Is my anus in okay shape or should I be concerned?

  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 18, 2020 1:36 AM GMT
    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?
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    Aug 18, 2020 8:16 PM GMT
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    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?

    Locate a gay-friendly general practitioner to evaluate you. He may give you a referral to a specialist, such as a proctologist or a gastroenterologist. You could be pre-prolapse. Or just swollen. Does your BF use plenty of lube?
  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 18, 2020 8:32 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    venicebeach95 said
    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?

    Locate a gay-friendly general practitioner to evaluate you. He may give you a referral to a specialist, such as a proctologist or a gastroenterologist. You could be pre-prolapse. Or just swollen. Does your BF use plenty of lube?


    Maybe he's not using enough. He uses my cum as lube when I finish before he does but that's probably not slippery enough.
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    Aug 18, 2020 8:51 PM GMT
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    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?

    Locate a gay-friendly general practitioner to evaluate you. He may give you a referral to a specialist, such as a proctologist or a gastroenterologist. You could be pre-prolapse. Or just swollen. Does your BF use plenty of lube?

    Maybe he's not using enough. He uses my cum as lube when I finish before he does but that's probably not slippery enough.

    If you’re having swelling then there’s likely not enough lube. And perhaps if he’s very thick, and vigorous, you need more time to adapt to him. Use some sex lube made for the purpose, like Wet. And ask him if you can skip a few days until you see a reduction in that protrusion. If the condition returns, or won’t resolve itself and becomes chronic, then see a doctor before a full prolapse or other damage occurs, like fissures.
  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 19, 2020 7:43 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    venicebeach95 said
    Art_Deco said
    venicebeach95 said
    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?

    Locate a gay-friendly general practitioner to evaluate you. He may give you a referral to a specialist, such as a proctologist or a gastroenterologist. You could be pre-prolapse. Or just swollen. Does your BF use plenty of lube?

    Maybe he's not using enough. He uses my cum as lube when I finish before he does but that's probably not slippery enough.

    If you’re having swelling then there’s likely not enough lube. And perhaps if he’s very thick, and vigorous, you need more time to adapt to him. Use some sex lube made for the purpose, like Wet. And ask him if you can skip a few days until you see a reduction in that protrusion. If the condition returns, or won’t resolve itself and becomes chronic, then see a doctor before a full prolapse or other damage occurs, like fissures.


    How can I find a gay-friendly doctor?
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    Aug 19, 2020 8:28 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco said
    venicebeach95 said
    Art_Deco said
    venicebeach95 said
    I'm in my mid-20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Before him, I'd have receptive anal sex mayyyyybe 3-4 times a year if that. Now, it's probably 4 times a week on average. It can hurt when he's pounding me but he isn't ginormous -- probably 6 1/2 inches but wide and girth -- and he doesn't go SUPER hard. That being said, when I look in the mirror afterwards and stretch myself out to see if I'm okay, I can see the tip of my insides near the opening of my ass. It's not a prolapse as it's not actually protruding, but it comes very close. It's been almost 24 hours since the last time he fucked me and I can still see it in the mirror. Even worse, I tried to go to the bathroom a minute ago and it felt like I had to, so I pushed a little, but (TMI) what I thought was waste was just that tip of my insides again trying to come out.

    Do I need to have sex less often? How long will it take for this thing to subside?

    Locate a gay-friendly general practitioner to evaluate you. He may give you a referral to a specialist, such as a proctologist or a gastroenterologist. You could be pre-prolapse. Or just swollen. Does your BF use plenty of lube?

    Maybe he's not using enough. He uses my cum as lube when I finish before he does but that's probably not slippery enough.

    If you’re having swelling then there’s likely not enough lube. And perhaps if he’s very thick, and vigorous, you need more time to adapt to him. Use some sex lube made for the purpose, like Wet. And ask him if you can skip a few days until you see a reduction in that protrusion. If the condition returns, or won’t resolve itself and becomes chronic, then see a doctor before a full prolapse or other damage occurs, like fissures.


    How can I find a gay-friendly doctor?

    Check with your gay friends. Or check the gay rags in your area for advertisements. In North Hollywood you’re gonna have a ton of free gay giveaway pubs. I’m surprised you even ask this question, where you say you live.
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    Aug 19, 2020 9:00 PM GMT
    venicebeach95 asked:
    "How can I find a gay-friendly doctor? "

    You can use the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association's (GLMA) provider directory. Everyone on the list is either LGBT or very LGBT-friendly.

    There are two problems with the list. First, not enough LGBT providers join the GLMA and list themselves on the directory, so you may not find anyone close to you. Second, I think that some providers who have stopped practicing do not have their entries deleted from the database.

    Anyway, with those caveats, give it a shot. You don't have to enter any personal information – just the zip code where you would like to find a provider. You might click on the "Options" button to narrow your search for primary care so you eliminate the listings for mental health providers.

    Here is the link:
    https://glmaimpak.networkats.com/members_online_new/members/dir_provider.asp
  • carew28

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    Aug 20, 2020 3:10 PM GMT
    Another possibility, from the way you've described it, is hemorrhoids. They can be painful and bleed if irritated. Again, you should see a doctor and get checked out. If you have good health-insurance, you ought to make an appointment. If not, maybe there's a public medical clinic you could go to. Most of the doctors and technicians there are welcoming towards gay people.
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    Aug 21, 2020 6:34 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
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    How can I find a gay-friendly doctor?

    Check with your gay friends. Or check the gay rags in your area for advertisements. In North Hollywood you’re gonna have a ton of free gay giveaway pubs. I’m surprised you even ask this question, where you say you live.

    Not surprising to me that it might not be easy to find a gay doctor. I live in San Francisco, where, before the AIDS epidemic, there used to be 100,000 gay men , and there are still a lot - probably 50,000. Both my husband and I had gay doctors that we had seen for many years. Mine retired 2 years ago, and my husband's retired 1 year ago. My gay dermatologist also retired. My doctor spent some time trying to find gay doctors to take on his gay patients. He could only come up with 3 openly gay internists or family practice specialists who would take on new patients. My husband's physician (who was in a larger medical group) was going to refer him a new gay internist in his medical group, but then the new guy decided to move south. We both now see my new gay physician, but it was unsettling to learn that there are so few openly gay physicians who were open to new patients in such a gay city as San Francisco. I guess I'm old school - If I need antihistamines or have a broken arm, I could care less if the treater is gay. But if I want to discuss anything sexual with a physician, I want it to be a gay physician - someone who actually has had experience of gay sex. It is weird that that they are hard to find here. Probably because most doctors want to specialize in something more lucrative than internal medicine or family practice.
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    Aug 21, 2020 8:37 AM GMT
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    It is weird that that they are hard to find here. Probably because most doctors want to specialize in something more lucrative than internal medicine or family practice.

    An excellent and pertinent observation. That doesn’t apply here where we live, but may elsewhere. I forget we’re in Gay Central, South Florida. But that may change in a few years, too.
  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 21, 2020 9:12 PM GMT
    carew28 saidAnother possibility, from the way you've described it, is hemorrhoids. They can be painful and bleed if irritated. Again, you should see a doctor and get checked out. If you have good health-insurance, you ought to make an appointment. If not, maybe there's a public medical clinic you could go to. Most of the doctors and technicians there are welcoming towards gay people.


    I didn't even consider that it could be an internal hemorrhoid, and looking at the symptoms and differences between that and a prolapse, it's most likely a hemorrhoid because (TMI guys, sorry):

    I don't experience any incontinence or complete protrusions, as what happens when you're prolapsing or prolapsed...
    It sort of looks like it's located somewhat near the opening of my ass, not deep inside...
    And it doesn't look like the sort of circular "sock" shape that prolapses usually are.

    How can I address this? I've used Prep H cream which helps with any discomfort after going to the bathroom. My boyfriend is out of town for a week starting Monday, so maybe a week of recovery will prevent me needing to find a gay doctor? Panicking a little bit.
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    Aug 22, 2020 12:57 AM GMT
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    carew28 said.


    How can I address this? I've used Prep H cream which helps with any discomfort after going to the bathroom. My boyfriend is out of town for a week starting Monday, so maybe a week of recovery will prevent me needing to find a gay doctor? Panicking a little bit.


    If you can't find a gay doc, just go see any doctor, rather than relying on what well meaning guys on the internet advise who have not even seen a photo of your condition. If you had a pain in your gut, would you really trust guys on an internet chat room to tell you whether or not you had appendicitis?

    Just go to any urgent care walk-in place - tell them it hurts. Gay or not, every young doctor has seen every common problem in internship and residency.
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    Aug 22, 2020 1:21 AM GMT
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    venicebeach95 said
    carew28 said.

    How can I address this? I've used Prep H cream which helps with any discomfort after going to the bathroom. My boyfriend is out of town for a week starting Monday, so maybe a week of recovery will prevent me needing to find a gay doctor? Panicking a little bit.

    If you can't find a gay doc, just go see any doctor, rather than relying on what well meaning guys on the internet advise who have not even seen a photo of your condition. If you had a pain in your gut, would you really trust guys on an internet chat room to tell you whether or not you had appendicitis?

    Just go to any urgent care walk-in place - tell them it hurts. Gay or not, every young doctor has seen every common problem in internship and residency.

    I agree. I had proposed a gay doctor, so he wouldn’t be inhibited to mention his having anal sex, to explain his history. But gay doctor or not, he should see one soon, based on what he’s saying now. He’s a bit young for hemorrhoids, but that’s for a doctor to determine, not us.
  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 22, 2020 1:25 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    HikerSkier said
    venicebeach95 said
    carew28 said.

    How can I address this? I've used Prep H cream which helps with any discomfort after going to the bathroom. My boyfriend is out of town for a week starting Monday, so maybe a week of recovery will prevent me needing to find a gay doctor? Panicking a little bit.

    If you can't find a gay doc, just go see any doctor, rather than relying on what well meaning guys on the internet advise who have not even seen a photo of your condition. If you had a pain in your gut, would you really trust guys on an internet chat room to tell you whether or not you had appendicitis?

    Just go to any urgent care walk-in place - tell them it hurts. Gay or not, every young doctor has seen every common problem in internship and residency.

    I agree, I had proposed a gay doctor, so he wouldn’t be inhibited to mention his having anal sex, to explain his history. But gay doctor or not, he should see one soon, based on what he’s saying now. He’s bit young for hemorrhoids, but that’s for a doctor to determine, not us.


    I'm really hoping I don't need surgery. I don't want my boyfriend being without intercourse for weeks and weeks while I recover from it. Then again, I'm looking too far ahead. I'm not sure what they do to help with internal hemmorhoids -- which is hopefully what this is -- but I hope there's a non-invasive treatment option.
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    Aug 22, 2020 1:49 AM GMT
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    I'm really hoping I don't need surgery. I don't want my boyfriend being without intercourse for weeks and weeks while I recover from it. Then again, I'm looking too far ahead. I'm not sure what they do to help with internal hemmorhoids -- which is hopefully what this is -- but I hope there's a non-invasive treatment option.

    See a doctor, that’s your first priority. Find out what this is. It could be nothing, treated with a topical cream, I dunno. Let the doctor decide.

    In the meantime, does your BF like sex any other way, besides anal? Maybe BJs to keep him satisfied? I hope he’s understanding, because what if (gawd forbid) you were in the hospital with COVID-19, or some other issue? Or he was himself? What would he do then?

    Right now you’ve got a medical issue, and that takes priority. If he doesn’t accept that then you might wanna reevaluate your relationship. But first things first: see a doctor, find out what you’re dealing with.
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    Aug 25, 2020 12:00 AM GMT
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    I'm really hoping I don't need surgery. I don't want my boyfriend being without intercourse for weeks and weeks while I recover from it. Then again, I'm looking too far ahead. I'm not sure what they do to help with internal hemmorhoids -- which is hopefully what this is -- but I hope there's a non-invasive treatment option.

    See a doctor, that’s your first priority. Find out what this is. It could be nothing, treated with a topical cream, I dunno. Let the doctor decide.

    In the meantime, does your BF like sex any other way, besides anal? Maybe BJs to keep him satisfied? I hope he’s understanding, because what if (gawd forbid) you were in the hospital with COVID-19, or some other issue? Or he was himself? What would he do then?

    Right now you’ve got a medical issue, and that takes priority. If he doesn’t accept that then you might wanna reevaluate your relationship. But first things first: see a doctor, find out what you’re readling with.


    Could I get away with just going to an Urgent Care center for a rectal exam? I don't know if I'd be comfortable saying "yes" if I'm asked if I participate in receptive anal sex, though.
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    Aug 25, 2020 12:15 AM GMT
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    I'm really hoping I don't need surgery. I don't want my boyfriend being without intercourse for weeks and weeks while I recover from it. Then again, I'm looking too far ahead. I'm not sure what they do to help with internal hemmorhoids -- which is hopefully what this is -- but I hope there's a non-invasive treatment option.

    See a doctor, that’s your first priority. Find out what this is. It could be nothing, treated with a topical cream, I dunno. Let the doctor decide.

    In the meantime, does your BF like sex any other way, besides anal? Maybe BJs to keep him satisfied? I hope he’s understanding, because what if (gawd forbid) you were in the hospital with COVID-19, or some other issue? Or he was himself? What would he do then?

    Right now you’ve got a medical issue, and that takes priority. If he doesn’t accept that then you might wanna reevaluate your relationship. But first things first: see a doctor, find out what you’re readling with.


    Could I get away with just going to an Urgent Care center for a rectal exam? I don't know if I'd be comfortable saying "yes" if I'm asked if I participate in receptive anal sex, though.


    If you will be that embarrassed (believe me, doctors have seen and heard everything), yes, just go to an urgent care center, tell the doc it hurts (and it looks unusual ? ? - don't know how you could see it without a mirror). You don't have to tell them a guy was fucking you ( Even straight guys use dildoes). It's already been a week since you asked on here. How long are you going to wait?
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    Aug 25, 2020 4:52 PM GMT
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    It's already been a week since you asked on here. How long are you going to wait?

    I’m wondering that myself. When you pose a question like that to the online community, and receive replies, a follow-up is expected. That’s online courtesy.

    Already seen a doc? Made an appt? (Those can be delayed with the virus) Doing something other than posting? This topic could help guys here for their own future reference. When you ask for help & guidance here, it’s polite to try to return the favor.

    And with this problem unresolved, what’s the BF doing? I thought he was due back home about now. Still banging away, or renewing an intimate relationship with 5 of his closest digits? If he’s back to the same routine as before, how is this affecting the OP’s condition?
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    Aug 26, 2020 12:29 AM GMT
    Interesting subject. Try checking the NIH website (National Institutes of Health at Bethesda) and see if there is any proper medical information about anal conditions rather than just opinions.

    As to lube...avoid ALL silicone based artificial lubes as the chemicals used can cause irritation and may even pass into the body due to the anal lining being very thin.

    My former partner (....who was much younger than me...hehehehe...) and I discovered the joys of lubing up with coconut butter (100% organic) and cocoa butter (again 100% organic)...both are super slippy and completely edible....yummy! Hot sweaty sex with a red hot partner with the aroma of either chocolate or coconut wafting around is both intensely arousing and delicious! Oh...and as are both plant based these natural lubes don't stain bed linen....they wash out in the laundry! Hope you find the answer to your problem...and get back to enjoying some great sex with you boyfriend real soon... Ian:-))

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    Aug 26, 2020 12:30 AM GMT
    Here is the link to the NIH


    https://www.nih.gov/health-information

    Take care and keep safe buddy! :-))
  • venicebeach95

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    Aug 26, 2020 8:05 PM GMT
    Sorry for the delay guys but I finally went. Turns out, absolutely nothing is wrong according to the doctor. She did a digital rectal exam and found nothing wrong at all. I told her there's some irritation sometimes and all she said was to not drink as much caffeine, and when I told her that after the bathroom the "inside" can be visible, she says that's totally normal depending on how much I'm straining.