The dating apps are the worst. I just am not the person for random hookups. I need someone who wants to be in a serious committed relationship.
I agree with you - dating apps are not ideal places, and carry some risks. At the same time, I think you may be making a mistake that many guys do.
If your view of a guy you wanna meet is “a serious committed relationship” then you are programmed for failure. You can’t even know that until you’ve been dating him for a while. First you gotta MEET the guy.
You can’t preselect who you meet or date based on having a serious relationship from Day One. That’s doing things backwards.
You meet him cause he’s cute, or whatever attracts you. Or maybe he comes on to you. You take him out for a spin, drive him around the block. If you don’t like how he handles, you return him to the dealership and sample another.
You’re gonna go through dozens of guys before you find a possible “keeper”. That’s just the cost of doing business. Don’t get hung up on finding your life partner on first contact. Likely ain’t gonna happen.
The good part is that meeting lots of guys can be fun in itself. Sure you ain’t gonna marry them all. But you’re hopefully having a good time for the most part, and learning about other guys.
So that when you come across Mr. Right you’ll be more confident that you correctly recognize him. Perhaps because you’ve run across a few Mr. Wrongs, too.
There’s no substitute for experience. Even bad dates and encounters can be valuable learning experiences. Don’t dwell on them, learn and move on.
But first you have to build experience, by spending time with guys. With gay clubs & bars either closed or limited it’s tough right now. Almost all social venues are limited. You may hafta wait a few months. Not easy at your young age.