I continue to be this picky I'll likely never find anyone. However, I also don't know if it is worth settling.

    Any advice?

    So here is my experience to answer your question. Remember that no matter who you date, time happens. They will not stay physically like they are now, and neither will you. The first thing to get past is the misguided Xian notion that conflates Love and Sex, while treating Lust and sex as evil. That is, according to them sex is dirty and sinful until you have it with that One Special Person and it somehow magically transforms into the Ultimate Expression of Pure Love. For some reason no one questions this lapse of logic and it has ruled and ruined relationships for 2,000 years, by wrecking the male psyche telling us our promiscuity is sinful and we should be ashamed of our penis and feel guilty about our innate sexual drives I say all this because it is important first to separate Lust and Love and realize that both are necessary and that a relationship--especially among males--based on sexual jealousy of "the others" will fail 99% of the time. There's a reason tis model hasn't worked with the hetero world when you look at their marriage/divorce stats. A good fuck does not mean it's a good potential relationship. That's the dopamine high fueling the afterglow that's telling you that. Nor does it or should sex mean anything beyond the act itself. Sex is a purely physical animal act that causes intense pleasure to the body. Now, to specifically address your "looks" question:
    What really changed my life for the better was when I was in college. I had spent my teen years in envy of the notion that guys existed whose job it was to have sex with others and get paid for it, some of it even filmed and released as porn. So, on a dare from a (stricon_cool.gif friend, I tried it out. Of the many things I have done in my life I still regard that experience as the most significant and most rewarding because it changed how I interacted with people and I discovered new things about myself, (one of them being that I found Bear type builds to very a really big turn on an probably favor that more now than my original gym rat types) We all have our types we are attracted to but when doing it for work, you don't get to pick since nearly every time you have no idea what he client looks like before you arrive. So the challenge was to learn to disconnect from the physical appearance and learn to connect with the other person as one male to another, seeking companionship, seeking embrace, sometimes even, seeking to be Loved. When I learned to connect on that level, nothing else mattered and the sex was amazing because I was busy doing my job: to place them first and give them pleasure and intimacy and they, in turn, were that much more into giving back to me as they explored my body, or, if it was conversation over dinner, or on a trip, my mind. In the end, I became very good friends with many of my clients and we are still friends today even though we haven't seen each other in some years. In short, if you are in a dark room in a sex club and the sexual stimulation you are feeling is awesome, why should it change you could suddenly see the person. When you learn to separate physical sexual needs from emotional needs and connect as two males on a level beyond just physical then you will be able to find someone and build a lasting successful relationship because it won't be based solely on looks.
    So, if you are wondering: do I have a relationship? Yes I do. He is the former very fat kid who, in his mid 30's, has lost a lot of the weight and has gotten into the gym to improve his health. He still is thick and has some gut on him, which will probably not ever go fully away, and will wind up with a solid football lineman power lifter build several years down the road if he keeps at it. We connect completely on an emotional and intellectual level and we are very non-monogamous--to the point we really enjoy hearing about each other's exploits (or seeing them if we are at a sex club or resort together). Bt when we are in bed together there is an energy beyond the physical and we enjoy just being playful and cuddling up together. And yes, the sex is incredible even though we are both 90% bottoms, but, the sex isn't the center of our relationship because it's free to be its own thing and so sex doesn't interfere with the relationship (unlike monogamy where sex is a big deal since you can't get it any place else, which is how you wind up with relationships based more on jealousy than anything else when you trip all the facade away). If i was basing speaking to him solely on looks and having a gym rat body like me and being a total top to my thick cocked pig bottom, we would have never happened. But, a chance meeting at a Furry convention sparked what became a full relationship. And it's a place I can safely say I arrived at because of how much escorting in college made me humanize the guys I met on a non-sexual plane and in turn, it improved me as a human on every level even as they were sexually objectifying me and then discovering the human within the body. If you want to have a successful meaningful relationship that will last beyond hot looks and a good fuck, this is where you need to go in you own development as a person.
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    Jul 23, 2020 3:32 PM GMT
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    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif

    We've heard this all before from you..Your expectations are impossible to achieve..while you set on your duff ..Now sitting at 260. Go back and hit the gym.Stop eating cream puffs and start looking at qualities and attributes within a guy..It seems like youre superficial as fuck.


    Talk about "superficial". yet again, the ugly cunt with grotesque butt pics that she sends unwarranted to members, and who comments on her own fucking pictures, and who preaches about love, peace and understanding is a fucking hypocrite in the truest sense of the word.
    She's a mean spirited homely dog and one look at her pictures testify to that fact.
    Look at YOU, Megatron, and then look at her - and you will see why the cunt is so jealous. She's pathetic.
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    Jul 23, 2020 5:41 PM GMT
    canadabeef said
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    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif

    We've heard this all before from you..Your expectations are impossible to achieve..while you set on your duff ..Now sitting at 260. Go back and hit the gym.Stop eating cream puffs and start looking at qualities and attributes within a guy..It seems like youre superficial as fuck.


    Talk about "superficial". yet again, the ugly cunt with grotesque butt pics that she sends unwarranted to members, and who comments on her own fucking pictures, and who preaches about love, peace and understanding is a fucking hypocrite in the truest sense of the word.
    She's a mean spirited homely dog and one look at her pictures testify to that fact.
    Look at YOU, Megatron, and then look at her - and you will see why the cunt is so jealous. She's pathetic.
    Eat dat ass Canadarimner..Tastes like bacon...OinkOink
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    Jul 23, 2020 5:41 PM GMT
    canadabeef said
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    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif

    We've heard this all before from you..Your expectations are impossible to achieve..while you set on your duff ..Now sitting at 260. Go back and hit the gym.Stop eating cream puffs and start looking at qualities and attributes within a guy..It seems like youre superficial as fuck.


    Talk about "superficial". yet again, the ugly cunt with grotesque butt pics that she sends unwarranted to members, and who comments on her own fucking pictures, and who preaches about love, peace and understanding is a fucking hypocrite in the truest sense of the word.
    She's a mean spirited homely dog and one look at her pictures testify to that fact.
    Look at YOU, Megatron, and then look at her - and you will see why the cunt is so jealous. She's pathetic.
    Eat dat ass Canadarimner..Tastes like bacon...OinkOink
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    Jul 23, 2020 5:41 PM GMT
    canadabeef said
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    MEGATRON said
    bon_pan saidTake a look in the mirror. Would you date you?


    Uhhh so I'm not sure if this is supposed to be an insult, but yes, I would. As I said in my original post, I don't really care about muscles and abs. I'm more of a face guy and I've been told and also happen to think I'm quite handsome. icon_smile.gif

    We've heard this all before from you..Your expectations are impossible to achieve..while you set on your duff ..Now sitting at 260. Go back and hit the gym.Stop eating cream puffs and start looking at qualities and attributes within a guy..It seems like youre superficial as fuck.


    Talk about "superficial". yet again, the ugly cunt with grotesque butt pics that she sends unwarranted to members, and who comments on her own fucking pictures, and who preaches about love, peace and understanding is a fucking hypocrite in the truest sense of the word.
    She's a mean spirited homely dog and one look at her pictures testify to that fact.
    Look at YOU, Megatron, and then look at her - and you will see why the cunt is so jealous. She's pathetic.
    Eat dat ass Canadarimner..Tastes like bacon...OinkOink