Dating Multiple guys?

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    Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**
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    You'd have to delete this thread and start over and manually move it to the dating section. If you don't get more than two responses you can delete this thread. Otherwise, it's here to stay and can't be moved unless Jeff the site admin moves it.

    Copy what you typed here and paste it into a new thread and post it into the section you want.
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    ^ says the hypocritical lamer, that posts his whiny political gibberish here in all things gay section constantly icon_lol.gif

    but then again, what else than just some rubbish can be expected from an arrogant sad dummy like yourself
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    jocked_and_loaded saidYou'd have to delete this thread and start over and manually move it to the dating section. If you don't get more than two responses you can delete this thread. Otherwise, it's here to stay and can't be moved unless Jeff the site admin moves it.

    Copy what you typed here and paste it into a new thread and post it into the section you want.


    Crap. it won't let me delete this. But thanks for the info will keep it in mind for the near future.
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    Oct 02, 2020 6:51 PM GMT
    Talon said
    jocked_and_loaded saidYou'd have to delete this thread and start over and manually move it to the dating section. If you don't get more than two responses you can delete this thread. Otherwise, it's here to stay and can't be moved unless Jeff the site admin moves it.

    Copy what you typed here and paste it into a new thread and post it into the section you want.


    Crap. it won't let me delete this. But thanks for the info will keep it in mind for the near future.


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    Don't worry about moving it at this point. Admin will do it for you if deemed appropriate, or on request. You'll get more views here upfront but it will surely get buried here if it doesn't take off. In Dating it may be a prominent headline longer. Good topic for discussion.
  • wild_sky360

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    Oct 02, 2020 7:17 PM GMT
    My dating experience runs similar pattern to yours. Feast or famine. Astrology? More free time? I wish someone could offer an explanation,
    logical or otherwise to why it happens this way.

    At some point, they all need to understand that you are openly dating. Most guys should assume you were from the start. A clarification is in order if you sense a guy is thinking it is exclusive.

    It doesn't have to be a heartbreaking situation, or force a decision on either of you. It could be; but doesn't have to be. Any one of them could be in a similar situation right now, regarding you.. deciding when or if to tell you anything.

    I suspect when someone loses interest, which happens more often than it doesn't; just probability, that it's not because of you, it's meeting someone else. Not that its a game and you do not sound like a player,
    but hasty decisions and being overly candid skew the odds that it will always be you who's the odd man out.
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    Talon saidHey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Don't worry about moving it, it will automatically be moved for you.
    It's good that you are dating multiple men, and it's good the you have a conscience about it.
    Do any of them know about the other ones?
    If not, you should let them all know, otherwise someone is going to be disappointed or very hurt in the long run.
    And that includes YOU personally. You owe it to yourself and everybody involved to be honest about how you feel.
    I hope it all works out for you!
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    Oct 02, 2020 8:06 PM GMT
    wild_sky360 saidMy dating experience runs similar pattern to yours. Feast or famine. Astrology? More free time? I wish someone could offer an explanation,
    logical or otherwise to why it happens this way.

    At some point, they all need to understand that you are openly dating. Most guys should assume you were from the start. A clarification is in order if you sense a guy is thinking it is exclusive.

    It doesn't have to be a heartbreaking situation, or force a decision on either of you. It could be; but doesn't have to be. Any one of them could be in a similar situation right now, regarding you.. deciding when or if to tell you anything.

    I suspect when someone loses interest, which happens more often than it doesn't; just probability, that it's not because of you, it's meeting someone else. Not that its a game and you do not sound like a player,
    but hasty decisions and being overly candid skew the odds that it will always be you who's the odd man out.


    I agree. I think I would still talk to them about it. Saying I found someone, and not just ghost them. And true they might be talking to other guys. Whatever makes them happy I'm totally down for it!
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    Talon saidHey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Don't worry about moving it, it will automatically be moved for you.
    It's good that you are dating multiple men, and it's good the you have a conscience about it.
    Do any of them know about the other ones?
    If not, you should let them all know, otherwise someone is going to be disappointed or very hurt in the long run.
    And that includes YOU personally. You owe it to yourself and everybody involved to be honest about how you feel.
    I hope it all works out for you!
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    I think I will talk to them about it and ask how they feel about me. I Kind of met them all at the same time and it's been only 3 weeks 2 weeks for the military one. However I feel like it's a bit too short to ask them how they feel about me romantically as I really enjoy the dating aspect and getting to know each one of these men as a person. Not sure when I should have the "talk" like if we are seeing each other exclusively and what not.
  • wild_sky360

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    Oct 02, 2020 8:34 PM GMT
    Wait until it is warranted. The conversation can easily go sideways.

    Wow, I like his integrity. But why do I feel bad now?

    Nice humble brag

    He's getting ready to break up with me. I should beat him to it if he says or does the slightest thing I don't like.

    Why is he trying to get a commitment out of me so soon?

    Integrity only factors in if it is clear you'd be stringing him along otherwise. Even that is variable case by case. Experience, naivete, romanticism, recent dating history. Rely on your intuition and good heart not to hurt someone.
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    Talon said
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    Talon saidHey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Don't worry about moving it, it will automatically be moved for you.
    It's good that you are dating multiple men, and it's good the you have a conscience about it.
    Do any of them know about the other ones?
    If not, you should let them all know, otherwise someone is going to be disappointed or very hurt in the long run.
    And that includes YOU personally. You owe it to yourself and everybody involved to be honest about how you feel.
    I hope it all works out for you!
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    I think I will talk to them about it and ask how they feel about me. I Kind of met them all at the same time and it's been only 3 weeks 2 weeks for the military one. However I feel like it's a bit too short to ask them how they feel about me romantically as I really enjoy the dating aspect and getting to know each one of these men as a person. Not sure when I should have the "talk" like if we are seeing each other exclusively and what not.


    That makes sense, Talon.
    Just make sure you don't get hurt - or hurt anyone else - in the processs.
    As long as you're not playing one against the other, you're all good.
    I can't see you doing that though.
    Oh, and I see your post has already been moved for you!

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    Oct 03, 2020 1:53 PM GMT
    Where do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**[/quote]
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    I met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**
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    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**
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    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?

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    Good for you that you have such nice prospects. I think each of them should assume you're not exclusive with them unless you tell them otherwise. And you should assume that each of them are also dating multiple guys unless they tell you otherwise. As for the prospects themselves -- I go for door number 1! And, don't worry, meeting his mother is wonderful but again it doesn't imply commitment unless you and he specify as much. I would "friend zone" guy number 2. Sounds like a great friend to have (scintillating conversation and all that) but the logistics make me doubt your future prospects with him. Number 3? Cool, but number 1 sounds more promising. That's all my uninformed bystander opinion, but you asked! Have fun and stay safe.
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    duluthrunner saidGood for you that you have such nice prospects. I think each of them should assume you're not exclusive with them unless you tell them otherwise. And you should assume that each of them are also dating multiple guys unless they tell you otherwise. As for the prospects themselves -- I go for door number 1! And, don't worry, meeting his mother is wonderful but again it doesn't imply commitment unless you and he specify as much. I would "friend zone" guy number 2. Sounds like a great friend to have (scintillating conversation and all that) but the logistics make me doubt your future prospects with him. Number 3? Cool, but number 1 sounds more promising. That's all my uninformed bystander opinion, but you asked! Have fun and stay safe.


    Thank you so much! I should assume they are seeing other guys. And if they are I'm totally okay with it since I'm doing the same thing. Guy number 1 is great, but we'll see who sticks around ^-^ I like each of them equally and not sure how they feel about me yet. So I guess the first guy to make the first move on being something more is the one I will consider.
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    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?

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    Hi Brian, thanks for your interest. So far all is great. Going on dates is fun, just wish it wasn't during this whole global pandemic thing icon_lol.gif
    There is potentially a guy 4 from Germany of all places. He's super sweet. But we just started talking. I'm still waiting on letting them know that I'm dating other people. I'm having a bit of an internal conflict since I want to be honest but I don't want to turn them off. It's only been about a month now? not sure if that's long enough to have the "I'm seeing other people" talk. icon_neutral.gif
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    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?



    Hi Brian, thanks for your interest. So far all is great. Going on dates is fun, just wish it wasn't during this whole global pandemic thing icon_lol.gif
    There is potentially a guy 4 from Germany of all places. He's super sweet. But we just started talking. I'm still waiting on letting them know that I'm dating other people. I'm having a bit of an internal conflict since I want to be honest but I don't want to turn them off. It's only been about a month now? not sure if that's long enough to have the "I'm seeing other people" talk. icon_neutral.gif[/quote]

    You're on to 4 now???? Dude, you're gonna get confused sometime soon!
    I still warn you about hurting others and/or getting yourself hurt in the process.
    It's one thing to play the field if you're single, but bloody hell, my friend, you own the whole baseball diamond!!! LOL!
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    Talon saidicon_lol.gif
    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?



    Hi Brian, thanks for your interest. So far all is great. Going on dates is fun, just wish it wasn't during this whole global pandemic thing icon_lol.gif
    There is potentially a guy 4 from Germany of all places. He's super sweet. But we just started talking. I'm still waiting on letting them know that I'm dating other people. I'm having a bit of an internal conflict since I want to be honest but I don't want to turn them off. It's only been about a month now? not sure if that's long enough to have the "I'm seeing other people" talk. icon_neutral.gif


    You're on to 4 now???? Dude, you're gonna get confused sometime soon!
    I still warn you about hurting others and/or getting yourself hurt in the process.
    It's one thing to play the field if you're single, but bloody hell, my friend, you own the whole baseball diamond!!! LOL!
    [/quote]

    Yea I should probably tell them icon_neutral.gif
    I'll tell them on our next dates and I think it will be better in person then over text.
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    Congratulations Talon! You’re a stud!
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    Talon said
    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidicon_lol.gif
    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?



    Hi Brian, thanks for your interest. So far all is great. Going on dates is fun, just wish it wasn't during this whole global pandemic thing icon_lol.gif
    There is potentially a guy 4 from Germany of all places. He's super sweet. But we just started talking. I'm still waiting on letting them know that I'm dating other people. I'm having a bit of an internal conflict since I want to be honest but I don't want to turn them off. It's only been about a month now? not sure if that's long enough to have the "I'm seeing other people" talk. icon_neutral.gif


    You're on to 4 now???? Dude, you're gonna get confused sometime soon!
    I still warn you about hurting others and/or getting yourself hurt in the process.
    It's one thing to play the field if you're single, but bloody hell, my friend, you own the whole baseball diamond!!! LOL!


    Yea I should probably tell them icon_neutral.gif
    I'll tell them on our next dates and I think it will be better in person then over text. [/quote]

    It might be before your time, Talon, but I'm going to start calling you "Blanche Deveraux!" LOL! Look it up! HA! HA! (not that you're a woman!)
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    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon said
    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidicon_lol.gif
    Brian_RoXXX said
    Talon saidI met them through tinder

    Element1313 saidWhere do you meet guys?
    I like to meet one, lol

    quote][cite]Talon said[/cite]Hey guys so regarding the topic, in the past I've always just dated one guy at a time. However, after several failed attempts in the past my friends suggested to date multiple men at the same time and not to put all your eggs in one basket. I tried this attempt and it seems that I'm having quite a bit of success with this method, however it's starting to bother me that I'm starting to emotionally get intertwined with 3 guys and not sure how to go about dealing with it.

    Guy 1: He asked if I wanted to meet his mother and have dinner with them. I feel like If I meet his mother then it seem like we're almost official that we're more then just dating? I don't know. He's a super sweet guy and I honestly can see myself with him longterm. He is local which is a plus and has his life priorities in tact.

    Guy 2: An international student from the Czech Republic. He's very intelligent and I've never had such engaging conversations with a guy like that before. He's for sure boyfriend material and I can also see myself with him as we share a lot of values and view points, however come from completely different worlds, I guess in a way makes it in a way where we are so eager to know more about each other. He still is unsure if he wants a life here in the states or if he wants to move back to Europe after his studies.

    Guy 3: In the Military. He is very old fashioned when it comes to dating and he's very sweet. I view myself as very old fashioned when it comes to romance, so I feel like he really understands my love languages. Not to mention he is quite physically attractive. Down side is he is about 45 minutes away from where I live. But distance isn't an issue for either of us since we've made attempts to see each other on multiple occasions.

    Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    Hi Talon!
    Any new updates since you first posted this?
    I've ben dying to know what has transpired!
    Did you do as I suggested and let each of them know about the other ones?



    Hi Brian, thanks for your interest. So far all is great. Going on dates is fun, just wish it wasn't during this whole global pandemic thing icon_lol.gif
    There is potentially a guy 4 from Germany of all places. He's super sweet. But we just started talking. I'm still waiting on letting them know that I'm dating other people. I'm having a bit of an internal conflict since I want to be honest but I don't want to turn them off. It's only been about a month now? not sure if that's long enough to have the "I'm seeing other people" talk. icon_neutral.gif


    You're on to 4 now???? Dude, you're gonna get confused sometime soon!
    I still warn you about hurting others and/or getting yourself hurt in the process.
    It's one thing to play the field if you're single, but bloody hell, my friend, you own the whole baseball diamond!!! LOL!


    Yea I should probably tell them icon_neutral.gif
    I'll tell them on our next dates and I think it will be better in person then over text.


    It might be before your time, Talon, but I'm going to start calling you "Blanche Deveraux!" LOL! Look it up! HA! HA! (not that you're a woman!)[/quote]

    Is that from golden girls? I take it as a compliment haha.
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    USBeef saidCongratulations Talon! You’re a stud!
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    Thank you!
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    **Edit- I just realized I posted this in the wrong catagory. My apologies. Is there a way I can switch it to the dating and relationships catagory?**


    1. Copy to repost elsewhere
    2. delete this post