Midnight sex

  • Fritter

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    Sep 12, 2020 4:43 PM GMT
    My partner is up during the night more often than myself and is often poking me trying to initiate sex. I'm usually too far into sleep mode and barely conscious to get it on at 3 in the morning.
    With me not interested in bedroom games in the middle of the night makes him think I'm just not interested in him which of course I am quite interested. Once morning comes I'm hard as a rock and ready to bang.
    My question is should I make more of an effort to get it on in the middle of the night or should my boyfriend let me sleep until I'm ready to go.
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    Sep 12, 2020 4:57 PM GMT
    Fritter saidMy partner is up during the night more often than myself and is often poking me trying to initiate sex. I'm usually too far into sleep mode and barely conscious to get it on at 3 in the morning.
    With me not interested in bedroom games in the middle of the night makes him think I'm just not interested in him which of course I am quite interested. Once morning comes I'm hard as a rock and ready to bang.
    My question is should I make more of an effort to get it on in the middle of the night or should my boyfriend let me sleep until I'm ready to go.


    I think that your partner should be just a little more understanding, sweetie.
    If you are in sleep mode and are not aware of what is really going on, then he should try to understand this.
    In my opinion, he should let you sleep (because if you're that heavily sleeping, obviously your body needs it).
    I don't know the dynamics of your relationship, but maybe ask him how HE would feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
    It sounds like a minor problem that just needs to be discussed and find a resolution too.
    After all, you wouldn't be together if you didn't already have a trusting connection, right?
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    Sep 13, 2020 12:24 AM GMT
    Be thankful he still wants it.

    2 possibilities:
    1. Have occasional sex late at night, when you go to bed.
    2. Have some late night alcohol, before sleep. Alcohol tends to disrupt sleep, especially after several hours, so may cause you to awaken during the night. Combine this with some noise making by your partner, to make sure you wake up. If not successful (as, if you already drink in the evening) , try drinking MORE alcohol.
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    Sep 13, 2020 12:32 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidBe thankful he still wants it.

    2 possibilities:
    1. Have occasional sex late at night, when you go to bed.
    2. Have some late night alcohol, before sleep. Alcohol tends to disrupt sleep, especially after several hours, so may cause you to awaken during the night. Combine this with some noise making by your partner, to make sure you wake up. If not successful (as, if you already drink in the evening) , try drinking MORE alcohol.


    WTF kind of advice is this? Suggesting alcohol consumption to disrupt one's sleep schedule to be available for sex in the middle of the fucking night? icon_neutral.gif
  • Apparition

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    Nov 28, 2020 10:39 AM GMT
    Start taking earlier naps.
  • JDuderrr

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    Nov 28, 2020 2:19 PM GMT
    Please try to gain some perspective about your partner's needs. I so feel for him. More than once I've had my hand unceremoniously pulled off a guy's dick in the middle of the night, raised up into the air and dropped back onto my own thigh with a disdainful thud. It's very hurtful. At that time of night, it's not really about the hornys; it's more about the subconscious desire to have and to hold, to merge and become one. Like everything else between couples, isn't there some room for compromise? For example, could you allow it when the next day is going to be a day off? Always remember your great fortune to have a loving man and to be able to be with him on a regular basis. Not all of us get that in life.
  • sweetgrizzly7...

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    Nov 28, 2020 7:59 PM GMT
    JDuderrr saidPlease try to gain some perspective about your partner's needs. I so feel for him. More than once I've had my hand unceremoniously pulled off a guy's dick in the middle of the night, raised up into the air and dropped back onto my own thigh with a disdainful thud. It's very hurtful. At that time of night, it's not really about the hornys; it's more about the subconscious desire to have and to hold, to merge and become one. Like everything else between couples, isn't there some room for compromise? For example, could you allow it when the next day is going to be a day off? Always remember your great fortune to have a loving man and to be able to be with him on a regular basis. Not all of us get that in life.

    How beautifully put
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 28, 2020 9:38 PM GMT
    WLLM said
    HikerSkier saidBe thankful he still wants it.

    2 possibilities:
    1. Have occasional sex late at night, when you go to bed.
    2. Have some late night alcohol, before sleep. Alcohol tends to disrupt sleep, especially after several hours, so may cause you to awaken during the night. Combine this with some noise making by your partner, to make sure you wake up. If not successful (as, if you already drink in the evening) , try drinking MORE alcohol.


    WTF kind of advice is this? Suggesting alcohol consumption to disrupt one's sleep schedule to be available for sex in the middle of the fucking night? icon_neutral.gif
    I agree 100%, alcohol is the absolute last thing that anyone needs especially when it comes to sleep schedules. That is horrible adviceicon_exclaim.gif