With both my partners it took about 6 months personal contact, a dating period. Preceded by about a year of online connection. That kinda let us get into each other’s minds, know what we were about.
My first partner tragically died unexpectedly, just a few years after we began living together. I’ve been with my second 13 years now, that we celebrate this month (August).
But there’s no strict time formula. It’s what works for you. Nevertheless, I’d recommend a few months living together before making your decision.
The guy that initially attracts you isn’t always the same guy you find in your bed the next morning, or over a few months of daily living together. He may look different after the sun has come up a few times. Or conversely, how he might feel about you in HIS bed. The passage of time can change the perspective, for better or worse.
It’s usually a process. It may begin as love (or lust) at first sight, but it only lasts as a more profound love develops.
Yet no matter how many times I went through it, with an unhappy conclusion, I never felt I had wasted my time. I remembered the good times we had, and the lessons I had learned.
So that with each guy I was better prepared than before, until it became easier, my skills & confidence improved. I’d rather it had been like some of our friends, who’ve been together for many decades, since they were literally youngsters. But I’ll settle for a happy ending, that I have now.